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GRRRRRRRRR - If one more person...

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eidsvold · 09/01/2006 05:54

glares/ stares/ tuts or tsks at me when I am using a disabled parking space ( as I am entitled to when out and about with dd1) I will not be responsible for my subsequent actions....

GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR - rant over!!

Tell me I am not the only one?!?!?

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Dingle · 09/01/2006 11:36

I haven't had to deal with much over parking yet but I am sure I have that to look forward to!

What I do get is comments made, dirty looks when I come out of a disabled toilet. Was in our local Savacentre the other day when DS(NT) said he needed the toilet, Amelia-4(who has DS)then signed toilet, clutches at her nappyand says "wee wee!" AS we have been trying to potty train for 18 months, I take them both to the toilet immediately.

After they have both been, washed hands, Amelia touches the bin, or the toilet seat (uurggh!) so I have to wash her hands again...
..came out to find an elderly couple, looking very dissaproving. I felt I needed to justify using the toilet, so I made some comment about Amelia.

Another time I cam out of a disable loo, a lady very "tongue in cheek politely" said " My dear, you do realise this is a disabled toilet." I very politely replied back "Yes, you do realise my daughter is disabled!"

misdee · 09/01/2006 11:37

carers allowence takes the pee. i am on the old dependants version so mine is slightly higher (65 per week, the difference is taken off my tax credits), but even that is a pittance for the work we do. imagine how much we save the govt in payings for SS or other agencies to do the carers job.

giddy1 · 09/01/2006 11:39

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spursmum · 09/01/2006 11:40

Don't get me started on benefits please. If anyone in the DWP had to care for our LOs then they would pay a damn sight more than they do. I've had to explain why I have ds on a dog lead lately. I need some control over him.

misdee · 09/01/2006 11:42

have you seen the crueliing harnesses? i am thinking of getting some for dd2. i have had to purchase a 2nd hand double pushchair after selling mine thinking dd2 was coping with walking outside more. how wrong i was........

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eidsvold · 09/01/2006 11:43

you are welcome - rant away......

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eidsvold · 09/01/2006 11:47

i am dreading dd2 walking - will need two sets of reins then... made some women feel very ashamed recently. They were poking fun of a poor woman at the wiggles concert who had her twins in reins so she could keep control of them... these women were smirking and laughing etc - then as dd1 leant forward to say hello - they noticed her reins - they went bright red and turned back around very quickly.

With my extensive carers allowance that I get here in Aus I am going to pay for the family to attend the 9th Down syndrome world conference -only 8 1/2 thousand dollars - Yep - I keep dreaming

that money pays for dd1s swimming and mainstream kindy.... unfortunately no such thing as DLA here but they do have two types of carers allowance/ payment. One that is means tested ( haven't applied think dh earns too much) and one that is not - but that is one standard payment. not moaning - just wanted to compare.

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sparklymieow · 09/01/2006 11:57

LOL and if one more person says 'well, he looks normal to me, I will not be responible for my action, yes he looks normal but under his jeans you will find a lycra upsuit, and splints up to his knees. And if you watch him walking you can see its not 'normal'!!!

giddy1 · 09/01/2006 11:59

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eidsvold · 09/01/2006 12:03

well keep ranting /venting spleens - will hopefully make you all feel a little better... me -I am off to bed - past 10pm here and hairdresser is due at 7.30am to cut dd1's hair and mine. Need to do some tidying up tomorrow morning.

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giddy1 · 09/01/2006 12:46

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fisil · 09/01/2006 13:05

I don't have a disability and nor does anyone I live with. When I have my Granny in the car with me with her blue badge I have been known on occassion to have a "little polite discussion" with people who have taken the one remaining disabled parking space.

But the reason why I'm invading your thread is that I know how fortunate I am that I usually have no need to use disabled parking places. Sometimes when I'm frazzled after disturbed sleep and have just 30 minutes to do a weekly shop while ds1 decides to strop and ds2 is teething loudly, sometimes I will look across at someone struggling with a child in the disabled parking space and know that really life is easy and what I'm dealing with really is nothing. Now, while this is felt in my heart as a pure and nice and empathetic thought, due to the blank look of tiredness and the hassled look of mumminess, it probably comes across to you as a glare or stare. And I don't mean it!

And if I was in your position I would also come on MN and rant about it quite happily. But I'm just saying that not everyone who appears to be tutting actually is!

giddy1 · 09/01/2006 14:55

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sparklymieow · 09/01/2006 16:27

I actually got told by a parent of another child with CP, that DS couldn't have CP because he was able to walk!!! I turned round and said 'so Great ormond Street are wrong then, are they? After blood tests, and brain scans, and other tests, they have it totally wrong, because you say so!' I felt terrible afterwards....

dizzy34 · 09/01/2006 19:14

OMG....we have this all thee time. i actually had one old lady ask me why i was using the space. i suprised myself by explaining politly that ds2(who is 2yrs old) was disabled. She said'he doesnt look disabled to me, hes a baby' (FFS does she not wonder how we get disabled adults if we do not have disabled children!),
i thought for a moment then said 'can you walk', she said 'yes'
so i said 'he will never walk or hold his head up',
then i asked'can you see' she said 'i have v bad eyesight', to which i replied 'my ds is reg blind and while we are at it he cant eat or drink and judging by your size thats obviously something you manage quite well'
Now i dont have anything against fat people, i ahve lost 4 stone and have another 4 to lose, but she just wound me up.

anniebear · 09/01/2006 19:30

Totally off the subject but Dizzy WOW*

on the weight loss and well done, you must be very proud

dizzy34 · 09/01/2006 19:44

Thanks annie bear, i am made up and it has taken years to get round to doing it. i threw all my clothes out yesterday that are too big, and am wearing a size 18 for the first time in years.

getbakainyourjimjams · 09/01/2006 19:54

pmsl dizzy- that's hilarious. Can I remind everyone that if in receipt of the free car tax then you also get FREE PARKING. Oh joy- bet that makes up for the fact that to qualify for the free tax disc you have to be severely disabled. I hope you've all remebered to be grateful for your free parking- aren't we just the lucky bastards.

chonky · 09/01/2006 19:57

go dizzy! pmsl

This sort of stuff is a RL parp for me it makes me so angry.

Piffle · 09/01/2006 20:08

We have a Blue Badge too because dd's eyesight
I feel too silly to use it as she is fine really and would no want someone really mobility impaired to lose a space.
I once got bollocked for using a parent and baby space at Tescos, someone told me to get into a disabled bay
I prefer the P+B spaces at our local shop as the disabled bays have to cross two crossings and this is def a hazard with dd.
Never know what to do for best....

Piffle · 09/01/2006 20:09

oh and about the free car tax one
WE are not applying as once or twice a year dp takes the car to work instead of his motorbike.
So we figured we are not entitled?
Is that right? I assumed if dd is not cirectly involved in the journey then we do not qualify although we do get the mobility and Dla to qualify...
Hmmmm I'm new to this lark can you tell....

MABS · 09/01/2006 20:12

I've limped too! and would you believe i've been challeged twice by the same traffic warden for parking on double yellow when 'you are clearly not disabled! 2nd time I went mental, now he steers well clear.

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eidsvold · 09/01/2006 21:20

the person who set me off the other day - actually walked around their car and right up to my passenger side and looked over at my windscreen to see if I had a badge..... fairly obvious they were checking to see if I could park there..... most times I ignore it but that made me see red!!

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Pixel · 09/01/2006 21:49

Jimjams, I saw a cartoon in Private Eye that made me think of you. I was going to put it on here but I didn't know how.

There was a man lying on the ground by his car having obviously just had the st kicked out of him by two traffic wardens. One of them was saying "Now you qualify for the disabled parking bay"

Made me lol anyway

sparklymieow · 09/01/2006 23:57

Piffle get the tax disc, as long as the car is being used for your child's benifit (and your dh going to work would benifit your child) I was told that by motability themselves, when I questioned if DH would use the motability car to go to work in.