On the back of a thread in _chat...

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I'd like to put the kettle on, get the biscuits out and have a bit of an 'at home' to show we don't all bite in here. (can't promise about DD though )

There is a lot of negativity and uncertainty in the press, on TV and in people's RL right now, let's get back together and show each other how solid we can be?

and are free, hugs are too if anyone wants one....

Has this thread degenerated to Happy Hour?

Oops, crossed with you coff33. Hope your ears weren't burning...

Dev, I read your thread and though 'bloody hell!'. I probably have said that but I find it easier to post when I have an idea of a solution. I usually know more about what to do with unruly SALTs or LA staff than children.

I don't post much about my Ds, except for the technical stuff. I don't much talk about our daily life. Sometimes seeing others do so can feel a bit raw and hard for me to deal with but him being younger means I feel anything I suggest would be inappropriate. An suggestions are my thing rather than support even though I really do want to be supportive.

Anyway. Just wanted to apologise. I guess it is hard to see I'm not blanking you if I don't post.........

happy is good, there is too much gloom on mn

i talk about ASD all the time because it's our main issue, if posters don't bring their issues, we can't talk/learn about those.

DD also has allergy issues, and i'm put off posting about those too as it might look a bit weird/trollish - so lurk on those threads

must take my own advice, huh

happy hour

yes, i like that - i normally call this the calm before the storm hour.

or bedtime as most others like to call it

Ok I am going to stick my head on the parapet here because I feel uncomfortable as well and part of the reason is because inclusion and mainstream are pushed on here and special schools are always poo pooed. For some of us special schools are the safest environments for our children and the ONLY environment that is suitable for our children. Yes, we are in a minority but we still exist and we have children that will be unlikely to ever be able to attend anything mainstream, groups or otherwise, and it's not about segregation, it's about providing an appropriate, safe and enjoyable way for children like my daughter to mix with HER peers and learn. So please when we are talking about inclusion and mainstream, don't talk for people like my daughter who to go to a mainstream school or group would be tantamount to abuse. Thanks

and this isn't aimed at anyone in particular btw. I think inclusion is great if it is well supported and suitable, but there will always be a minority of children who do need specialist schooling. I also find the 'oh there is a special school but no way johnny is going because all the children are low functioning' rude as well and the 'shoved into special school' comments too, most parents with children there choose them, they don't just shove their children in them

This post sounds very abrasive, it's not actually meant to be but I am in a rush

hi I dont know what threads you're talking about but always up for cake & wine (dont like coffee)
I do feel though that while we are all (rightly so) highly defensive of our children i do have to remember that to educate people we have to remain open to questions & some of them will be daft questions, some people will not be particularly PC but any opportunity to educate is better than putting the shutters up & living in a SN world where the NT are so afraid of saying the wrong thing that they say nothing at all.

That said if anyone is deliberatly rude i'll poke them in the eye!

yeah 2shoes and ninja I'm surprised shoesy missed the cake lol

I get what you're saying zzzzz and I get stuck in where I can but there's not always the opportunity

I'll have some lime in my gin please, dd3 is back to school tomorrow so I may get a hot cuppa then depending on ds2 so I shall stick with the gin for now, at least that can't go cold!

Agin

i totally get what you're saying - DH and i have discussed this at length recently.
he has always been dead against anything but inclusion in MS for DD, but now we're understanding more about how SSs work - how the curriculum is tailored to differing ways of learning and how beneficial it is to DCs who don't fit nicely into a MS 'box'

Agincourt oh I so get you, I really do,

Sorry dev I saw your thread, wrote a reply and deleted it as I am new here and just wasn't sure if I could say the right thing..I suffer from major case of foot in mouth disease

But I agree this board has been the best thing ever for us as well.. I would even go as far as saying life changing... I really cannot say where we would be without it. So here i raise a to all you amazing guys who take precious time out of your busy lives to help out others in need... Thank you.

I missed your thread dev. I always like reading your posts though. I may have a wee search...

Do we sound anti SS? I'm not. My DS had the best 3 years in his SS. Unfortunately it only took DC until the end of reception and there was no suitable SS for him locally after that. So it was MS or nothing. I think true inclusion includes good SS, because inclusion should mean that all DC get the opportunity to meet their potential and that may mean specialised, trained teachers and specialised facilities that allow all DC to have a peer group, friends and a good school experience.

We have an unofficial dx of autism, PDA, PTSD and something else could be looming...........however apart from primarily down syndrome, he does have official dxs of autistic traits, school phobia, social phobia and many more, the profs are at a loss, they tried and they were tested!!

waves to corn

Well, I wander about on and off the boards and have done for a while, although I do namechange quite a lot as I like the illusion of being anonymous in RL.
I do usually pm a few people, in the vain hope that they might want to know.
I've always found the sn boards supportive, but I probably haven't been as supportive as I could be. Partly time pressure, partly that so many of you have so much more on your plates than I do and so have much more expertise when it comes to specific stuff and stuff in general.
But I did make a resolution a while back to stay of sn threads on the main boards after having got into a bit of a barney with Very Important Posters. Then I got cross again and forgot a few months later and sailed in like a fireship.
But I do try and be helpful if I can, and not aggressive except to the truly obnoxious. If I'm not, tell Vicarinatutu and she can come and kick me like a good mate should.

for my dd SS is inclusion, MS would mean exclusion.
she has been at the same school since she was at nursery(she is 17) ]moved through all the departments and is now in 16 plus. every thing(apart form horse riding) is accesible to her. and us
she even has respite there.

high fives dev

whereas mine, ss and ms mean exclusion oh and so does home tution!!

devientenigma I know (hug)

Hi

Haven;t posted on here for ages so hello to anyone who doesn't know me. I have two with ASD- one AS and one Autism; one being assessed for AS, and one who has possible ADD> I also have an assessment booked for AS myself and DH gets extra help at University for his dyslexia and MH issues LMAO.

DH works as a lighting designer, I am doing an MA and looking for a PT job.

DS1 and ds3 attend SN Bases, one primary and one comp.