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Feeling very down about DS1

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DinoScareUs · 21/10/2005 16:36

DS had a really bad day at school today (of course, it's the last day before half-term - unlikely to be coincidence as he's always been awful with changes and transitions).

DH (who collects him) has not been able to get teh bottom of what happened. The class teacher was out of the room, but apparently DS1 had run-ins with two children. He hit one girl over the head with a book, and got in a fight with the other. These are both children that he's had "incidents" with in the past.

DS1 wouldn't tell the teacher what had happened, or DH either, but another child in the class told DH as they were walking home that someone had ripped DS1's work. DS1 is now saying that he "can't remember" anything.

Feel very down about this. Got to go home now and put a brave face on it and jolly them all along through bathtime and bedtime and then try and cheer DH up. Have raging PMT as well.

Sorry, bit of a pity party here.

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stressedmummy · 21/10/2005 16:47

Poor you, dinosaur.
I know how upsetting these school incidents are.
Have yourself a large drink tonight!

macwoozy · 21/10/2005 16:49

Isn't it awful when they have an especially bad day at school. I always feel so protective when I hear about incidents like this with my ds.

binkie · 21/10/2005 16:53

I might have missed you, but I'm sending sympathy and bon courage for tonight anyway.

Might the story emerge when he is feeling less distressed?

xxx

Socci · 21/10/2005 16:56

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ScummyMummy · 21/10/2005 16:58

If someone did rip his work that would explain his actions wouldn't it? Hope things cheer up, dino. If anyone can jolly things along through raging pmt it's you, so rest assured that if you can't then no one can and relax with a nice glass of wine. Tomorrow is a non school day and will be better.

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DinoScareUs · 21/10/2005 17:03

Thank you, everyone. sm and Scummy, my reputation for enjoying a drink, eh?

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ScummyMummy · 21/10/2005 17:07

No! I didn't know about that reputation at all. It is Friday though and everyone knows that it's practically mandatory to have a drink on a Friday and definitely mandatory to have a drink if you've had a bad day and it's Friday.

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DinoScareUs · 21/10/2005 17:09

You're right, it is Friday night, although this was meant to be a non-drinking week in the dinosaur household, and indeed neither DH nor I has touched a drop since last Saturday.

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macwoozy · 21/10/2005 17:09

I'll have one if you do. Only problem is I can never stick to one

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DinoScareUs · 21/10/2005 17:11

Same here, macwoozy. But it is not good for my palpitations if I have too much and I don't have to have very much for it to be too much, iyswim...

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stressedmummy · 21/10/2005 17:11

Always cheers me up, dino!

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DinoScareUs · 21/10/2005 17:14

I will definitely be having one or two (euphemism) at the meet-up...

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macwoozy · 21/10/2005 17:14

You should ask for an implantable defibrillator like mine, that sorts out my palpitations and now I can drink to excess again

stressedmummy · 21/10/2005 17:15

Just read the bit about you giving up drink since last Saturday!
Well done!!!!
I have managed 2 nights without, this week & am very proud of myself!!!

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DinoScareUs · 21/10/2005 17:18

macwoozy I have only had one full-blown attack, happily, and that was over two and a half years ago now so I am told there is a good chance that I may not have another, at least not for many years, but I often have days when my heart seems to flutter a lot and then I get panicky that I'm about to have another attack.

Still, glad to know yours is working so well now!

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DinoScareUs · 21/10/2005 17:21

stressedmummy - thanks!

Last time I did it (in Sept) I did manage a whole week but was very grumpy!

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stressedmummy · 21/10/2005 17:24

Last time I managed a week without, I had the flu!!!
Are you talking 1 or 2 glasses, or bottles, at the meet up???!

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DinoScareUs · 21/10/2005 17:32

Well...if I had two bottles, someone would have to pour me into a taxi and send me home - I'd be comatose!

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stressedmummy · 21/10/2005 17:37

Forgot to add, if you look out for someone who resembles Julia Roberts, you will stand no chance of bumping into me at the meet up!!!
I look nothing like her!

stressedmummy · 21/10/2005 17:48

Are you feeling a bit better now, dino?

coppertop · 21/10/2005 18:30

Poor ds1. I was wondering the same as Binkie about whether ds1 will tell you more when he's feeling calmer. I know that my ds1 will often blurt out details days after the event. In any case I'm not sure I'd like the idea of a class of 6yr-olds being left unsupervised in a classroom.

Enjoy that drink.

Davros · 21/10/2005 19:32

You're not going to stay of the grog over half term are you??
Sorry to hear that DS1 has had a bad day. Is it just a day and, as you say, could be put down to it being the last day before the hol? I agree, I wouldn't be happy to hear that the whole class was left unsupervised but I'm completely inexperienced when it comes to m/s school, maybe this is normal and unavoidable sometimes?
What meet-up? Do you mean that big Xmas one? (nosey emoticon)

Blossomhowl · 22/10/2005 08:56

So sorry to hear this Dino

It's so hard when you can't get out of them exactly what happened. I know as dd is very much the same and tends to block things out when I ask her about anything.

Does ds have any support at school? Wasn't sure as I know how well he has been doing.

Chin up

Love BH xxx

tigermoth · 22/10/2005 09:08

Similar thing happened here. Got a fab report about ds2 from his class teacher on Thursday night at his parent/teacher meeting.

But ds2 came home from school on Friday telling us he had a 'time out' (school's worst type of minus mark) because he punched a girl in the face at playtime . This is pretty out of character. ds2 wouldn't tell us about it. Despite severe questioning he would not be interrogated. Stubborn streak at its worst. He put a cushion over his face and we heard a muffled 'I don't want to discuss it' coming out. Will try to get to the bottom of it today.

At least no notes about it from teacher in bookbag - that always sends me to the drink. Thank goodness for half term!

I am sure there is more to the story from my ds2 and from your ds1, as well. At least in your case you do have something to go on. No wonder he was upset if his work was ripped.

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DinoScareUs · 22/10/2005 12:51

Hi everyone. I am feeling better today - thanks so much for your support.

DS1 wouldn't tell me anything about it last night, but like Coppertop's DS he tends to let details seep out slowly, often days later, so I might get more out of him later.

The class was not completely unsupervised but the class teacher himself was not there as he does some sort of learning for parents group on Friday mornings. DH says he is not sure what the status of the person who was looking after them is but he didn't seem to be vry on the ball (DH is very hyper-critical though).

Anyway, I hope it's just a day. The boy with whom he had a fight is a big lad with a bit of a reputation, though, so not DS1's cleverest idea. Having said that, the two of them had a fight in a loo at the Science Museum last year and there didn't seem to be any repercussions from that as far as we know.

Anyway, off to get their hair cut soon, so must go.

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