Yes i hadnt seen it that way, i was thinking along the lines of how would they know he doesnt like mash, unless he had been given mash! I hadnt seen it from the other perspective.
Star is right everything, about everything to do with ds is so damn complicated and needs to be explained in great detail for people to get the gist of and this is how a Tribunal would see it too.
I wrote to school reminding them of the plan, the plan had been in place for 2 weeks and already ds was getting stressed by it, where they were just doing their own thing. He now doesnt have the plan at all and hasnt eaten anything at all in school since Easter last year.
I wrote to school after the plan had been in place for 2 weeks, as ds was getting very distressed by it all.
I wrote Ds was feeing very anxious and told me that he had to eat mash, he said he didnt choose it and didnt want to eat it and that he became upset and was crying, but was told he had to lick it. He feels that if he doesnt he will be reprimanded.
I appreciate that ds does get confused easily and that he may not have been given mash to eat at all, as he can get confused with the names of foods. Could you confirm what was choose for him.
I said whether his version of events was entirely accurate or not was not important, but i was concerned that ds feels he has no say in the strategy and he feels there is no exit strategy if he did not like the food or didnt want to eat it.
He immediately restricted his diet at home and refused to eat at all.
I told them ds was clearly confused by the situation and he feels he will be punished for not agreeing to eat. I asked could they reassure him this was not the case.
He was also confused and was expecting to eat cake everyday. He needs clear expectations and needs to know what will happen next to avoid him becoming anxious. I aksed could they involve him more and explain to him what is going on.
I also told them given the injuries he had already caused himself that term could we try to keep anxieties to a minimum.
Its written on school file that the same day, SENCO asked ds were you told you would get a detention and did you tell your mum x,y,z. Ds said no.
SENCO came storming over to me in the playground that day too and told me not to write to school and what was i accusing them off etc, etc. Although she could not tell me what he did eat on the day in question.
I tried explaining again that ds feels he has to eat and he thinks this is what would happen. He was finding it confusing and that i was requesting school reassure ds, explain things to him and involve him in it.
But they just dont 'get it' they dont understand why he gets anxious, they think they can charge in and cure him in 2 weeks and it will have no affect on him.
Perhaps im better off just leaving it out, but im betting school will say that ds doesnt eat in school because he doesnt have the eating plan in place.
My head is hurting just thinking about it!