Has having a child with sn affected your health?

[Claw3]

There is obviously a lot of stress associated with having a child with sn's. Whether that is dealing with behaviours and needs, dealing with school, statements, tribunals, DLA etc, etc.

Ive just been for a dr appointment, as i havent been able to go the gym (my stress relief) for about a month as i was getting out of breath easily.

The dr did one of those blow into tests and apparently 73% is bad, she has given me asthama medication, ive never suffered with asthama. My weight has also dropped from 60kg to 50 something or the other and she feels lack of nutrients in my red blood cells could be causing my breathing difficulties and i have to go for a blood test to check my sugar levels etc. I also had a chest infection that i wasnt aware of, so now have antibiotics (i put it down to having a cold)

Her conclusion STRESS.

Anyone elses health suffering due to the stress of it all?

woo! is that actually allowed? an actual life of your own?

Hell, yes

Am undergoing tests for RA and seeing an osteopath as my back is so bad. I have very little range of motion in all my major muscle groups and the osteo is v unhappy as I have muscle loss in my left leg and weakness. God knows what that means but she was asking lots of questions which leads me to think she thinks I may have had a stroke [asd]

God knows.

I am exhausted, mentally, physically, emotionally you name it!

Not sure what I can do though, only so many hours in the day and only so much money and ds1 is 1st in the queue.

Its probably against regulations, so keep it quiet!

Becaroooo, sounds awful, doesnt sound like a hot bubble bath will help at all. No other suggestions for you im afraid. You could always join us at the virtual unhealthy spa, with wine, chocolates and we have just added younger men

Younger men, you say????

easy, tiger!

heh heh...I wouldnt be much use to any man atm!

sigh...doesnt stop me dreaming though....

I noticed how the virtual wine and chocs got trampled on, to get to the younger men! back bad indeed

I couldnt eat the jerk chicken, really dont have an appetite, im off to do bathtime and bedtime, hopefully for me too.

Unhealthy spa? Sounds good to me.

I am out of shape, despite walking a fair distance on the school run twice a day and going up and down stairs about a million times a day. I need new clothes (look fairly shabby right now) and new bra (including fitting) but who has time and to be honest I hate shopping - need to lose weight.

I did buy Wii Zumba today, and the plan is to start using it tomorrow during DS3's nap while DS2 is in school.

DH is on meds for depression, I probably could use some myself, but am resisting at the moment. I have a prolapse as well, but my goodness that is waaaaaay down the priority list.

If you can't tell I'm stressed, I'll add that on the first day of school (last Monday), DS2 was pushed over (by my DGS1 who also goes to the same school) and hurt his back landing on a wooden sandbox. Yesterday, the new class whiteboard fell on top of DS2. Like we don't have enough to deal with, we have these injuries cropping up at school. I keep the slips the schools sends home with each injury after being questioned extensively regarding a head injury that DS2 sustained AT SCHOOL last year by the A&E doctor. (I have to say, DS2 was taken in to A&E by us directly from school just after lunch - so during school hours, wearing his school uniform, with a note from the school, as well as a sticker on his jumper saying "I hit my head today" and STILL the doctor wanted us to verify that it actually happened at school. So I told him feel free to call the school and ask - here's their number.)

Sigh. Some days I think I may just implode.

Just the worries that parents with NT children do not think about. It can leave me nervous, I get anxious, I start ruminating. I am pg with dc2, I havent really had time to relax and enjoy my pregnancy, My eczema gets bad, I get really down.

ooh I have the eczema thing too. My right eyelid is red and falling apart and now has a painful stye. Went to the doctor - what did she say - you guessed it - stress eczema.

Had back and neck pain for years & developed a variety of stress-related illnesses.

Started doing the 30-day-shred dvd for 20 minutes of an evening once DS asleep and most health problems improved or gone completely.

20 minutes of proper strenuous exercise worked far better for me than all the previous attempts at walking, gym etc. Back pain disappeared completely within weeks (and went down 2 dress sizes as a bonus).

Never thought I would enjoy an exercise dvd but benefits of it have been very surprising. Didnt fix my teeth though - am also going through catch-up dental work now...

My health failed a few years ago.It is I think a combination of always being on high alert constant stress lack of rest and putting our own needs below our dcs. I am trying to take better care of myself now because I cannot care for ds if io don't.

blimey.... only relatively minor (ish) stuff for me, High BP and Prozac...

also at least 3 stone overweight, (and that's after loosing nearly 2 stone...)
combination of comfort/stress eating, and naff all time to exercise...

However, now ds is mornings at school, regular swimming starts next week, . (that is actualy swimming, not faffing about with ds ) Now I've told you all I have to actually make time to do it

Iv'e also added 3000 steps a day with the walk to and from school...

I have a knackered back and hips, partly due to still having to lift dd3 (5) and ds2 (2) a fair amount still. Doctor said no lifting very funny, I can't exercise as that just makes it a lot worse so have put on too much weight which in turn makes the pain worse and less able to lift [sigh] If it was one of the dcs I would have sat in my doctors office a long time ago and refused to move until she did something useful but I don't have the time, inclination or energy.

the cause of the majority of my stress isn't dd3 herself but the process and people that we have to involve in our life because of her disabilities. And then there's ds1's old school that didn't want to support him. I can't remember the last time me and dh got out without the dcs or had child free time. I've turned into a sometimes bitter, humourless, anti social old bag.

Sorry to hear how 'out of condition' you are all feeling - but reading about you all has made me feel very healthy!!! (and lucky).
Did have sciatica last year after taking DD away for a holiday to somewhere without hoists but strong painkillers and getting back into the gym cleared that up pretty quickly. Try to run on treadmill 3 times a week (DD & DS appointments permitting), keep very busy with voluntary work whilst DC are at school and treat myself to wine and chocolates when the need arises.
Have managed to keep up with regular dental appointments as dentist makes the next 6 mthly one each time I go - so easier just to turn up than cancel. (Shame I don't have a hairdresser that does the same thing though - hair hasn't been cut for 5 months - but have done colour myself).

Not sure I could cope with a 'younger' man though - think that would just add extra stress to life!!!

Hope you all manage to find time to make yourselves a priority for a change and are able to sort your health problems out soon.

Well in honour of this thread I'm off to a relaxation spa for the morning. No wine, chocolate or 18 year olds but hopefully a bit of rest! This thread has made me realise I'm falling apart and need to do something to fix it. We all need to.

Well in honour of this thread I'm off to a relaxation spa for the morning. No wine, chocolate or 18 year olds but hopefully a bit of rest! This thread has made me realise I'm falling apart and need to do something to fix it. We all need to.

Have a fab morning smug. I am off to wheelchair clinic appointment with DD!

have fun smug, we have ent today, not quite the same

Have a great time, I am revelling in the feel of new trousers, 2 sizes smaller than previously.

sign dances smuggily (but still flabbily) round the living room....

just gotta keep it up now....

or even smuggly...

my doc put me on propanonol for anxiety when my head started shaking very visibly when going to school meetings about my son. Had a crap CAMHS meeting the other day and forgot the tablet and felt my head going! mum is only down the road so when she met before we went in she had quickly grabbed the tablets from my house and i took one. They definitely help as i was very assertive in the meeting and didnt take no crap from the psychiatrist when he was asking me why i didnt want a boyfriend!!! he kept banging on about it so much i told him he was being way too personal and we were there to discuss my 6 year old sons anxiety and NOT the fact i havent got a boyfriend. I really wish id fired back "who needs a boyfriend when you have Anne Summers shops"