An elderly Spanish women gave me a proverb you should all know!

[StarlightMcKenzie]

On the way to Ds' school she tripped in front of me and as I stepped forward to help she told me 'If you trip but don't fall, you gain a step!'

The caring carrots are the supposed interventionists who patronise you with their concern and 'occupying' strategies whilst 'helping' you with your grief and denial with a badly photocopied print out of the Holland Story!

Ah. Thanks for explaining.

Actually, we should all feel bloody sorry for the Dutch because they are actually living the Holland story every day. No wonder they look so fed up.

You realise that everyone else has all gone to bed again leaving just you and me on here.

You will have to keep having children every 9 months just to keep me company.

Were we rude to the DailyMailSpy? I thought we may have been but still couldn't bring myself to provide a link.

I dunno. I couldn't bring myself to look it up either.

I've seen DMS about and he/she looks fairly robust though. I kinda thought she must be an oldie with a name change!

If not DMS, I hope you can forgive!

I met an old Italian woman today who told me

'If you trip but don't fall, thank God you don't live in Holland'.

Off to bed

Confusious say..............he who drink with spoon in cup get poke in eye.

Nite nite

That one was for the caring carrots :)

No you weren't rude, I was away googling the holland story, I got halfway through and closed the link is this story seriously given to parents dealing with a new dx?

I'm an oldie :o just felt like a little change.

Lol coff!

Yes DMF, holland gets handed out a lot!

There's a song?

In times of need I've always found that a shrug and
" ahh feck it"
Works well too

Please tell me it is heavy metal at least!

You lot had me googling the Holland story only to realise I first came across it around 6 years ago when dd was dx with dyslexia. If only that had been the only dx she would have....

I loved DMS's "Worry does not empty tomorrow of its troubles; it empties today of its strength". I should frame it and send it to mil

whenever I'm in a meeting with any sort of 'professional' I mentally sing 'shut your fucking mouth uncle fucker' from Southpark. That's by-the-by but I find it quite a useful displacement activity.

I last used it on Monday when the HV was trying to convince me that my life must be horrendous since I have gasp four children (dadadaaa) and double gasp one of them has autism (OMG) & wait for it .... I'm still breastfeeding my baby ... clearly I must be mentally ill I just don't know it.

shut your fucking mouth uncle fucker* ... la la la laaaaa

(* it gets ruder!)

Lol!

sabelhp - I so needed to share that song last week with the helpful PALs person who told me ds' problems would take longer to solve because I was seeing the glass as half empty.

DS loves this quote from Mary Williamson

"As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others"

Do listen to the whole spoken quote on the link above, then raise your chin & set your shoulders back as you open the door to a meeting full of caring carrots

Sweet baby jesus... There's a song ?
I hate that poem .. Hate it hate it hate it .

m.soundcloud.com/williamlivingstonjr/welcome-to-holland

It's worth a listen actually. Shit words but okay tune. It made me laugh.

I quite like Churchill's 'if you're going through hell, keep going'.

Not sure why as it doesn't hugely help.

Partly posting to thank sabelhp for the uncle fucker idea, I love it. I suspect it's one of the most useful practical ideas I've heard for dealing with local professionals.

Thanks for cheering me up.

Aaaahhhh NO! Not the Welcome to Holland story! I had expunged it from my mind, now it has come back to me in all its hideous schmaltzy glory!
Vomit!
Double vomit, my mother gave me a copy of it when DD was DX!
It is on a par with the fact that parents of children with "special needs" (I rather like the phrase "additional needs myself, as the use of the word "special" has been corrupted and is now used as a term of abuse, but that's another thread altogether...) are "specially chosen" and are "angels" I can assure you, I am very far from angelic!

Tbh, I'm less of an angel than I was before I had a child with SN.

I have seen real evil and I am tainted.

Count me in as retching whenever I see the Holland story alluded to. Besides, when DS1 is off on one, I feel more like I've been dumped in some war torn enclave ruled by a despot.

As for specially chosen, despite being an atheist, I sincerely hope that if I did have a previous life, after all, whatever I did in it was bloody good fun.