It was this afternoon (teacher union won't allow them do them outside of school hours now 
) so it's over and done with now.
All in all it went well, we had the usual conversation about dd (she's ditzy and doesn't pay attention and refuses to learn how to read so nothing strange or unexpected in that discussion) and then we were discussing ds1.
She asked me at one point 'Are they quite independent at home?' as she's found he often seems to expect stuff to be done for him... i explained it's that he's not able to pick up routines by imitating the other children, they have to be taught to him. For instance once i found out that the putting away of his bag, coat and lunch bag in the mornings was an issue we recited the routine at home until he had the hang of it and he's been doing it fine since. She was really interested to find that out, said she'd noticed he was quite ritualistic but hadn't realised the extent so she'll try and make sure any routines are explained clearly to him and he's given time to learn them.
He's started dong the workbooks now whereas before he flat out refused to do them so he's making progress there, i suggested that it's probably an extension of the same problem, he needs time to come round to the idea of doing something new and won't just do it because the other children are.
She also mentioned he's never given any news on the Monday when she asks them for their news from the weekend... I already knew this as we've discussed it at home. Last week i asked him had he told teacher we'd gone to visit Granny when she asked for the news and he said 'No Mommy because teacher asked us what we did at the weekend and i didn't know what that was' I've explained but he still doesn't grasp it, the teacher said she'll try asking in a different way (ie yesterday, when you weren't at school or Saturday & Sunday) and I've chatted to him and we've agreed to plan what he's going to say for news on the Monday morning before school.
She's happy enough with his penmanship, he does sometimes forget to hold the pen correctly and can't draw but he seems quite capable at tracing which is the most of what they do writing wise tbh. I did point out that even if he got through school never having drawn a thing he probably wouldn't be at that much of a disadvantage in life so i don't consider it a priority to be honest. He can write most of his letters weirdly enough, it seems to be creating pictures that eludes him but if something has a specific shape like a letter or a number he can copy that fairly well 
His pictures meanwhile remain arrangements of spots and stripes.
The milk came up as she said something about his pencil case being missing today and i said
'Yes, i forgot to put it in his bag this morning, his milk spilled all over his bag yesterday and all his stuff was soaked. He said he told you it was leaking....'
She said she'd seen some milk near his chair and told him to take the milk out of the bag but he said 'But my milk is closed' so she assumed it had been spilled before it was put away. TBH it rings true, ds1 does get very caught up in the wrong aspect of an issue at times. His line of thinking tells him that milk leaks if it's open, his milk was closed, therefore the milk was coming from somewhere else than his carton and he finds it difficult to process alternatives such as 'the carton was leaking as it was broken'. Its the same if he wets the bed, very rare it happens but he can't accept that it gets wet because he peed as he doesn't remember peeing and therefore, in his mind, didn't pee and the wet must have come from elsewhere. So despite still feeling she could have investigated a bit further i can't really fault her too much on that issue as she's not really used to his odd way of thinking yet... I would have investigated further as i know how he thinks and would have suspected the cause whereas she just heard 'It's not my milk leaking teacher, mine is closed' and accepted that statement.
Whew, sorry for the essay, wanted to get it all out 
I'm pleased really as she said he's settling in well and gets on well with his year group. She has finally noticed that he's well ahead in terms of phonics and starting to read so at least she doesn't have him labelled as iature and bold anymore which I consider to be the best result possible at present.
The degree is facinating. i got a Certificate in Natural Sciences from the course i did last year and loved that side of things so a lot of my modules are more towards the science end of things than the environment... i do enjoy what i learn on this course but it is all very doom and gloom and slightly melodramatic which irritates me slightly, i'm far too laid back to get hysterical over 50 years into the future! I have faith in science to catch up and provide solutions and people to make realistic and workable changes to their lifestyles to ease the situation. Maybe i'm naive though?