DH will not accept that ds may have Autism.

[snowfalls]

This was first picked up 2 years ago and he is still being assessed and monitored, all the signs are there and every proffesional has agreed that he has a delay in social skill, communication and speech. The worst problem we have is his toileting (he will be 5 in Feb) he continues to have regular accidents both number1s and 2s, I have to take in 2 sets of spare uniform to school every day, and he still wears a nappy to bed.

dh refuses to see there is anything wrong, he says he is just lazy and accuses me of molly coddling him, his mother thinks I just have'nt been bothered to toilet train him properly, despite the fact she has seen me pulling my hair out for the last 2 years desperatley trying to help him learn.

waiting to hear (that should have read)

His teacher has referred him to an orginisation that specialise in severe communication difficulties (I forgot the name now, something like s.i.c)apparently they are the blanket of special needs, so they have all the resources to different specialists, and refer him to the orginisations that will benefit him the most.

He seems to like school, but is nervy in a crowd, due to his lack in social skills.

I walked past the playground last week while his class were out playing. He could'nt see me but I was watching when 3 boys ran over to him calling his name telling him to come and play, and ds panicked and ordered them away If it had just been one boy that had went over to him he would have been fine

I wish I had asked about this much sooner. Gonna start stamping my feet now.

Thanks for the advice, and the chat

Thankyou

OK, now I am confused

Ds was seen by someone from 'severe communication difficulties' at school today, and she has said she does not think DS is on the Autistic spectrum, that he is just difficult and playing a game. The school have now asked my permission for them to take the 'zero tolerence' approach with him in the hope of some improvement.

This is the first proffesional to say, they see no sign of AS.

So my question is would a proffesional who specialises in communication difficulties, also specialise in AS? Would she know enough to rule out AS or was it just her opinion.

these are some of DS symptoms-

Still not toilet trained.

lack of social skills.

slight delay in speech development.

He rocks all the time, has done since he was a baby.

instructions have to be repeated on average 3 times.

Appears not to hear me most of the time.

Struggles to interact in groups, normally does not even try.

Behind on motor skills, ie still can not use a knife and fork, struggles greatly to get dressed.

Often appears to be in his own world.

Yes he was late pointing, and never ever babbled as a baby.

I am meeting this woman on the 6th December, not sure witch organization she was from, did not even know she was at the school today either.

His teacher has said she is normally quite lienient (sp?) with him, but asked my permission to try the zerp tolerance, for a short while, I have said I do not want him to be distressed in anyway, and she said not to worry , that she will build it up, but will stop if it becomes too much.

I am waiting for am appointment to come through from his Paediatrician, so I will have every detail of his behaviour written down as I do not want him written off. Also have appointment with HV this Friday, sos will update her and tell her and tell her my concerns.

I will ask HV to chase it up on Fri, she should have a better chance than me.

Thanks again for the advice

No not seen that one, will do a search for it and have a read through it tomorrow, best go and iron DS uniform now and do his packed lunch.

thanks

ooh, cheers

OOOPS, DH found this thread.

OMG! What did he say?

Not alot oddly, think it might actually be sinking in now, so maybe it was a good thing he found it.

Yeah, seeing your feelings in black and white and also stuff about ds in black and white is probably a good thing in a way