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Someone somewhere has it in for me I am sure

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coff33pot · 30/06/2012 12:36

Just opened a letter (oh yeah its the saturday dwell on the doom till Monday post again!)

Here we go again. Letter posted Thurs to tell me a SW is coming on MONDAY to discuss a referral received to their department (referral and assessment dept)

I have been happy DS has been the happiest he has been and all is going wonderful with the transition set up from home to Juniors. Great courses, great insight and we have felt we are seeing the light.

And now some bugger has gone and done this. He is not a child in need we are a family in need who needs to be left the hell alone!

The time limit on visiting means it must be important for them to want to come so quick. Paranoia is setting in plus anger.

First old school trying to contact camhs and failing now this.

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StarlightWithAsteroid · 02/07/2012 11:42

Coff, if you're worried is there anyone that can sit in?

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coff33pot · 02/07/2012 12:18

As far as RL friends go they are non existent. My own fault for not getting close to people and I had dd to bring up and older family to care for over the years so that was more important. The couple I did have disapeared when DS was born as I was unable to go out then.

To be honest I never was a coffee gathering lets talk nappies body anyway I would rather go fishing than talk to people Grin

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Lolaismyfavouriteandmybest · 02/07/2012 12:32

Hi Coff.

I've no useful experience or insights I'm afraid but I just wanted to wish you and your DS luck for this afternoon. Will have my fingers and toes crossed that it's not too stressful for either of you.

starfish71 · 02/07/2012 13:03

Honk! Honk! Honk! Good luck for later, all will be ok x

EllenJaneisnotmyname · 02/07/2012 13:52

Honking like mad here, too. It's DS2's annual review this afternoon, butbi'll be back later. Xx

StarlightWithAsteroid · 02/07/2012 13:59

Well then a honk for you too Ellen!

Desperatelyseekingsupport · 02/07/2012 14:02

Honk for coff and ellenjane funnily enough i have AR meeting this pm too - must be the day for difficult meetings Grin

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coff33pot · 02/07/2012 14:39

Thank you :) HONK HONK for Ellen & Desperately go get them girls! :)

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zzzzz · 02/07/2012 16:29

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HolyCalamityJane · 02/07/2012 16:35

How did it go?????

lisad123 · 02/07/2012 16:40

Hope it went ok x

moosemama · 02/07/2012 16:45

Coff33, saw this thread yesterday but wasn't up to posting.

Have been thinking about you all day.

Hoping it went ok. x

HONK ((hugs)) Brew Wine ((more hugs)) HONK

UnChartered · 02/07/2012 17:39

honking like mad for a positive post from coff

< that's the closest i can get to a [fingers crossed emoticon]

Badvoc · 02/07/2012 17:42

Been thinking of you coff x

Desperatelyseekingsupport · 02/07/2012 18:12

Coff how'd it go?
My AR went o.k until the end when it all got a bit tricky and awkward for the caseworker.

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coff33pot · 02/07/2012 18:56

Hi all. Yes it went ok thanks to all your Honking I think! SW left after 22 mins!

Still wouldnt tell me who referred me so I have a feeling its my nosy neighbours from hell. Anyhow the SW did say they checked records and it is recorded that i am EHE. Asked some details of reasons and I had the chance to record how crap DS infant school was. (could well help future parents who go there and get the same treatment you never know)

The SW was actually lovely and dumbfounded by the time I had finished on how DS was treated and reeled off a few names he could contact to confirm this. DS took to him and had an indepth mining discussion about the SW ancestors Grin I have a feeling that was a tester to check that DS was into mining because I mentioned he hasnt been back since they stopped him going on a mining trip.

Told him how well Juniors transition was going and how great they have been.

Obviously there was the "do you have your own room?" questions for DS Hmm but instead of the SW asking to see it DS offered that might the SW like to see it and dragged him up there himself LOL!

Ended up leaving saying what a lovely socialable little boy bless him and isnt it so good when you find a school that really wants to help. So I dont think there is much to worry about :)

DS on the other hand lost his self control and broke down after he left because he thought the infant school had sent him to take him back to infant school :(

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Desperatelyseekingsupport · 02/07/2012 19:02

That's great Coff- not about ds obviously but hope he feels better now.Probably was just an interfering busybody neighbour after all then. Well done for pointing out how crap the school were as this will no doubt get said to a few people Wink

EllenJaneisnotmyname · 02/07/2012 19:13

Oh, so glad it went well. Though TBH, I had little doubt it would. Your care and compassion shine through your posts, coff33. The SW would have to be very poor at their job not to spot that!

Well, DS's annual review went really well. His main TA obviously likes him and we all agreed that he was doing so well only because of the support Wink so they definitely don't need to reduce it! They are giving him 6 hours over his 20 hour statement, mainly due to having enough staff ATM, which may go as it's purely voluntary on their side, I didn't even ask for it. Can you believe it, giving more than they are required to!

All the honking must be working. Grin

Desperatelyseekingsupport · 02/07/2012 19:20

Well at our AR it was decided more hours would be needed due to ds being on a part-time timetable for 7 months now. School said that they would not have him back full time without the extra hours so we now have to wait for council to approve these. When we asked what happens if they were not agreed we were told it was parental responsibility to look after him if not in school Hmm and we would have to go down the appropriate channel i.e tribunal. Will wait to see what happens then take legal advice if the hours are not increased to full time.

EllenJaneisnotmyname · 02/07/2012 19:26

WTF? I think that sounds like bollocks, desperately. If the school are refusing to have him on the premises without 1:1 then it's up to the LA to sort it. It's not that you are refusing to send him. I hope you have this in writing! If not, send an email to everyone who attended, 'clarifying' what has been said. Angry All good tribunal info.

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coff33pot · 02/07/2012 19:41

Wow Ellen I am glad you had a good Monday meeting! Extra? you dont very often get offered extra Shock That is good news!

Desparately.....they are playing you. Ring the council every 3 days or so asking if the statement hours are going up or when are they arranging a tutor to be sent home for your ds. Just keep telling them the school are not acting lawfully as it is a regular illegal exclusion that you are not in agreement with. If the LA wont give the hours then tell them straight they obviously agree with illegal exclusion if they are not going to force the school to take your son every day for the correct amount of schooling he is entitled to.

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EllenJaneisnotmyname · 02/07/2012 20:57

And Coff33 should know...

WetAugust · 02/07/2012 23:07

Nice work Coffpot! Loved the mining discussion - can just picture that Grin

What's an EHE?

EllenJaneisnotmyname · 02/07/2012 23:11

Elective Home Education?