Sorry, disappeared to watch the Newsround Special on Autism that was on CBBC this afternoon and got talking to ds2 about ds1. A very productive discussion as it turns out and the programme really helped him to think about things from ds1's perspective a bit more and start to understand why he behaves the way he does sometimes.
Ds1 has suddenly started asking a lot of questions about having AS and yesterday told me that he doesn't think he has it, because he isn't any different from the other boys at his school. This is after he told me a couple of weeks back that he thinks he is very different from them and can't keep up with playground chatter and banter. 
Am wondering if watching that programme together might be a means of getting some dialogue going. I have a stack of books in my Amazon basket that I hope we can read together as well.
Ellen, they do have an allergies list and the dinner lady concerned darn well knew who ds was, so despite her protesting that they can't possibly know who all children with allergies are, she was onto a loser. There's a bit of history with this particular dinner lady, she has consistently picked on ds since she started working there. Fortunately, ds's teacher was as furious as we were about it (she said she couldn't say what she thought when she found out, as she couldn't use the words in polite company 
) and also happens to be Acting Deputy Head so she dealt with it swiftly and appropriately. The dinner lady has been spoken to both on the day and again the next day and it was reported to the Head as well. She is also arranging to do a one to one session with this particular dinner lady to go over all the autism training she quite obviously didn't learn at all on the compulsory training day in May this year. 
We have informed the school that if there is one more incident involving her we will be putting in a formal complaint that will be copied to the LEA. To be fair, they are completely on our side and felt we were more than reasonable.
Scan was awful, thanks for asking everyone. For some reason I was so ridiculously scared beforehand, probably because I knew what to expect this time around. Found it much harder to hold it together in the 'tunnel' and hated having my head in the cage. Thought the spinal one would be better, because I wouldn't have to have the cage, but then realised that mean't no periscope, so I was unable to see out at all (not that I kept my eyes open anyway). It was all I could do not to press the button and kick and scream until they came to get me out. 
Felt awful for the rest of the day afterwards, so holed up on the sofa with some Christmas magazines and CBeebies for dd, when I should have been finishing the scanning for ds's SA request.
Results won't be back for at least 3 weeks.
Ninja - I am so jumpy, have leapt to both the landline and dh's mobile several times this evening. No-one ever rings us in the evening normally, but tonight we have had call after call!