RANT AND BAD LANGUAGE ALERT!!

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i am sick to fucking death of talking about ASD/ADHD/meltdowns, fucking licking and sniffing, no sleep, no social life, no money, the wrong arsing food, the right bastarding school shirt, the wrong pants, the right way to put a cocksucking coat on, how the rain is good for plants but you don't like it mummy do you it makes you really grumpy but i like it because it waters the plants and gives us spring surprises and that makes me really happy so why don't you like it it's so lovely to see the happy faces of the flowers which are our lovely spring surprises and have you made me ham sandwiches again today oh good i like ham

each day we wake up it's like russian roulette as to which persona is going to greet me and i'm fucking tired of it

i want to be able to wake my DD up and say 'guess what, today we're going to do...XYZ' and she won't howl 'why didn't you tell me the day before this day!' and refuse to get ready

tomorrow is our 1st major assessment with CAMHS and i've been trying to prepare some paperwork

DH has been away since the beginning of the week, we're normally a great tag-team - i miss him. how the hell anyone copes on their own - you have my utmost admiration. you are superheroes.

thanks for letting me rant

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I've had that for the whole Easter holidays. Thank The Deity who existence I doubt!(BBT!) for the beginning of term again

it's the 2nd day back here thanks for the

i'm running a bath as got a soaking on the way back from school, you know, just to add to my self-indulgent misery

Rant away. It can be so exhausting with the constant chatter, inane questions, arguments literally ALL the time!! I want to scream but then I feel guilty as I know he can't help it.

sigh

Hope your day gets better.

without sounding negative you should relish the peace while they are at school..................it could be worse...............they could be at HOME!!! lol

we've also got a SALT assessment next week - she's very interesting in what she wants to say, but frigging hell if she's struggling to get words out (like her brain is in 5th, mouth in 1st) you help her by suggesting words, woah you'll be told about it!

i love her to bits though, she's funny - someone posted here a few days ago about their DCs humour, laughing at a shoe on a chair, she would howl at that too (in a good way this time, different than if i got cornflakes instead of weetos), she's smart, she is polite, she's a great entertainer

now i feel bad for swearing about her

I've had constant low level humming for 2 weeks.

Ds managed 45 minutes of humming till he spoke a word. No wonder I've got Tinnitus!

It's little comfort I know... but we all have days, weeks like this, my DH works away too, and only gets home at week-ends, so appreciate how tough it can be.

My two go to preschool 3 days a week, I really try and focus on that me time, when things are tough. It does help to a degree.

Here's hoping you manage to restore some calm before school pick up!

I hate the humming it does my head in have just started to continually say DD You are humming again. She is now at school I should be cleaning but cannot get my arse in gear at all today. It is the draw of Jeremy Kyle and tunnocks teacakes I only watch it to make me feel better Honest.

We don't have humming... but we do have a broken volume control (since birth) my dad is slighly deaf and ds is the only person he doesn't have to ask to repeat anything!

mmmm, tunnocks tea cakes

thanks all, i know we all have days/weeks like this, but i really have no-one in RL to be able to talk to about it

DD doesn't hum, but sings..mostly the same line of her chosen song over and over and over

i've had my bath and taken some of my frustration out on a mix for crumpets...proper comfort food

I so know how you feel! DS this morning was NOT getting up because it was windy. He was rigid. Took me 30 mins before I had a brainstorm of putting his headphones on his ears with his ipod mouthing now the wind is gone

We got to school at 9.45!! after discussions on every parked car on the way, its emblem, make, speed and tyre tread inspection. Its his new obsession and short of hiring a helicopter to plonk us into school I dont know what else to do lol Praying for good weather at the moment so we get the usual head start tomorrow!

Crumpets sound yummy! I am off for an indulgent hot milky coffee and pate on toast by my fire in SILENCE

DS2 sings the same lines of songs over and over. He also refuses to sing in school (uncomfortable singing in a crowd of children) but memorises the songs and sings them full tilt at home - but again often just part of it.

DH & I find ourselves singing the repeated lines unconsciously while we're doing other things. It just wheedles itself into your brain ....

The constant talking from dd1 does my head in! I long for silence! Dd2s screeching is even worse but at least she's quiet with her DVDs or Thomas trains. For my bday this year I'm asking for a weekend away in a health spa just me on my own, no family no friends just me and silence! Bliss!

Hope it's helped to get it out of your system on here.
We all have days like this, if it's any consolation -I know I have been feeling like this a LOT recently.

Sometimes it's a small thing that tips me over the edge- like dd refusing to wear her trousers because they feel 'wrong' when they have just been washed. I feel like I am about to spontaniously (sp) combust!

Be nice to yourself and allow yourself to get p'd off sometimes;we are only human

It has helped - but i've been left with the mother of all headaches

Just picked up DD from school where she was in a corner hiding from a parent who had found her in the cloakroom trying to change her wet pants by herself again - already had a wet set of undies her bag.

Someone has taken the dog (meant to be used by DD to signal she needed the toilet or changing) from her drawer..again

Her teacher is so laid back he's almost horizontal which in a way is great but he doesn't seem to be very observant.

DH is due home in the next hour - wine is chilling and DD is about to go in the bath..

At least i got what i wanted for tomorrow

(hugs) it will be ok tomorrow x

Have your wine and a mahooosive cuddle with DH tonite :)

again

i just feel like going to sleep until it's all over tbh...wish i could hibernate

Yep understand that completely!

1st Assessment is not too bad so dont worry. Lots of milestone talks, asking what you think, how is school etc etc but easy going and not an interogation. Took us a couple hours and then at the end they told us what they proposed to do. So take a deep breath and guzzle that wine!

we had the initial assessment in November last year, this is a Psych we were talking about AS with the nurse back then, they've picked up ADHD from the questionnaires we sent back

Ah I see! bless you no wonder you are wound up. Hope you get the answers you need to help your dd. Someone put on my thread that adhd is overlaping of AS remember and I have also just read it in Tony attwoods book and in there it is co morbid. The more they pick out the better you can understand and the better outcome dd will have in getting help with each one.

Hard for you too though x

oh, OP, i know what you mean. i feel your pain.

i did actually scream today. twice. in the car. it did actually help. bit of a sore throat though. (there was no-one about).

I got told off by dh for swearing in front of the dcs yesterday, when every time I paused to take a breath in a sentence ds1 started recounting another of his interesting facts, I simply couldn't get through one sentence. I swear ds1 hasn't drawn a breath since they broke up the day before Good Friday .... and they don't go back to school until next Monday! Doesn't help that I had one of my dcs off sick the week before Easter as well, so effectively 3 weeks stuck in the house with at least 2 out of 3 dcs for company.

I've just spent three days (and some very late nights/early mornings) trying desperately to get the amendments for his proposed statement in before the deadline and not being able to get more than halfway into a sentence without being interrupted, having to listen to Star Wars/Lego/Pokemon fact number 1,000,000,000 and 1 and/or having to rescue ds2 who has also reached the end of his rope. Even went over to my Mum's so she could watch and deal with the dcs while I worked and that didn't work either. Its a miracle I got it in before the deadline and now I'm worrying about what I have actually submitted, given my exhausted brain addled state.

Now the blooming dog has decided she wants to have a neurotic day as well - mind you, she could be feeling the same as me and wishing the dcs were back at school . So since the dcs went to bed she has been emitting a horrible continuous, high-pitched whine that's hurting my ears and irritating my teeth (ooo sensory - wonder where ds1 gets it from ). Honestly, there is never a moment's peace in this house.

It is exhausting and you have all the assessment stress on top, so you are bound to be really stressed. Hopefully you'll get some answers tomorrow and next week and this will lead to some support and strategies that will help.

I prescribe or and a nice big bar of chocolate. (We really need a chocolate emoticon on this board.)

some days i feel like banging my head against a wall, other days my head feels like its going to explode with the constant whinging, whining, the same conversation over and over again, repeating myself everyday, and to the point where it pisses me off that i know she can do things but she will sit there and carry on and kick off untill i get up and do it for her. I was supposed to clean the bedrooms today but i just sat there thinking why the hell should i, I have to do everything and do any of them help me..... NO. I can spend hours sorting 1 room out the min i turn my back they trash another room. some days i feel like giving up cause all i want to do is cry, i would like a life a aswell but people avoid me because of them, then everytime she goes out of the house she gets picked on or bullied by the neighbours kids which resorts to another night of meltdowns and a pounding head for me, Its not even if i can say owt to the other kids parents cause its them thats put the kids up to it in the first place.

sorry i went off in a rant of my own then

Good luck today thinking of you and sending good vibes :)

Evening all...

well, what do i say...DH and I are bloody exhausted, as is DD but...

after 2 hrs of questions, sharing information and DD refusing to speak, hiding, crawling, copying mannerisms of what the Dr was doing, we have been given the official 'nod' that DD has ASD!

the Dr we saw was insistent that she cannot DX as she isn't a Consultant, but that she would be talking to the Con. and asking him to DX ASD.
She also said that there would be at least one review as DD gets older to look at perhaps ADHD, but she thanked us for being so well prepared, that we answered her questions and queries so well that we made her job very much easier.

this is where you guys all come in so much for helping me untangle what was relevent, we're more than half way there and we couldn't have even contemplated it without the sort of support and information sharing there is on this section.

just got the SALT assessment next week and then school to deal with

but that's a whole other thread - you guys rock! again