Is it too early for the friday night thread?

[Becaroooo]

Am knackered...long trip today but ds1 was a star.

He had a lovely italian meal for lunch which cheered him up no end

I know some of you havent had a good week and I hope that next will be better for you
x

sounds lovely bec

I am gutted, dd3's 1:1 is leaving at easter, she's been brilliant for dd3 but has been offered a uni place to train for her dream job so she's going. Can't blame her at all but just sad for dd3. School have already got plan B moving though which is pretty impressive.

and we're still waiting for piedros that were ordered back in october and have already had to ask for them to change the size. But at least physio sorted out some insoles this week so she's not walking on her ankles.

Quite good here, Dd3's parents evening went well. I was surprised by the amount of work in her books. And her handwriting has improved massively.

She is still finding some areas of literacy difficult, like when she has to say what she thinks the person will do in the story, I think it is called inference.

She also finds it hard to share her ideas in class. She is doing really well i maths now though.

Had another though week at work.

Hope everyone is ok.

ninja Oh thats too bad...good that the school have plan B in the pipeline though? IME most schools etc dont even have a plan A, let alone a plan B!!!

Ds1 really likes his teachers this year, hope he gets on ok next year...its job share again in Y5.

Ds1 has found out that a boy in his class lives just around the corner from us (we have only lived here 3 months) and when we got back tonight there was a letter waiting for him!! Apparently they have arranged to "get together" tomorrow at 1.30pm to play!!!

Evening Beca, glad you've had a good day with ds1.

I have had an odd week really, timeless and felt like it went on for about a hundred years. I think its because its the first week in ages that we haven't had any appointments or assessment etc. So, this must be what life is like for 'other people'.

Ds1 astounded his teachers today by doing some amazing role playing of a character from the book they've been reading. She came out to tell me how proud she was of him, especially as its something we all thought he would struggle a lot more with. A bit of a special case, as the character had been covered in literacy and history and there'd been a lot of class discussion about how he would have felt etc, so ds had been given a lot of the necessary information, but all the same we are so that he did so well with it.

Other than that, he has been extra sensitive, emotional, tearful and constantly melting-down over the smallest things at home, whilst apparently telling his ASD teacher - who comes in specifically to discuss his worries and anxieties, that he hasn't got anything on his mind.

Oh yes, and they brought in Childline to do a talk to the older children in the school, without telling us about the content beforehand and completely confused and worried him, as he is just not emotionally mature enough to handle the topics they discussed.

((hugs)) and chocolate to those of you who have had bad weeks.

Oh imogen so sorry x

how did that happen? A million and one cross posts, sorry folks.

Evening :) yes tired day here too!

Italian for lunch sounds lovely! i am sat here munching half a sausage and about 6 chips.....(all I could muster seeing as DH came home short changed on the order lol)

This week is has been more frustrating than anything I think. One of those one step forward two steps back sort of weeks. School are being a PITA which is bound to happen when they have a statement they have to comply with.

Dog went in for the snip yesterday and yes he came round but then collapsed into coma due to pre med allergy. He did wake up eventually after drips and meds and I was up all night watching every twitch so am shattered. DS totally refused to go school this morning as he wouldnt leave his dog again as far as he was concerned bless him so that was fun and games.

Other than that we are all alive here lol!

ineed and moose Sounds really promising!!!

Ds1's school had the NSPCC give an assembly to the whole school a couple of weeks ago...I think it upset ds1 but its hard to tell sometimes...he was very glad he got so much sponsorship money to give them.

Its such a hard conversation to have with NT kids isnt it? Let alone sn/sen kids

oooh! there was only the original post up when I started inbetween kids! Going back for a read....

Ninja, what a shame about dd's 1:1. It takes so long to find the right person to support our dcs that when they move on its really hard for all concerned. I feel a bit like that about ds1's class teacher this year - I want to keep her forever!

Ineed, lovely to hear dd is doing so well. Its so nice to go in for parents evening, hear positive things and be pleased with the contents of their exercise books isn't it. Sorry work is tough though.

Imogen, I'm really sorry you are having such a bad time. Gather up a big schoop of the wine, hugs and chocs from my previous post, it sounds like you are well over due your share. ((more hugs))

imogen - more big hugs from this way xxx

Ninja - 4 months still waiting! BIG shame on the TA going glad they are working on a quick replacement though hopefully the new one will blend in now before the easter hols

lol Coff33, that's what happened to me when I posted!

Sorry school are being a pita and your poor little dog. I was always in a right state when my Wheaten had to go in for an op, as they have sensitivity to anaesthetic, I used to do the watching her all night thing like you did as well. Poor ds as well worrying about his furry best mate. Hope your pup is doing ok now and ds is reassured.

Beca, that's it. I think his NT peers are emotionally mature enough to be able to handle a sensitive presentation about child abuse etc, but ds is emotionally more like a 6/7 year old and has been really out-of-kilter ever since. Thing is they wouldn't even let years 3 and 4 attend the talk, so clearly it wasn't going to be suitable for him either.

He got all confused about what child abuse is and told the lady he'd seen it happen to someone at school. Turned out what had happened was some boys telling another that if he failed in his dare his forfeit was to kiss ds. This made him feel embarrassed and upset, so he didn't want to tell an adult and kept it secret - of course these are all signs which they told the kids were warning signs for child abuse.

He also thought he could call Childline every time he was worried or upset by something, which with his levels of anxiety is about every five minutes. Eg this evening the world has ended because the Nintendo shop has taken off the game he wanted to download - he would seriously have called Childline distressed as if the world had actually ended if I hadn't been working on him all week to impress that he needs to approach, me, daddy, grandma, his teacher, his ASD teacher or any other trusted adult with his worries rather than calling Childline for everything. They gave him a business card with the number on that he's secreted away because they told him to keep it somewhere safe.

Thanx moose. It is nice to go to a parents evening when you actually believe what the teachers are saying and it does sound like your child!!

I am really pleased with the progress she has made

Hmm, work is tricky, we have staffi issues and a particularly demanding group of preschoolers this year. Plus a stupid, stupid amount of paperwork for eyfs and sen

Never mind, it will get done somehow

thanks ladies, they've already offered someone the job and she said yes, so it's a case of squeezing training in and getting a couple of weeks of shadowing done before easter

boots have to be approved by an accountant apparently, physio's opinion seems to count for nothing.

imogen rough time you're having at the moment.

lovely to hear some good news about some of our dcs

moose Oh, he sounds so adorable!

I was a bit that they did the assembly in front of the whole school tbh...some of the 4+ kids arent 5 yet! Its such an important message to get across, but its got to be at the right age, or it will be - at its best - ineffective or - at its worst - scary and confusing for them.

ineed My sons school have staffing issues too..no SENco atm for example!!! I think its the same all over tbh..the y3 teacher is going on maternity leave in July, the SENco is on long term sick, year 4 &5 are job share anyway...

Oh yes, Beca, he's adorable all right - among other things! Nah, not really, he's a sweetheart. His teachers this year all really love him because he's just so innocent and open compared to the rest of his year group and he has such good heart.

Was it a similar sort of assembly, with children that young? It was only years 5 and 6 at our school as they said the others aren't old enough yet. Not sure if they might get a watered down version at some point though.

I think, not only do they have to be the right age, its something that has to be handled just right and that 'just right' might vary from child to child. Definitely not something that should be just blarted out at an all school assembly!

I have similar problems with some of the literature books they are starting to read now. They are currently doing Michael Morpurgo, who is a fantastic writer, but writes on a lot of subjects/areas that ds1 simply can't handle. The one they've done at school so far is ok, but homework this week is to read and review another MM book. Its taken me half of today to vet his books and come up with four for ds1 to chose from.

There are so many subjects that he cannot handle. Just recently he read a book in which there were three children, the same ages and sexes as my three and by chance a Great Aunt with the same name as my dc's Great Aunt (not a particularly common name either). The oldest child in the book got run over and killed and ds had nightmares for weeks and kept crying, convinced that it was going to happen to him and nothing anyone could say could convince him otherwise. We have to be so careful with his reading matter.

He finally chose a book which said the main character, a girl about his age I think, overcomes her disability to triumph and save the environment. I was so pleased he chose that one, because the alternative was the King Arthur one that his best friend is reading and ordinarily he would have just gone for whatever his friends said was best.

I feel so exausted I feel like crying into my glass of wine. Can't concentrate to read all threads, enough to know I'm not alone. Annual Review last week, left a lot of unanswered questions, that I know no-one has the time to answer. Haven't got ammended statement back yet but dread the day, as some provision will have 'accidentally' slipped out. Physio's sounded me out for dropped provision, I fought back, they backed off, but I suspect a tribunal next year, but hey a year to prepare not bad. SALT wants to drop provision, yet core language score in 0.1st percentile and advised this is unacceptable. Haven't started that fight. Had a crap meeting today, sounded good on surface, but by the time I got home was angry as realised they hadn't produced the evidence I wanted and I had been soap talked again. Was not in good state for meeting as went to join gym day before and blood pressure was up, so stressed about that now. 2nd son's ed psych. report came back this week and has working memory issues (dyslexia) bad enough fighting for one ds now have two ds to fight for, although second ds issues minor in comparison to first. Should be talking to hubby on a Friday night but all I want to talk about is SENS issues and he has limited staying power for my attention to detail. House a disaster area as done SENS stuff all week.
Sorry to be so negative but it has all got on top of me this week, not normally this bad. Worst of all feel isolated as so consummed with fighting to get ds1's needs met don't feel have time to get out and get away from it all.
Time for a reality check I think.

Oh supermum, its no wonder your blood pressure is up. It sounds like you are going through one hell of a time at the moment.

Please don't apologise for letting it out - that's what we're all here for, to share, listen and support each other. I'm sure at some point you will also be able to tell us that all your fighting has paid off and there will be other times when you can share someting amazing that one of your dses has done that you want to share with people who'll understand how important it is and why. We're here for the ups, the downs and the bits in between.

I am so sorry you are having such a bad time at the moment. Hope you can find some time to rest and recharge your batteries this weekend.

((((hugs)))) and to those who need it.

Well, I managed to have a bit of a fall yesterday: see See here Not my finest moment ever. And yes, it was "a fall" and not me "falling over" because a) I wasn't doing anything remotely dangerous and b) I didn't fall over anything, I fell OFF! There's a difference :)

Other than that, I've been very lucky to spend the last 3 days with a good friend and her very cute, and wriggly, 6 mo DS. I'm getting a lot more confident holding him now, in all sorts of different ways. I also assisted with my first nappy change too...

It's told me I'm still a few years off having my own kids

Lollipop, sounds like you need a big tube of arnica and some ibuprofen! You poor thing.

Very brave getting involved in a nappy changes. I used to refuse to even approach nappies of any description until I had dcs of my own - something which my dsis often reminded me once her three were all grown up and I had two boys in nappies.

I take it your friend's ds has started weaning from the vomit emoticon!

Are you flying again this weekend?

Hi all. Went to see a sixth form in a nearby village for DS today. Waiting at the bus stop on the way back, chatty woman says 'you're not from the village are you?' I explained why I was there. She says her neighbour works at the school with the disabled children. 'I suppose' she says very doubtfully, 'its' a good thing for them to be in the mainstream school. It makes the parents feel better anyway'. Once I had hauked my jaw back up I said something about the necessity for inclusion. But feeling a bit raw at the moment and chickened out of saying my DS has sn.
Anyway on way back through town treated myself to lunch in a cafe and two books and a small box of chocolates. Coffee cream anyone? Especially those who have had a bad week.

Erm, have to get back to you on that Moose, things might be happening, just had a message from a pilot who might be flying tomorrow, weather permitting....

And I only got involved as my mate called me over saying she needed me to pass her lots of baby wipes lol!

NoHaudin, I think sometimes you can just tell there's no point in getting into it all with certain people. They just don't tend to think, iykwim.

Hope the lunch and shopping trip managed to lift your spirits.

Lollipop, I shall keep everything crossed for nice calm, non-windy weather for you.

Passing wipes doesn't really count you know, you have to actually get involved in the wiping for it to count!

ouch! Lollipop! Hope you dont come up with too many bruises!

NoHaudin......never mind the er so called wise woman of the village lol How did you get on at the 6th Form? Do you think it would be ok for your DS?

Supermum :( BIG hugs and a choccie bar to you That is a lot on your plate in one go no wonder you are feeling low. Hope the weekend is a relaxing happy one for you x

Moose...The pup is doing fine right next to me on a fleecy blanket :) had check up and blood pressure back to norm, doesnt need the hot water bottle to keep him warm now he is doing that himself. I felt awful I must admit as we got a call to pick him up and of course went with DS to only find it had gone wrong. Then I had DS to contend with who of course I promised the dog would be ok and so from then on I had lied! WHAT a day. Still alls well that ends well :)