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Do you/would you ask Visitors.................

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anniebear · 20/02/2006 15:40

to put their bag in a safe place?

I know that sounds silly, but my Sister called the other day and left her bag on the floor. I knew she would have a lighter in it. I asked her (didn't mind as it was my Sister)

She didnt have a lighter and pills also and moved it out of place straight away.

why I asked is because Ellie tends to go through peoples bags

Obviously I stop her and tell her off but sometimes she may have gone into the hall and I don't see her do it.

My Mum leaves her bag on the floor and I know she has medication in it.

I don't mind telling Family but would you tell other people who came to the house who you are not as close to?

Bit of a daft question I suppose

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goldstarlover · 20/02/2006 15:41

i don't have SN kids but as a visitor i wouldn't mind being asked to keep my bag out of reach

Twiglett · 20/02/2006 15:42

I would without a doubt .. and wouldn't object to being asked (but then I don't carry a bag just pockets laden with crap)

WideWebWitch · 20/02/2006 15:42

I'd just pick it up and move it although this has just never occurred to me!

Clayhead · 20/02/2006 15:42

Sounds perfectly reasonable to me!

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anniebear · 20/02/2006 15:42

or maybe you have to ask people about other things? or if you go to their houses?

I just feel a bit cheeky, especially in their houses

can you really go to somebodys house and tell them if they have anything in their bag, to put it out of reach?????

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doormat · 20/02/2006 15:43

I dont but yes I would

macwoozy · 20/02/2006 15:44

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest, totally acceptable I think.

madmarchhare · 20/02/2006 15:45

I just pick it up and put it out of reach saying something like 'I'll just put your bag here or DS will be rifling through it in a minute'.

buzylizy · 20/02/2006 15:49

Yes
When my nephew was a toddler(he's nt)He got in to someones bag and took valium! My dd always heads straight for the bag and wants the person to show her everything in it. I think on reading this I might suggest people leave them in the kitchen. I wouldn't object if someone asked me. I would rather that than achild gets hurt or into trouble.

emmalou78 · 20/02/2006 15:51

Sounds fine to me! and yes I'd do it in other peoples houses as well, I drive my family mad, and amuse my inlaws with my indscreet moving of things..

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anniebear · 20/02/2006 16:28

yes, think I will put peoples bags in the kitchen form now on

But what about in other peoples houses?!

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emmalou78 · 20/02/2006 16:33

say 'ooh could I just put that in your kitchen out of harms way' and give a knowing smile in the direction of you little one!

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anniebear · 20/02/2006 16:36

Its scary to think your child could be rooting through some ones bag with medication in it.

I am sure I will have ben guilty of it before now especially forgetting that I have paracetamol in my bag. But I do generally put my bag high up

I know I should be watching her but cant all of the time

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Kelly1978 · 20/02/2006 16:37

I move things if I think they are going to cause trouble. I've never had anyone object except for my parents. They were bloody pitas, who insisted that they had their house how they wanted it now they had finished with kids and they were NOT moving anything. I think people like that are few and far between though.

cece · 20/02/2006 16:40

A reasonable request imo

Blandmum · 20/02/2006 16:43

Totaly sensible request. I can't imagine for a minute that any reasonably sensible person would take against you for doing this.

cathyspam · 20/02/2006 17:28

completely reasonable and sensible IMHO. Wouldnt mind one bit if someone asked me - i would, however, feel terrible if i had some pills etc in my bag and a child got hold of them.

coppertop · 20/02/2006 17:29

It sounds like a reasonable request to me. I certainly wouldn't mind moving my bag if I had one (another one here who just has pockets full of stuff).

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anniebear · 20/02/2006 17:32

No bag???!

My pockets would burst!!!!!

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Saker · 20/02/2006 18:06

I also have either pockets full or a changing bag . I wouldn't present it particularly as can they move their bag to protect Ellie but more just say you are going to move it so she doesn't root through it. Most people don't particularly want their bags tipped out on the hall floor so I can't see they could object. It is always harder at other people's houses and I think you just have to keep a close eye. My heart sinks always as Ds1 and friends hurtle upstairs with Ds2 hot on their heels and I dread to think what he might get up to. It's much less stressful having people round to us.

Spidermama · 20/02/2006 18:15

I would have no hesitation about telling them as it's for their own good as well as for that of your dd.

kreamkrackers · 20/02/2006 18:27

i would certainly ask visitors to move their handbags or ask whether they mind me moving it. children can be so quick so it's better to be safe than sorry.

i'd love to ask visitors to take their shoes off and leave them in the hall but i feel too rude asking that.

getbakainyourjimjams · 20/02/2006 18:43

anniebear I used to feel like you do, but as ds1's behaviour has become potentially more dangerous I apologise then do a quick safety scout round someone's house (yep including their bedroom- I have to). We've had too many near misses.

maddiemostmerry · 20/02/2006 19:16

No I wouldn't worry, it is important for safetys sake.
My ds3 once managed to get hold of his teachers handbag and chucked her lunch around.