CAN MUMSNET HELP US???

[gilly3]

Dear mumsnet,can you help the the parent/carers on your forum,by possibly sending all of our stories to the pm,or helping us to keep the stories in the media,it would be a great help and i,m sure you would have all of our support.
WHAT DO YOU SAY MUMSNET?ITS GOT TO BE WORTH A GO,HASN,T IT?.XX

What show me were i said damn right please,I don't even speak like that,anything I have to say to you I've said it,I said I think you are toooo serious about the board and just need to relax.

Why are you trying to make me be someone who I'm not?? It's not me who said you haven't got a life,want benefits ect..it was me who said you are too defensive and netmums is just a forum..it's just a support group fango.

You dont have to like me or anything that's fine I said it really,really is ok as I said it's just forum.

How ever it is a forum that I enjoy and get a laugh on some good support and potentially a few new friends,just drop it fango stop being so hostile! Draw a line under it I have!

In the interests of transparency, and not to be 'cliquish' I have just apologised to Fanjo in a PM if I seemed to be suggesting she was 'newbie-bashing'. She isn't, I am sure of it. What she is doing is protecting a very special place from a less than special vibe. That isn't anyone in particular's fault, but just imagined if something you treasured was disembowled before your very eyes.

The fight for SN:Children to be a sanctuary was hard-fought. Let's not lose that sanctuary by our own doing from within the board, eh? Otherwise trolls and journos will be the least of our worries.

You have come across as quite aggressive towards Fanjo at times whathis. I really don't want this to keep going but you do need to learn how to back off yourself and the SN forum will offer you lots back without all this crap. People generally conduct themselves with civility and diplomacy on here. I know that sounds a bit up my own arse, but it really helps make this board fantastic and supportive if people really try to be diplomatic. That can mean holding ones tongue.

I know Fanjo is more than capable of speaking for herself, but when Doricsue wrote her poisonous little post you said:

WHAThisFlappinNotFlyin Thu 27-Jan-11 13:16:51
Well said doricsue!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Your deleted posts also included the comments Fanjo mentions and name-calling.

I don't normally get involved in other people's spats but as the comments have been deleted I think it's only fair to point out that Fanjo is not lying, picking fights, or bullying.

WHAThisFlappinNotFlyin why are you so determined to argue with me?

And I realise I could have made my last comment more civilly! I think I'll scuttle away now and make tea

Poisonous post about what,fango needing to stop arguing and get a life,yeah? I said well said because she has been arguing with all morning but if you look I've apologised and even said I don't have much if a life away from caring for my children!

I'm not arguing with you I'm trying to make sense and peace but you want it to be a row,which is why your being so defensive!

maybe i'm defensive because I keep being attacked?

Fanjo, if you want confirmation you could ask MNHQ to confirm why the posts were deleted.
But regardless of what you do, I hope you stay and keep posting on here.

I'm not sure this is worth the effort!

By who me? Re read The original post where I said what's all this oldie newbie stuff and what's with the bitching and bullying then tell me who was attacking who please!

i can't be bothered, I need a break from this nonsense tbh

Donkey this has been going on far before this post! Yes I was peed off this morning because I said something that I had no intention of upsetting anyone and it was completely taken the other way! Fanjo,obviously you lot were all friends before I came along a few months back and no matter what I say it will have a negative impact.

If you think Doricsue's post was fine then maybe this really isn't the right place for you.

I give up too. Lots of us have tried to be nice and have recognised that you're having a rough time of it IRL and tried to help. You still keep trying to argue though and tbh I really can't be bothered anymore.

I think I'll come with you Fanjo, this isn't a place I want to be at the moment.

'ON THAT NOTE ARE THERE ANY MUMS ON HERE WHO HAVE A TESTOSTERONE FUELLED AUTISTIC SON,WHO ARE FACING CHALLENGING BEHAVOUR????'

Me Gilly, he's 16 now.I have worked with the schools, battled through obstacles and enabled him to access activities by using 'reasonable accommodation'as a crowbar to open opportunities denied him.
I have worked with him on developing strategies which have worked to the point where he hasn't had an exclusion for almost two years, whereas in Y7, there was a significant incident most weeks.
Good thing too, considering he's now 5'11" 12 stone and very strong. A meltdown would cause significant damage to people and property.
But I'm not spending my evenings on the SN board, wading through posts like those made recently. It's damaging my karma.
Find me on the main boards if you want me folks.

lol at thought of me being the school bully, was a quiet wee thing.

OK, now I am getting cross, again.

LISTEN UP!!!

This board is 'HOME' to a good few posters who have been here a LONG TIME. We are known for welcoming new posters, giving good advice, giving non-judgemental support to people who are struggling, and being GREAT at filling in the paper mountains that LAs try to drown us with.

IF you want that sort of support on this board, you are welcome. Join in, give and get advice.

THIS IS OUR BOARD. I haven't been around for quite some time, lurking instead of posting. BUT this board has its own rules.

1. You welcome people who need help.
2. What goes on this board stays on this board. We don't gossip, we don't take it to other places, we don't take it to other sections of MN and we DON'T give it to the press.
3. We do NOT tolerate back-biting, bitching, people who push other people down to make themselves feel a bit better. There are other places for that - AIBU, etc.

DO NOT come on here and stress out posters who have quite enough stress in RL. Leave it at the door, take it somewhere else.

THIS STOPS NOW.

As you were

Gosh, I'm a little wary of posting on this thread! Several people have been upset and I think, if we can, we should draw a line under it and end this thread NOW. I'm not going to comment on the posts that have caused upset otherwise it's not going to end.

I don't want to see ANYONE leaving MN, but think we should think before we post anything that may cause distress. As many others have said, MN is a forum for help and support. I know that I've been extremely grateful for advice and support in the past.

Re Gilly3's original post, although the majority of us would not want our posts sent to the PM as we would probably be identified and subjected to the same treatment as Riven (I hope she and her DD are ok), I believe her post was well intentioned. Gilly3 you obviously do a lot to campaign in your own right and I admire you for that.

Please no one attack me (runs for cover).

I am standing behind you Lougie. Time to claim our safe place back.

Well said Lougle!

Knuckle dusters......do you have to dust knuckles too....I knew my house keeping was slack, but now I really need that pair from How Clean is your house?!

I believe it was covered in Freud's "Hello Mr Muscle, goodbye Autism"

Ditto what Lougle said.
Gilly - would be best for everyone if you could get this thread deleted please. We all have enough rl stress and for some of us this is our sanctuary. I personally would like the board to get back to the relaxing way it was before with everyone getting along and supporting each other.

sign also waves pom poms for lougle.

and honks to everyone!