Anyone with more than one ASD child?

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Have noticed similarities between ds, 8, ASD and dd aged 4. She has just started nursery and I am sure it will be picked up now if there is anything.

Just wondered if anyone else has more than one asd child, what are the chances etc. No one in family believes ds has it, can't imagine what will be said now.

I don't, but lots of people do - there's definitely a genetic link with ASDs

i have 3ds and a dd eldest son is ok but next one has asd,next ds has adhd, and my dd has aspergers, asd (not sure if aspergers and asd are same)keep getting told different
I had problem with my inlaws they wouldn't accept that my children had problems till i took them to hospital

we believe my DH has AS my DS has ASD my husband is milder but has a lot of the known triad of impairments but in his day and mine im nearly 50 he was just thought of (as they are by a lot of peopple still today) as just a bit naughty with qwirks he was sent to a SS as he used to get so upset at not being able to communicate his feelings to people he would become violent as his mum put it now i see when he tells me what was happening and why he did what he did i completely understand it seems logical to me pitty they didnt listen and see the markers back then

Both mine are on the spectrum and I am as well.

I have a 6 year old with severe autism (and a few other things) and my 7 year old has just been diagnosed as having high functioning autism.

My inlaws 'don't believe in all this autism rubbish' I think it's quite common for families to be in denial, especially the older generation who sometimes feel it's a slur on the family.

Yes. Both of mine have it.

I am convinced it is genetic.

My DS2 has 'moderate, classic autism' (according to his Paed) - I am convinced that DS1 has autistic traits (and so is his teacher).

It means I watch DD like a hawk and drive myself crazy trying to analyse everything she does. :(

Thank you. Quite comforting actually to know there are a fair few out there. Pretty sure ex H has it and his Grandad too, I am convinced it is genetic as well, but you can't help scanning back for what you may have done can you? Maybe didn't socialise them enough and so on. Oh well time will tell.

I have ds 16 and dd 7 with ASD. My eldest son 23 has dyspraxia and the other two are gifted. The paed says there is definitely a genetic link in our family and suspects something on chromosome 15. Only adavances in the study genetics though will confirm this.

'but you can't help scanning back for what you may have done can you?'

I think we all look to blame ourselves a wee bit lol! I remember a pre school teacher telling me that my older son was mimicking his brother's behaviour to get attention as he was neglected! Our other boy was very seriously ill at that stage and it was very difficult without someone telling me I wasn't giving my other children attention!

now that he's been diagnosed too I actually feel a wee bit relieved that I know it's not his upbringing, it's just him if that makes sense :)

My two DDs both have ASD.
Girls can present in a different way to boys, so I would certainly ask for an assessment.

What were the signs in your dd's Lisa if you don't mind me asking?

I have 2 dd's with ASD and a step son with possible AS and ADHD, also i have a dh with many ASD traits. I have met quite a few parents with more than one on the spectrum. Most of the parents i know have boys on the spectrum and as Lisa said 'it can present in different ways to boys'. My girls are different from each other (only shair a couple traits), one hates being touched, the other likes lots of touch and deep presure. Both like routine, both have sleep problems. Dd1's main problem is with anxiety, dd's problems are with language and sensory isues.

I have 3 DS, the oldest is pretty much NT but quite geeky, the middle DS is fairly high functioning ASD and the youngest is just very quirky. I did Physics at Uni and DH did Maths and is a computer programmer. In retrospect we think DH's DB is on the spectrum and also his DF. I'd say definitely genetic, but my side of the family won't have it! "We are all normal, must be his side." But I did worse on the ASD test than my husband...

Well my ex seems to think that it was because I took paracetamol in both my pregnancies that has caused this. I am sitting here crying my fucking eyes out.

paracetemol was deemed safe in pregnancy at least while i was expecting. so even if they could ever actually prove a link you were were definitely not doing anything remotely seen as risky.

what a charmer your ex is. I guess you should just congratulate yourself on him being an ex and keep reminding yourself that he talks a load of cr*p

Your ex is a knob do not blame yourself.If paracetamol was to blame then there would be an awful lot more ASD about.
You will drive yourself nuts trying to pinpoint a cause even the bloody experts can't do that. Chin up have a brew and look forward and the next time the ex is round at yours spit in his cup when you make him a coffee

because crunchy is obviously much more polite than I am

Thank you . I had tooth problems (due to pregnancy!) in the early months of both pregnancies and had to have teeth out so would take half a paracetamol at night so I could sleep, pain kept me awake otherwise. Trouble is because it happened both times he has pinned the ASD on that.

I only did it for about a week each time, never took anything else thoroughout the rest of the pregnancy.

I took paracetamol at times with all five of mine on the advice of the GP. OK two have ASD but three don't so what does that tell you. The paracetamol had nothing to do with the ASD in either my kids or yours.
Be kind to yourself won't you? You are not to blame I promise you.

I don't remember taking any paracetamol with DS (PFB and all that, lol) I definitely took loads with DD as I had SPD

DD's about as typical as they come

I've got the odd trait, my dad's decidedly odd, my maternal uncle we have no doubt at all would have been diagnosed with AS if he was a child now, my DP has a few traits himself and a cousin with ASD

I'm pretty sure that between us both we just gave poor DS a really dodgy combination of genes

There's definitely a genetic link, there have been enough studies showing that it runs in families to prove that, just we're not at the point yet that it's been isolated as to exactly how it comes about

I really doubt it's paracetamol though, lol, it's the only painkiller that is deemed safe during pregnancy - that wouldn't be the case if there seemed to be any link

Thing is we all likely took paracetomol in our life, its deemed safe and been used for years, tell your ex to sod off

My girls are very different from each other. DD1 has meltdowns, hates changes, hates touch, eye contact is inconsistant, she has obessive behaviours, will spend hours on safe task and hates socail interaction.
DD2 is physically aggressive, loves touch, eye contact is inconsistant, loves to wind others up, has no empthy at all, hand flaps, tip toe walks, spins, screeches, has no attachment to anything or anyone, she has echolalia, and speech delay.

DD2 is younger at 3 1/2 so Im hoping she will make improvements in years to come. Her sister (dd1) manages well in MS school with some support where as DD2 attends a SN preschool.

girls generally are able to hide their difficutlies, and pick up easier on social skills bt if you watch their play its normally unusal, repetative and copied from their peers. hth

Your ex just wants to blame someone and you are first in line. Millions of pregnant women take paracetamol. The causes are genetic plus other unknown factors. Definitely no one's fault and definitely not yours.