Okay, - so - 3 children?

[StartingAfresh]

I've asked before, and am doing it again because it's driving me nuts.

Do I want a 3rd? Because if I do, then I need to get a move on because of both my age and because our family will definately need a second income of some kind so I need to get the early years out of the way asap.

Any advice/tips/thoughts?

Many tia

My DH sounds a bit like yours star and would probably still have no children if it was up to him to make a decision. Every time I have got pg he has been less than enthusiastic. He never had that urge to have children and wasn't particularly paternal until the very moment our DTs were born.

The night before I went into hospital, he said (in panicked mode) what will I do if they give me a baby to hold?? When the moment came, he took DS1 as though it was the most natural thing in the world and held onto him for dear life. He was the person who spent ages in SCBU with DS2, patiently feeding him as I was stuck on the floor below following my c-section. I know he will be the same for DC3 even though (thus far) he hasn't been particularly excited about the prospect of having another.

Ultimately, you know your DH best and how he will deal with another DC. Would he be enthusiastic once he/she was born?

You know, I don't think it is the actual another person thing. I think he likes that idea.

I think perhaps he worries in his role as 'provider' whether he/we can meet the needs of another child.

Financially we think we can afford to raise another, because our lifestyle is modest but for certainty we can't afford 3 sets of university fees etc etc if DS makes it that far nor are we able to afford hired help of any kind and no grandparents are close/healthy enough to help out.