The trouble with documents such as the SEN CoP, is that words used in them have legal definition rather than language definition. So whereas in normal English Language we can substitute words that mean roughly the same and still convey the same essence, in using the SEN CoP, substituting even one word can be troublesome.
For example: '4:36 In a very few cases where there are severe and complex needs the extent of the child?s needs will be evident.'
The tendency is for parents and posters (me included) to think 'ahahaaa I can show 'severe''. Or 'ahahaaa I can show complex'. Then the enthusiasm and desire to help turns clause 4:36 into:
'4:36 In a very few cases where there are severe or complex needs the extent of the child?s needs will be evident.'
But, for clause 4:36 to stand, the child in question must have severe AND complex needs. That means that
a) a child with moderate but complex needs
b) a child with severe but non-complex needs
c) a child with moderate but non-complex needs
would not be covered by the clause.
That clause is reserved for 'a very few cases'. To rely on that clause, you have to demonstrate that your child's needs are so severe AND so Complex that they should not have to follow the usual process.
If the child is not one that has severe AND complex needs, or where the child's severe and complex needs are not to the extent that they are immediately obvious, then the procedure from 4:41 applies.
'4:41 In deciding whether a statutory assessment is necessary for a child over two but under
compulsory school age, where the child is attending an early education setting, the LEA
should ask the following questions:
a. what difficulties have been identified by the setting? Have the practitioners provided
individualised strategies through Early Years Action and Early Years Action Plus to
assist the child?
b. has outside advice been sought, regarding the child?s:
physical health and functioning
communication skills
perceptual and motor skills
self-help skills
social skills
emotional and behavioural development
responses to learning experiences.
have parental views been considered?
4:42 Where a child is not attending an early education setting the LEA should try to collect as much information as is possible before deciding whether to assess.
4:43 The LEA will then assess the evidence and decide whether the child?s difficulties or developmental delays are likely to be addressed only through a statement of special educational needs. Where a child?s educational needs appear to be sufficiently severe or complex as to require attention for much of the child?s school life, or that the evidence points to the need for specialist early intervention that cannot be provided in the current setting, then the LEA is likely to conclude that an assessment is necessary.'
Note, that the language changes from 4:41 onwards, to 'Severe OR complex'. However, the trade-off is that there will be a much more detailed look at what the pre-school have tried to do themselves.
So, back to your dilemma...perhaps worth trying, but I agree with Justa, that an uphill struggle is on your way until your suspicions are proven.
Having said that, the setting where your DS has hurt other children would have evidence for you.