Friday night thread - where are you?

[StarlightMcKenzie]

I only allow myself wine when you appear and I NEED wine............

SMUG- that sounds really hard- having to perform play with your DS whilst someone looks on

My DS doesn't really play,but when he does it's on HIS terms- No mummy sit down !

TRIGGLES- sorry things don't seem to be getting any better

The letter - which has been sent to my GP - says "The work with the mother was difficult, somehow the mother ran out of developing the theme of engaging with little smug. The parents insisted they are doing all the work that I suggested but I cannot see the evidence in the session"

Smug that does sound really tough.
Perhaps he has no children, cos alot of children's play is actually very boring to many intelligent adults (memories of being forced to watch hours and hours of puppet shows with no storyline whatsoever thought up by two NT children and endless power ranger games)

He wanted me to make up a story about someone driving to the hospital, what happened to the hospital and that they then got better and drove out of the hospital. I struggled.

I spent all of Wednesday night at the blimin parenting course being told not to lead their play and just commentate and watch.

Grrrr.

Mixed week here. Both boys settled well into school, but had a Children in Need meeting for Ds2 on Tues where a teacher who hasnt seen him for two years told me she was 'quite shocked' at how different his behaviour is now. I know he has changed from the passive, compliant child he used to be into one who is aware of his own power to control events/people. I know he sometimes hits out or screeches because he cant use language effectively to express that
awareness. But although it makes him harder to handle I have always seen it as a positive development. And she wasnt being positive! It made me realise how much schools value compliance and (possibly) how much of an easy ride he's had up to now because hes been so sweet and biddable. His lovely 1:1s have reassured me ( they both see his changes as positive and deal with the aggression brilliantly) but it has left me feeling bruised. Though in fact this teacher did go on to suggest some good strategies to help him communicate better, including something called 'Talking Mats' which sounds fab.

DH got stomach bug on Thurs so I have been doing everything ( like some of you do all the time I know ) and am shattered. Makes me realise how much he does.

Back from dropping DD at respite for weekend so now poured! Cheers.
Star - amazingly this is respite that we didn't have to fight for as its at the childrens hospice which is run by a charity - so nothing to do with LA or PCT. It's fantastic and DD has been going there for 14 years.

Sorry for all of you who have had a tough week!

Silver Good luck with your charity run. DH is doing a 10k run on Sunday for the charity he works for - he has never done one before and says he won't be doing it again - LOL

DS has now found the brand new PE kit (£50 worth) that he lost at school on Wednesday. Phew! He is hoping to be accepted to do his Dof E through school as part of his social skills training - fingers crossed - only 20 places and 200+ pupils in his year! School also considering removing his 1-1 TA from classes to see how he gets on as some of his teachers don't think he needs it. Mixed feelings about that one but DS is delighted as he hates having TA!

Hope you all have a good weekend.

Smug, that doesnt sound like very constructive critism. I remember on day ds was due to receive his dx, part of it was an hour observation of ds and specialist SALT. Myself, dp, SENCO, EP and Dr were observing in a seperate room.

SALT then asked myself and dp to go in and play with ds for 15 minutes, while he and the others observed. The pressure i felt was terrible, it was the longest 15 minutes of my life. Luckily i 'performed' ok, but dp just froze and sat there in total silence. Luckily he wrote nice things about me and didnt mention dp at all.

Morning all, you know that song "oh what a night" ? Well I think it was written for last night. Dd has a vomiting and diarrhoea bug so have been up with her. Ds has been panicking because he worries about germs and there has been little sleep and much washing generated.It can only get better today!

Symathies with v+d bug. We have beed up for last couple of nights with dd2, who has been having monstrous nosebleeds, blood everywhere. Add to that ds having a cold, and struggling to breathe, swallow etc with the sheer volume of snot, and dh and I have barely slept the last couple of nights - I predict a grouchy weekend!

I have got our dla reconsideration letter in, and it's nice to not have a huge form looming over me, but I wish it would get sorted.

ohhh insanity I hope it settles down soon for poor dd. Hope you both get a good kip tonite.

I am still muddling through the DLA forms uggg! I keep going back to it I suppose I will see the end of it one day lol

Its chucking it down with rain here so we are trapped inside today. DD went on a sleepover at her mates and DH has gone down to work so for the moment all is well with DS as its just me and him plus doggie