Well I may as well just give up

[TheArsenicCupCake]

Meeting with school went okay ..Actually it went pretty well.

However.. Ex pils have written to the school and are having a meeting with the school this week... I think they are doing it on exdh's written permission to step in for him.

They have written and interfered with every single agency or proffessional that have had anything to do with ds2 .. They do not hold parental responsibility.. But yet they seem to just roll on in and do what they want.
School have said they will not take away support and provision for ds..but why should they even talk about my ds and his education.. Why should they be allowed to go into a meeting and gain information about him?
And why should they get the chance to try and scupper the help that ds needs?

But.. You know I give up.. I can't seem to stop them..No matter what I do..

So I just bloody give up..

Okay.. I've been chasing about all day.. ( just sat down ).

I spoke to the school this morning.. And followed up with a rather choice ( but nice and written for a third party if needed) letter, objecting to the situation, why I objected and used that lovely education act section 576 bit.
Then met with the head. Who give her due was very good.. And asked me how I want to proceed as she would cancel the meeting and refuse to see anyone other than exdh.
Obviously I want a good relationship with the school and want to work for them and I know they have been stuffed right in the middle of this..

So I said I want no personal or educational information divulged to those who do not have PR particularly given the history of the actions of the expils etc.. However I would be happy for her to meet with them this time but only to quote SEN policy and cop and that ds will not have anything removed because of the schools duty of care.

She was more than happy with this, I don't look obstructive at all and it is noted that this is a huge issue.

I have also spoken to a solicitor and I am putting in for a prohibated steps order against the expils so that this cannot happen again.

And I have spoken to ss about my concerns regarding expils and what they have been upto and things that have been noted by the school will back this up.

( I'm knackered!)

Can I just say thank you all for the support :)
I owe you all lots of chocolate and good advice .

Just an add.. One of the reasons I have yes meet but policy only is because I will then have proof of the meeting ( and they are going to give me full minutes) to take through the courts.. Because it gives me a stronger case :)

Well done. Brilliant outcome. Sounds like you handled it brilliantly.

Seriously I'm now officially done in... And this has emptied my reserve tank.. My mum popped over today ( I spoke to her last night) with some beautiful flowers and a giant hug , some choice words about it all and good mum advice.. Which was the same as you lot gave lol.

Last night I just wanted to give up and meltdown.. Couldn't have done this without you guys x

Well done.

Looking accross the board there seems to be a lot of XH & xfamilies in law causing trouble at the moment, perhaps I'm just seeing them more. Why can't we just be left alone to get one with our lives and look after our children?

I don't know lunar.. I don't really want to be left alone tbh ( crazy as it sounds).. What I want is for ex to be actually positively involved in the boys lives.. I want him to fight their corner and provide in all senses what they need... However if he were this man I seek I would have never divorced him .. So I should expect nothing more than for him ( and his parents because they have a lot to do with it) to be the same person he was... I was the one who made a poor choice in partner.. ( mind I got beautiful boys out of it.. Can't be all bad) Ahh well!

Actually I understand exactly what you mean!!!

Where are all these wondrful ex husbands that are still perfect dads I read about in the Cafcass literature and why can't I have one!!!

Actually I think maybe one exhusband is enough

I think I may have nabbed one of those now lunar.. Now dh is an ex to someone else.. But he is a fab dad to my boys and great with our dd.
I think you need to find one where there was a genuine life/growing up/ personality clash :o

you did fantastic tacc, brilliant news

and I thought they were a mythical creature rather like unicorns....

I shall have to give up my well earned cynicism

Well done Arsenic - put your feet up and have a cuppa!

:) thanks

Am now having a cuppa after eventually getting ds2 settled for the night

i was going to say stand up and take a bow, but not if you're sitting having a cup. Well done to you

1 -0 to the Arsenic, 1-0 to the Arsenic [football chant singing emoticon]

Arsenic, have you seen what "someone" AKA as Lucinda, I presume, as she's referred to it above, has put on the TES website? community.tes.co.uk/forums/t/446769.aspx

Thanks for the heads up.

Looks like he needs to make a new nickname for every thread he starts (check out his joining date) - that is because he regularly gets banned from TES.

I very much doubt that.

Yup I noticed it was only 2 posts to name..

Luckily I'm a pretty open person and although I post a lot of info about myself.. I don't post enough to actually link it to me... Icoukd be anyone! < hairy trucker>.. ( although sancti knows I'm not lol).

That's very, very naughty.

I thought we opertaed under the simple rule of:

What is said on the SN Board stays on the SN Board.

You'll note that our posts are even shown in the Active Topics.

The PILs with their educaional background may actually see the TES site.

Don't do that again Lucinda or I shall seriously reconsier whether I post on here.

Well spotted Giveme

Oh, I deliberately went and checked!

That was my worry, wetaugust. Wouldn't take much to connect the two if you read that site regularly.

Lucinda, just what is your agenda? You post on TES - but you hate teachers. Then you post on here. I don't get it. Not saying you can't post on both, but why on earth would you post on a teachers' forum when you aren't one? Or are you? And blurring the boundaries between here and there is not in keeping with the spirit of the board here, though I don't doubt that you were trying to help Arsenic.

What makes you think that I hate teachers?

Ok Lucinda

I have an issue with you posting information that originated in thsi forum on another site.

I share my personal experiences with other parents on this board. I do so in teh knowledge that they do not appear other than on this board.

You have just changed moved the goalposts as far as that's concerned.

You post utter crap on here - and are too far up your own ass to even realise what utter shite it is.

I am going to ask MN if it's possible to prevent you posting on this particular Board or whether they have to take teh same action as TES did in banning your alter ego.

Or you could save us the bother and just fuck off quietly - there's dear.