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A riddle, wrapped in a mystery, inside an enigma

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MistsAndMellow · 08/10/2010 21:38

All week after pre-school DS has wanted to be upstairs. This is a totally new thing.

Upstairs away from his toys and me and the television all afternoon. God knows what he does for so long. I go up every five minutes or so and can't see that he has done anything. It's harder to DS-proof the upstairs too because my daughter leaves things around. But he doesn't seem to be interested in her possessions.

DH actually went out and bought him a new Happy-land Farm which we were meaning to get for Christmas to no avail. He just wants to be upstairs.

It's sunnier there, granted. The sitting room is north-facing. But the kitchen where I am is sunny and it has been warm enough for DS to go into the garden but he is adamant about being upstairs for some reason.

DH says not to worry because like all dictators he is truly unfathomable but still...

Can anyone shed any light?

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Spinkle · 08/10/2010 21:41

Well, he might want a space where he can see little movement, hear sounds etc.

After a session at preschool he may want a break from having to process all that.

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MistsAndMellow · 08/10/2010 21:42

Sorry, he is only three but he will happily spend four hours up there doing sod all.

I check every few minutes obviously but I wonder what it is. Perhaps he wants to tune out after pre-school...

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MistsAndMellow · 08/10/2010 21:46

Cross-posts Spinkle Smile

He didn't used to do it but perhaps this is what he needs. There have been lots of appointments recently as well as pre-school.

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Ineed2 · 08/10/2010 21:54

I bet thats what it is, he must be worn out from the whole pre-school thing, they are fairly frantic places, I know I work in one. Bless him for knowing that he needs some time out to recover.

LOL at your Dh's dictator commentSmile.

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MistsAndMellow · 08/10/2010 22:05

I felt bad after typing that Blush but rest assured DS is a very benign dictator. He doesn't have a shred of badness in him so not to worry about him ever running the country Grin

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Ineed2 · 08/10/2010 22:08

Don't feel bad, I think many of us on here would have a giggle at that statement. I know Dd1 and Dd2 would probably put Dd3 into the dictator bracket sometimes.Grin

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MistsAndMellow · 08/10/2010 22:38

Thanks Ineed2 Smile

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Al1son · 08/10/2010 23:07

My little dictator goes to her room and spends hours alone after school. She used to do the same every afternoon after pre-school too. She's often to be found looking at books. Social interaction is hard work and she finds being alone restful. She comes back down when she's ready - usually after a couple of hours but sometimes much longer.

2shoes · 08/10/2010 23:12

love your thread title.
beautiful

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MistsAndMellow · 08/10/2010 23:27

2shoes that is a lovely compliment thank you. It is very true isn't it?

My sister would say DS is being a freak and a weirdo Hmm but I like my description.

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MistsAndMellow · 08/10/2010 23:34

Al1son you could be describing me as a child there! I spent hours playing the piano as well as reading and didn't do so well interacting...

I did okay-ish, I think...

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2shoes · 08/10/2010 23:39

wouldn't that make a lovely topic name.
it sums most of our dc up, sorry for hijack

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MistsAndMellow · 08/10/2010 23:46

Yes it would be a good topic 2shoes Smile

No hijack worries at all. Start a new thread, this is a bit specific and you are right, it would fit all the DC we care about.

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2shoes · 08/10/2010 23:46

shame I was just going to tell you about dd, and how she has to go to her room.

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MistsAndMellow · 08/10/2010 23:48

I know a bit about your dd 2shoes. Why shame?

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2shoes · 08/10/2010 23:54

(i BLAME THE WHISKY) IGNORE ME)
I knw dd is older, but she insists on going to her room early, in fact she ruches her bath to do it(although she has cp, everything has to be done the same iynwim, so she can't go to her room untill after her wash/bath)
there she draws and watches dvd's or listens to music.
for ages I wondered why, then realised she was just doing what ds(nt) does, but in her own way.
so maybe your ds is just copying something he has seen.heard

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MistsAndMellow · 08/10/2010 23:59

Thank you so much 2shoes.

I don't know why it has happened all of a sudden this week and it hurts me that he would would rather be away upstairs than with me as he is only three Sad

Are you really drinking whisky? I miss vodka!

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Al1son · 09/10/2010 00:02

I have to confess to having been like that as a child too. I can remember climbing trees at school because that was the one place where you could guarantee the nobody else would go in a girls' grammar school.

God I was weird! Still am probably Smile

devientenigma · 09/10/2010 00:04

personally I thought it had something to do with me lol enjoy your drinks everyone Wink

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MistsAndMellow · 09/10/2010 00:06

There was time to be alone in those days wasn't there?

Sundays I went to Mass in the morning and then there was no children's TV so you read books. And / or practised the piano. No going shopping.

And nobody died Grin

I loved lonely Sundays!

I am also very Aspergery.

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MistsAndMellow · 09/10/2010 00:11

2shoes btw thank you for telling me about your dd. I will think about that...

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keepingupwiththejoneses · 09/10/2010 11:23

It is possible that pre school is quite overwhelming and he is being overloaded and by going to his room he can just be quiet and calm down, it could be a sensory thing.

UniS · 09/10/2010 19:38

at 3 my lad would happily spend a while in his room alone. I knew what he was up to... lying on his bed with his hand down his pants having a nice chilled time alone....
seems to have grown out of that phase, now he rolls about the floor sucking his thumb, likes lying on floor with both legs up the wall.

He just seems to need some down time on his own. Could be your boy does too??

wraith · 09/10/2010 21:09

its also possible that theres something interesting either visable from a window at certain times

i remember i used to sit on the stairs and squint at the door for hours as the sun hitting the peephole lens caused a prism like effect inside

sensory is most likly the answer too mcuh or to little

could be worse though

5inthebed · 09/10/2010 22:02

DS2 (5) has done this since he started nursery and more so when he went into school full time.

I think it is just to get away from the noise and have a peaceful few minutes to himself.

He is very noise sensitive, so makes perfect sense.