You do need to take a certain amount on trust...

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feel free to add any gems of advice you have received during the statementing process.

The above from both the statementing officer and Parent Partnership, when I asked why DS' provision is not being quantified

LOL(sarcastic laugh) are they taking the Pee? my PP would never say that omg im gobsmacked sorry not very helpful i know

you have to laugh or you would weep don't you?

This from my Social worker, when I emailed her after the Christmas holidays saying I was struggling to cope-

'I can only empathise with how you are feeling emotionally and would suggest you spend time during the school day (when [DD] is in school) doing something nice for yourself.
I will be on leave from 13.1.2011 for 3 weeks.'

I was literally gobsmacked at the time. I'd emailed her to see if she'd completed the Carers assessment started in October,or put in an application for DP yet. She hadnt done either.

I really didn't need to hear about doing something NICE for myself!! Weirdly I expected her to be DOING HER JOB.

Still it kicked me into action realising that I was not going to get any help from anyone unless I wised up.

This is from SENCO of school being consulted:

Section 3 isn't quantified so the school has flexibility to decide what to do

Peaceflower...I have also had that comment too...and "it's not quantified because if he has full time 1-1 it will hinder DS developing independece skills"...although this last one was from the woman at Parent Partnership so it went into the file marked "uninformed bullshit"

@ Sensory difficulties are in line with a child with a dx of ASD, therefore no therapy is indicated.sorry WTF

it all means only one thing doesnt it?!! can you smell something ??? oh yeah BULLSHIT (sorry if i offend xx)

the bus is not meant to be comming down this one way street therefore we decided on your behalf to let you get run over and not say anything because its not nessasary it was going to run you over sometime wasnt it

I always think of that phrase...can't remember which comedy thing it's from..."Really? How interesting?"...I am thinking it in my head all the time these ridiculous things are being spouted. It's a very calming mantra...

I think the answer to it should be taken on trust is, no it should be clear and quantified! I do trust some of the professionals involved with ds, but they have proved themselves trustworthy!

But with a statement you need it written in stone IMO.

Senco at DD's last school told me, after I'd been querying the response to a single service request made 6 months earlier, that the Ed Psyche would not be assessing DD as her arms and legs worked.

If you don't laugh,you cry!

starlight did you say his autism isnt going to go away ...but DLA seem to think it will so why not lol we can all live in lala or is that LA land

i may use a few of those btw starlight ,do you have copyrights lol they are brilliant comebacks to all the dross they roll out

well my poor ds started reception being told by deputy head (well she said it to me on parents eveing) hes never going to be accademic he will probably be good with his hands ... perhaps i should have said yeah takes after his dad, or told her what a low life as a teacher and deputy head i think she is and told her go on a diet faty and brush your teeth(she had horrendous teeth covered with food all the time i found myself staring at them whenever she spoke)and she was built like a bloomin sherman tank

'We do the same as aba we just measure less and write down less...and it's not fair to criticise us for not implementing programmes because we don't do Programmes, we do advice and support. Advice and support does not have to be face to face it could be on the phone or sending information in the post.'

Autism advisory service explaining to tribunal what their service actually does (there being no evidence of having done anything in the written file).

And Sen officer 'we don't want a TA glued to him we always hold some hours back to stop dependency'

And salt 'it would not matter if I saw him once a week for speech therapy as he does not know me, it would make no difference, communication has to be all day everyday so it will be much better if parents do the targets everyday themselves'

Oh and sen manager 'he can't go to mld nursery because he does not have severe and complex needs only autism.'
Me: 'how do you define severe and complex'
Manager 'he would need a feeding tube'
(1/3 of children in mld school have asd and I did not see a single child with a feeding tube)