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I feel very bad............

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anniebear · 02/10/2005 20:50

As most of you know, Grace and Ellie started full time School at the beginning of September and I have a confession.........

I don't miss them

I keep telling myself that I have had a very hard 4 years and I am now enjoying some time to myself, but I still feel bad.

I feel that I should be missing them lots

Is that awful? Am I as horrible as I sound?

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QueenOfQuotes · 02/10/2005 20:52

Not horrible at all! DS1 hasn't started full time, (week on monday he starts full time) and I can't wait!!!

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anniebear · 02/10/2005 20:53

Oh Thank you!!!!!!!!!!

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Socci · 02/10/2005 20:54

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Jimjams · 02/10/2005 20:55

when I found out I was pregnant with ds3 the first thing I did was work out when he would start school (2009!!)

chonky · 02/10/2005 20:56

Not bad at all (or if it is bad you're in good company with me ). My dd is due to start SN nursery next year, and I can't wait. I still love her desperately though

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anniebear · 02/10/2005 20:58

Yes, I love mine very much, but I do like taking them to School at 9am!!!!

Well I feel a bit better now!!!

Supose it's worse when you hear other parents gushing about their Children going to School and how much they miss them, but then again, different circumstances I supose

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eidsvold · 02/10/2005 22:48

Annie - I felt a little sad when dd1 started kindy 2 mornings a week only cause it marked a new stage in her life. I love ( sad I know) being able to do the grocery shopping with just dd2 and the second morning doing clothes shopping or messages and going for coffee. Especially as I know dd1 loves being in kindy and she is always so pleased to see us at the end. If she was unhappy I think I would feel bad about it. I am looking forward to next year when she does 2 full kindy days and then two mornings at the SEDU.. been wondering what I will do with myself but no2 will be getting her mummy and me time which dd1 had for over 2 years.

Look at it like this - this is your time to recharge and have some down time and then when the girls get home you are no longer exhausted and fraught from having them all day.... Having twins and one with sn must have been very draining at times and now as you have said - some me time.

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anniebear · 03/10/2005 08:11

Thank for that

problem is, I am exhausted and fraught after about 10/15 minutes of them being in after School!!

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Fio2 · 03/10/2005 08:20

gosh dont feel bad about that

heartinthecountry · 03/10/2005 10:09

Not awful at all. As long as you know your children are being well looked after and finding their own little way in the world a bit then absolutely right to enjoy a bit of freedom. I do

Merlot · 03/10/2005 10:15

Anniebear - completely understand where you are coming from. Enjoy those child free moments, because as someone else said - the school day is not that long really.

Hope you are having some nice treats and its not all housework!

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anniebear · 03/10/2005 11:22

House work....whats that?!

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Thomcat · 03/10/2005 11:26

not at all anniebear.
Listen I work 4 days a week and on Fridays I don't send Lottie to nursery so that we can be together and have some quality time, just the 2 of us. This week she didn't go to nursery on Thursday as she had the dentist so she went in on Friday instread. i found myself with 3 whole hours to myself. Never happened before! Si I went swimming. In the pool I thought to myself 'ohhhh wish she was here, she'd love this', and then i thought 'what! Shape up girl, enjoy this time to yourself and milk it', so did an hours worth of lengths and had a long lesiurely shower and dried my hair, had a cooff staring out of the window, just smiing to myself and I loved it. So much so that while I'm pregant i'm going to put her in nursery every Friday morning!!!!

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anniebear · 03/10/2005 11:30

lol coppertop, how did the dentist go or have to posted on your other thread about it?

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anniebear · 03/10/2005 11:34

Just read about he Dentist...Brill!!

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Thomcat · 03/10/2005 11:41

Do you mean Coppertop or do you mean Thomcat?!

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anniebear · 03/10/2005 11:51

sorry Thomcat meant you!!!

Had a stressful morning with poo, screaming a face slapping and it was only 8.15!!!!!

Glad it went well anyway!!

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Thomcat · 03/10/2005 11:54

Ohhh mate! Happy Monday's aye! Well hopefully it can only get better - ??
TC xxxxxxx

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anniebear · 03/10/2005 12:08

Theres me wondering why I don't miss them!!

My friend said this morning that she really misses hers when she goes to School, great!!

But she has got one little girls who isnt much trouble for them.

I am relieved to get mine to School!! Went for a swim this morning, then made up for lost calories by having a latte and a cake in a lovely garden centre!!

Just having a look on the pc, house is quiet...bliss!!!

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Thomcat · 03/10/2005 13:00

Sounds like a great, and well deserved morning.

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anniebear · 04/10/2005 07:45

Was telling my Mum what I had put on this thread and she said

"You can tell your friends on Mumsnet that years ago when my kids went to school I didnt miss them terribly. I used to love seeing them after school but when they'd been in 5 to 10 mins I wished they were back in school. And i didnt have twins or sn child & they were well spaced out age-wise"!!!

lol lol, must run in the Family!

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CreepyJess · 04/10/2005 08:52

Oh cripes Anniebear, I totally RELY on school to keep me sane(ish) and able to cope with DS2 when he IS at home! He has just started Y1 and we found the summer hols SO hard.. he WANTED to be at school and couldn't understand why he couldn't go (kept sitting by the door with his book bag every morning and frantically doing the Makaton sign for 'bus' - bless!) and we SO wanted him to go too!!

He did 4 days at an SN play scheme.. it was 8 days in total but at £8 we could only afford 1 'week'.. which was at beginning of hols and pretty useless in terms on helping us occupy him really.

I can't remember how we used to cope before he started reception...badly I think!.. so don't feel bad! Pretty much ALL parents (that I know anyway) enjoy packing their kids off to school at some point.. and when they have SN it can be a sanity-saver!

SJ.. ooppps CJ!

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anniebear · 04/10/2005 10:13

Arrrh, I have visions of your little boy sitting on the step waiting for the bus! Arrrhh!!

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CreepyJess · 04/10/2005 10:28

Oh bless Anniebear.. you ARE all emotional! Don't worry, we DID tell him that the bus wasn't coming and then took him off to take his mind off it..