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EllenJaneisnotmyname · 06/05/2011 19:21

Hi all. Enjoying the lovely weather?

Do you like my new name? I got bored with the "1".

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EllenJaneisnotmyname · 06/05/2011 20:49

Hi there, DietcokeGirl. Is your toddler a bum shuffler? My friend's DD didn't walk til 22 months, completely 'normal' 14 year old now. Is the HV concerned? You know us, we don't recommend ignoring anything you are worried about. Does he bear weight?

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TheNinjaGooseIsOnAMission · 06/05/2011 20:52

dietcoke, hopefully they'll have got rid of sats by then, they do seem to be going out of fashion. I'm still worrying about ds2, younger sib to dd3 (sn) I've had her physio check him over, she told me not to be so daft, in the nicest possible way of course, hasn't stopped me worrying about him though Brew or Wine

cankles, good luck, will keep fingers crossed. Yes, it's been very windy but it wasn't this bad for me last year, my eyes are so puffy, I look sooooooo attractive Hmm

asd, hope ds settles again soon, must have been a fright for him.

indigo, waves Smile

babyheave, I feel the same, would normally have started on the gin but I'm knackered tonight!

ellen, I must bump the september high school starters thread, think my disguise ideas put everyone off Grin

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EllenJaneisnotmyname · 06/05/2011 20:54

Indigo, maybe not so bad in a timed assessment. Hopefully lots of opportunities in normal lessons. Does she get 25% extra time?

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DietcokeGirl · 06/05/2011 20:56

EJ - are you a fan of the Ting Tings?!! Hee hee.

Yep he a bum shuffler, will stand up at tool bench, back against sofa, tummy against adult etc. He can pull himself up to standing but doesn't do it that often. He wants to be walked all the time but terrified of letting go. He doesn't cruise, climb onto his riders etc. He been walking on the sand this week with us holding his hands. I wouldn't be so paranoid but have seen a few threads that link it to ASD. The nursery nurse from clinic came a few mths ago and thought his legs etc were fine but don't think I can go on her opinion if you get my drift. She did say take him to GP if I am really worried.

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EllenJaneisnotmyname · 06/05/2011 21:04

Is that hypermobility, DCG? I've heard that on here. Another friend's DS is hypermobile but very NT.

Not really a Ting Tings fan, but I wanted to still be recognisable!

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cankles · 06/05/2011 21:10

thanks Ninja, I will let you know, might need to have a quiet sob of disappointment if things don't go his way; hopefully it will be fine!

Glad the reading is coming along nicely Indigo, it's great to see the improvements!

I am off to watch a film - can't get either of the boys off to bed yet so am going to join them (and dd is in bed singing!) ! x

nenevomito · 06/05/2011 21:12

Ninjagoose - always happy to meet a fellow gin drinker. I still have some Bombay Sapphire around if you're interested.

I'm slightly at my wits end this week at the wood chewing that is going on here this week. Two dining chairs, the length of the bannister, poor DDs wooden pull along toy and DSs bed have all been attacked. Off to B&Q I go tomorrow for a plank of pine wood!

Does anyone else have a chewer?

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EllenJaneisnotmyname · 06/05/2011 21:15

Night, cankles. Ninja, I keep pointing people at the secondary transition thread, then feel guilty that it's a bit, well, neglected.

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EllenJaneisnotmyname · 06/05/2011 21:21

DS2 seems to have stopped chewing so much. (at last) We had to throw away six dining room chairs where the chewed wood had gone black. His cabin bed sides and steps are very chewed. He ruined loads of t-shirts, collars and hems, etc. Still chews his rucksack straps. How's the school book box?

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nenevomito · 06/05/2011 21:31

I have a meeting with them next week where I can find out! Its getting to the stage where we need to repaint the bannisters.

How old is your DS2?

You'd laugh, we got one of the termly letters from school telling us about what they are doing this term and asks the question "Is there anything you'd like to ask us about your child" to which I've replied "I think we're covered, thanks"

IndigoBell · 06/05/2011 21:33

Ellen - DD doesn't get extra time. She doent need it She doesn't have any physical problem with writing. She just can't spell. At all.

So I don't think it's all right that she gets a writer. They will now try and tell me that she's made progress this year. Whereas in reality her writing hasn't improved at all. To the point where they got her a writer..... (sorry, meant to say the writer was for her writing assessment.)

It's not right.

mummyplum · 06/05/2011 21:36

Hi all...Brew

TheNinjaGooseIsOnAMission · 06/05/2011 21:37

Grin or should that be Gin babyheave, oooh sounds lovely!

Triggles · 06/05/2011 21:45

Hi all. Sorry I've been rather noncommunicative lately. I've been stressed to the eyeballs, which has not made me the most sociable person to be around lately, I have to admit. I've been making a huge effort to be patient with the children, but it just means that I've nothing left for anything else. It must be somewhat like DS2 feels when he struggles to behave for a short period of time, then falls apart afterwards.

Nowhere to go but up I suppose.....

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EllenJaneisnotmyname · 06/05/2011 21:46

No, you're right Indigo. It would be much better to let her write it herself then read it through with her afterwards and annotate any difficult to work out words. But I think they had good intentions, they want to be able to measure her ability and think she'll get a better result this way. They do either at my school, depending on the SEN. But for dyslexia with no dyspraxia a scribe isn't really necessary.

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EllenJaneisnotmyname · 06/05/2011 21:48

Hi Triggles. Is it better now they're back in a routine at school? It's been a disruptive few weeks with all the Bank Hols.

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EllenJaneisnotmyname · 06/05/2011 21:53

Babyheave, DS2 is 11 now. I'm sure it's a sensory thing, he used to chew pebbles, snails, eat sand etc. Now it's only coat zips, cuffs and rucksacks.

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Triggles · 06/05/2011 21:55

I don't really know. Everything has been so chaotic. DS2 started his RDA riding sessions this week, which was great. He loves it. But someone was supposed to monitor him on the same day that he was gone to the riding, and they seemed a bit snarky that he wasn't there when they showed up. Fair enough, but I had requested to them ages ago to have them email me ahead of their visits so I could let them know if he had appointments or anything at that time, so there was no problem with that. And generally they did that, but for some reason this time, she didn't let me know she was coming to monitor him. Not my fault, really, but there I was apologising for it. grrrrrrrrrr Still dealing with the fall out emotionally from my dad's death. I've spent too much money overcompensating this month, and I'm cross with myself over it. DH has moments where he is driving me batty. And I'm coming down with another sinus/cold/allergy problem again - seriously think I'm so run down that I'm constantly catching things - and I'm run down because when I'm stressed I get insomnia, adding that to DS2 waking at night and I'm very much walking around like "night of the living dead" here.

sigh.... sorry... that's where I'm at.....

Triggles · 06/05/2011 21:56

that someone to monitor him was through the school... she showed up at school and DS2 wasnt there... sorry, typo

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EllenJaneisnotmyname · 06/05/2011 22:04

Sorry to hear that, Triggles. At least RDA is good. DS2 used to go when he was your DSs age, up at the race course?

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Triggles · 06/05/2011 22:08

yes. It's during school hours, which (since he's in reception) the school was fine with. If it is of continued benefit for him, I will make sure the school approves him to continue during year 1, even if it is during school hours. Sorry to be such a downer... I think everything has just been too much lately... I debated contacting you about meeting for coffee this week, but then chaos cropped up again.... perhaps another time if you're willing...

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EllenJaneisnotmyname · 06/05/2011 22:13

That would be nice! PM me.

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tabulahrasa · 07/05/2011 01:47

IndigoBell - a writing assessment isn't about spelling though, if her spelling makes it hard to understand what she's written or limits her word choice having a scribe will show that her ability is higher than she can usually show... which highlights the problems her spelling is causing

it shows the gap between what she is capable of producing and what she is producing and could be handy for evidence that she needs more support in spelling so that she can achieve her potential

IndigoBell · 07/05/2011 06:28

Tabulahrasa - but her spelling isn't limiting her word choice. She is soooooo bad at spelling that she doesn't even realize she can't spell.

No one disputes that her a ability is higher than what she can do. But I don't want her to have more support. I want school to actually teach her.

She gets far too much support at school.

tabulahrasa · 07/05/2011 11:17

I meant support for her spelling - as in do something about it rather than have someone doing it for her

DS definitely limits his written vocabulary by avoiding words he knows he can't spell, he can't spell the ones he thinks he can either right enough, lol