DH will not accept that ds may have Autism.

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This was first picked up 2 years ago and he is still being assessed and monitored, all the signs are there and every proffesional has agreed that he has a delay in social skill, communication and speech. The worst problem we have is his toileting (he will be 5 in Feb) he continues to have regular accidents both number1s and 2s, I have to take in 2 sets of spare uniform to school every day, and he still wears a nappy to bed.

dh refuses to see there is anything wrong, he says he is just lazy and accuses me of molly coddling him, his mother thinks I just have'nt been bothered to toilet train him properly, despite the fact she has seen me pulling my hair out for the last 2 years desperatley trying to help him learn.

Also seeing other peoples points of view, and there reaction to his ways, made him open his eyes abit i think.

Yes, then it's not just you saying it but other mums in similar situations.

Not bad socci, Spoke with the woman who said she saw no sign of ASD, she is actualy from an orginisation called 'Access & Inclusion Service' they have teams of different specialists and she is from 'Complex Communication/Autism team. She was actualy very nice once I had informed her of all of the signs I see that go back to when he was a baby. She asked so many questions, and she said he is an interesting but concerning little boy.

She has advised me to speak with my paediatrician and ask to be reffered to an orginisation called 'CASBAT' (have you heard of this? I will explain who they are if you hav'nt) as they work alot quicker and will come to a dx sooner rather than later.

I also mentioned I did'nt want ds disressed by this zero tolorence rubbish, I told her I dont mind them being a bit tougher, as they do tend to let him get away with alot, I mentioned if he was distressed he would develop a temper rash on his forehead, so they would have an indication to know when to cool off (the good thing about that is the temper rash will last hours so I will aslo know if they have pushed him to far)

Also spoke with my HV, she agreed that the paediatrician stepping in while DSs is on Maternity leave is not that great (I m not the only parent to complain apparently) She will be back off M leave in January so she is goint to have a word and try to get us in ASAP.

Oooh and also DS has now been referred to the language unit that is based on the school premises, not sure what that is about yet, his teacher said she will speak to me next week.

So how are you

Dh has agreed to go easier on ds and to try and take on board what the specialists are saying.

Just checked you did mention CASBAT sorry about that.

I hope you get your assessment for your DD, do you know when you will hear?

Blimey, 6 weeks is a long time when you are waiting for a decision like that, I will keep my fingers crossed for you

Oh I will keep nagging, I am on my high horse since starting this thread