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[Desperatelyseekingsupport]

Hi all. Thank goodness for the weekend . I am exhausted as have hardly slept all week because of all the school stress. Also had a meeting with EP and CP today as part of the dx process - looks like it's going to be PDA. Have done loads of research and was kind of expecting it but still......
The good news is that the CP and EP are quite clued up on it which will be good when we come to review the sm shortly. Not sure what lies ahead for secondary though. Need a few tonight I think.
Hope the weeks not been too bad for you all,although I know from the threads there's a lot of stress out there

Hi desperately. PDA not the ideal outcome, I guess, but better you know what you're dealing with.

Funny old week here. My school were Ofsteded. Phone call Monday morning, inspection Wed and Thurs. it appears to have gone well but new goalposts will probably mean a drop from outstanding to good.

My stbexdick has just exchanged on a new house, bloody enormous 4 bed detached with the OW, who has sold her divorce settlement place. I'm feeling a bit weird about it, sort of jealous and a bit sick. Don't know why I should care as my house will be all mine soon with a small mortgage but it's half the size of this new place.

I'm letting exdick go to the parents' evenings this time around. I'm not in a good enough place to go together quite yet, maybe one day. I'm going to do the AR, though, which is obviously more important.

Boys with the dick this weekend, so I'm out at a friend's soon for copious quantities of wine. Still keeping the weight off, 3 stone due to stress so far. I'm nearly officially not overweight! Every cloud, eh?

Hope everyone else has a good one, despite the shite weather. X

desperately hope you can get some sleep this weekend!!

ellenjane just remember, bigger house means more to clean, more to pay to heat it in winter.. And let's be realistic here - would you want a big ass house if part of the deal was that it came with your "stbexdick" ?? .. I suspect with a smaller house and no "stbexdick" you come out with the better deal than the OW does.

Enjoy your wine and weekend! Congrats on the weight loss!

It's actually been a moderate week here. DS2 is struggling quite a bit, but at least DH has stepped up to the plate this week more and is starting to actually be more supportive of me for a change (rather than just the other way around!). It has decreased the stress a bit.

I'm doing an all-out "take care of me" over the next two weeks. Getting hair coloured (friend helping), nails done (first time, quite interested to see how it goes), possibly hair cut if I can get the time, have a new dress, just going shopping with friend next week to get small cardigan to go with it - and then going out with friends for her birthday next weekend for a drinking night out! I'm looking forward to it! Plus, I need the boost mentally that this will give me as well.

zzzzzz we like you x

Another crap week - thanks everyone for hugs last Friday - went to see my poor Dad in hospital - very poorly boy now, its awful to know each time I see him it could be the last. All horrible. Still doing AR but thinking of stalling as not sure I can cope with all that at the moment as know we'll end up at Tribunal.
Counting the hour down as have to collect eldest from school bus before I can pour out a bucket of wine and shut down for a while. Thanks to everyone here for always being so supportive - it means a lot. xx

I am just glad I do not have to go to ILs this weekend after last weekend's FILs birthday tea/french farce of a disaster!. I knew it was going to be bad but that was beyond the pale honestly. One huge bloody awful tasting birthday cake, a teeny weeny quiche, the thinnest ham (1 slice) sandwiches this side of Christendom, one tiny bowl of crisps and a tiny salad with no accompanying salad dressing does not a tea make - for six people!. They are mean by name and mean by nature.

Have a great weekend one and all.

evening all

what a week on MN and chez UnC

we've decided DD will not be returning to her school in sept, so will be spending next week visiting new places - i don't think that's quite the plan DH made when he booked his week's holiday

Thanks Triggles. She's welcome to him and his inadequate sex!

Zzzzz, that was a bit of a strange thread. Don't worry, we still all love you. Mwah.

Nev, sorry things are still so tough. I lost my dad a few years ago and I was so thankful I had my kids to keep my going. (((hugs)))

Attila, sounds like a delightful birthday party! My mum used to make 'salad' with no dressing, limp lettuce, cucumber sliced so thinly it was see-through and maybe a spring onion if you were lucky. Perhaps some malt vinegar if you were feeling adventurous. Yuk.

Ooh, unchartered, have I missed your thread?

the SENCO has struck again Ellen apparently there are 'more severely autistic children in school than DD and they are fine' and she hasn't started using the long-awaited social story from SALT re toilets as the system of CT and TA reminding DD 6 times a day is working fine , never mind the fact she hadn't updated DDs IEP in the 6 weeks since the review as 'teachers are far too busy doing end of year reports to read it'

i've had enough of her, she won't work with us at all and is undermining us as parents at every opportunity

honk honk honk
Attila thanks for giving me a Was the ham not naice?

Hi All

Sorry everyone seems to be having a tough stressful time and hope things improve soon.

Nev sending hugs.
Triggles good for you pampering yourself.
Elen Your own house will definitely be great.
Desperate Hope you get more sleep soon.
zzzz sending hugs.
unchartered sounds like a good decision to move schools.

Unlike everyone else, we've had a great week. DCs had their reports which were fab. In spite of DS having been so upset after their whole school move, they recognised how difficult it had been for him and he got a consistently good for his behaviour. We also had his parent/teacher meeting which was also fab. Both DCs are getting the same great teachers next session.

DH and I celebrated our 14th anniversary and went out for a posh burger which suited us both.

DH also got told he's been entered for 2 awards at work and the team he works with are entered for another one.

Only 2-and-a-half more days of school left . I'm looking forward to getting away from the morning rush.

Sorry Attila missed your post. Hope you have a better weekend this week.

Evening all, dropping in now as feeling like I might crash early tonight.

Sorry for those of you who have bad weeks and tonnes of stress and zzzzz we luff you and that's all that matters.

Still doing the merry dance with school, outreach and the LEA re statement here. Ds1 is sinking fast, trying to hold himself together at school and failing, with the prospect of transition looming - yet refusing to discuss it with his outreach teacher, who was totally unaware until I emailed her. We have a phonecall scheduled for next week, but I have a feeling it's because she wants to tell me they are stopping his 1:1 sessions, as per their policy once a statement is in place and which of course I am fighting to keep via tribunal. Great timing as usual, ds will implode if we/they tell him that at this point.

Feel a bit bunny in the headlights about it all really, as once they've removed it they will of course try to prove that he's doing fine without it and we will have a helluva fight to get it reinstated, but we have no options left, as we have to get them to finalise so we can appeal. Not that they have of course. Deathly silence from LEA since we delivered the letter telling them to finalise. Two weeks overdue by their own dealine now as well.

I am rapidly gaining weight, but too scared to weigh myself. Totally stress related self-inflicted chocolate based weight gain as well - so no excuse.

Other than that, I have some lovely new MS symptoms to tell my neuro all about at my next review. These are pretty definitively MS as well, although imo, don't constitute a major episode, so have no idea what that means wrt treatment plans and referral to MS unit etc.

Oh and dh has been referred to the hospital regarding his dodgy looking moles. Appointment came through in a week, which is tad worrying, so we have that on Thursday and ds1's late notification Learning Support Review on Friday. Fun week to look forward to huh?

BUT, despite it all I am in fairly good spirits this evening. Planning a picnic on Sunday with friends by way of a belated birthday celebration for me and looking forward to getting even fatter on totally self-indulgent foods. (Am thinking home-made jam and cream scones and a huuuuge Eton Mess, along with fresh baked baguettes, nice cheeses, fat grapes and a nice bottle of red - y'know real diet food! )

Ellen snap. Also with ExH in stonking big house. But occupied via interest only mortgage which he'll never be able to repay while I'm in my own little house mortgage free

DS's birthday yesterday. Has girlfriend. Is doing well on Masters course. Is finally happy.

Only 6 months until retirement/redundancy. Can't wait.

Moose sorry things are still not so great, but glad you're in such good spirits.
Wet Well done to your DS and Happy Birthday to him for yesterday.

I'm off out on a girl's night out with my sister and a good friend now.

Have a great weekend everyone.

Happy birthday for yesterday Wet's ds!

Lovely to hear some happy news. I am such a harbinger of doom, I brought the whole bloomin' thread down. Sorry!

Ooooh, my first friday night thread

For those of you who had a bad week, here's some and hope your weekends are better :) (can you tell I like the emoticons lol)

Been a bit of an up and down week here, on the one hand DS has not had a good week at school the little terror but on the other this weeks appointment with the peadiatrcian went ok and she has agreed to refer DS to the ??? (can't tremember the actual name so insert here ) to be assesed for Autism based on the strength of the schools and other prof's involved with DS concerns, although she doesn't seem to think this is his problem, kept pointing out about his eye contact etc but at least it's a step in the right direction after so long.

Another 20 mins til DS goes to bed then for a glass of something and a wind down me thinks :)

Sorry zzzzz I am being slow this evening, what is the snowball thing.

Am very impressed you are planning a camping trip in this weather - do you know something we don't about where it's going to be dry, or are you a hardcore camper?

Pouring lots of for you, Desperately.

I'll be hitting the cider, myself, later. Got a bottle of Dabinett Apple cider lurking in the kitchen, somewhere.

Been the usual week of bouncing along on the bottom for us. DS1 has been sitting tests at school, all week. Well, not on Monday because he refused to do it and then refused to do choir practice and then blew up when he wasn't selected for last night's performance

By the power of bribery, he's finally done them all, though and done pretty well. Yawned all through the extension maths test, this morning and didn't make much effort, but at least he's got through the week a lot more calmly than Monday, barring drama over where to sit for lunch on Wednesday and because I am not sufficiently god-like to stop the rain, yesterday. Oh, and the odd death threat because I told him to wash his hands after using the loo, or whatever, but all pretty routine, really

Hello. anyone. :D
Had a hell of a couple off weeks and couldn't keep myself away from here any longer. Dd finally has a ASD diagnosis after a year of fighting professionals who all said "HI=ASD type behaviours, so not ASD" well sticky out tongue to all of them, who are all "we knew there was something else" yeah course you did, idiots.
Anyways, Stressy day at work too. And if you saw my post, I have a huge proposed statement to trail through with a fine toothed comb this weekend. Joy of joys.
I need !!!!
How is everyone else this fine Friday night?

Cross-posted MyAngel.

I am guilty of ridiculous emoticon overuse, but I am shameless about it.

Sounds like you have had a mixed week.

I think a lot of our dcs start finding school stressful at this time of year, what with sports days, end of year activities and now blooming Olympic celebrations as well. I know my ds is struggling a lot a the moment.

That's bollocks, UnChartered and she knows it.

DS2 is more severely autistic than DS1 (on paper) but DS1 is the one really struggling with school.