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Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on special needs.

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how horrible.

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 07/09/2010 14:16

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1036348-special-needs-mummy-martyrdom-special-needs-top-trumps?msgid=21200599

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Greensleeves · 07/09/2010 14:24
Shock
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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 07/09/2010 14:25

yes, someone is a tad bitter it seems?

Even more depressing are the people agreeing..

still, it will reengage Pagwatch's patented twatfilter.

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Ineed2 · 07/09/2010 14:25

What a strange post, why waste such a lot of time spouting such crap!!Shock

lisad123isgoingcrazy · 07/09/2010 14:27

someone has a bee in their bonnet

ShadeofViolet · 07/09/2010 14:28

Agreed!

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 07/09/2010 14:29

She claims to have a child with SN..I thought there was some kind of sisterhood amongst us..apparently not!

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MrsYamada · 07/09/2010 14:35

I just read it, it made me feel quite horrible.

lisad123isgoingcrazy · 07/09/2010 14:37

how many of us are now thinking "is it me?" anyone want to yell troll yet??! Grin

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 07/09/2010 14:39

it probably is me a bit, couldn't care though tbh.

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roundthebend4 · 07/09/2010 14:40

guessing someones having a bad day and feels need take out on somebody else oh well

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 07/09/2010 14:41

loads of people are agreeing with them though Sad

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bullet234 · 07/09/2010 15:02

I have two children with special needs and am Aspergers myself. Does that mean I get to be triply smug? Wink

mamalino · 07/09/2010 15:02

I think troll. Couldn't bear to think they are on the SN boards if that's what they really believe.

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 07/09/2010 15:03

yes it would be nice to know who they really are!

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 07/09/2010 15:03

bullet - yes, you get 1000000 points! Grin

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amberlight · 07/09/2010 15:05

Ruddy heck - just so Angry if this person is actually targeting Riven.

saintlydamemrsturnip · 07/09/2010 15:09

Oh yes bullet - you MUST be smug :o

I never know whether to believe the people who say they have a disabled child in those sorts of rants. As although life is hunky dory for us now I can remember when it wasn't and I can remember how much I struggled with what I called the 'ugly' feelings associated with severe disability. Everyone I know in the same situation has felt the same (we've talked about it) at times.

Many years ago I was on the receiving end of a very similar sort of rant. I think I worked out who the person was and she does indeed have a child with a severe disability. But the child was much older and the mother very religious (which perhaps changes the way you view your life? not meant as a dig at religion - I would love to be religious in some ways). She'd also completely misinterpreted things I'd said going back a long time. I felt mainly I'd let ds1 down by being too open.

It does interest me how things are misinterpreted.

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 07/09/2010 15:13

yes, life is very unhunkydory now, as DD is 3.10.

But apparently saying that is some kind of claim to martyrdom. Very sad and frustrating, and quite hurtful.

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saintlydamemrsturnip · 07/09/2010 15:18

oh for me that was some of the hardest times (lordy I'm a voice of joy) - just because we really didn't know what the future held and we desperately were hoping for a normalish life and we hadn't yet worked out what would work and what wouldn't. We used to try days out and come back sobbing.

I do say to people with kids your age (hopefully in a non-patronising manner- I just remember what it was life and feel for you) that whatever happens - even if the worst (in your eyes) happens - (which it did to us as we were so desperate for speech and it hasn't happened) then life still becomes so much better. Emotionally things return to more or less normal and over the years you begin to meet lovely people or do lovely things because your child has a disability. So you get a little store of nice things iykwim.

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 07/09/2010 15:26

will get there..a diagnosis will help.

This thread doesn't help though, am having a particularly hard day with DD as she is unwell and am now teary..I was going to leave MN before but stayed as I thought this sort of unkindness had calmed down, apparently not though.

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 07/09/2010 15:26

not THIS thread..I meant THE thread of course Smile

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saintlydamemrsturnip · 07/09/2010 15:28

I think you just have to ignore that thread. If the poster does actually have a disabled child it's clear they're older. She may just have forgotten the early years. They may never have been particularly isolated because of the disability (everyone's experience being different). Or they may have had very good support from early on.

Don't leave. xx

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 07/09/2010 15:30

I won't leave Smile

Thanks, just having a rough few days, had to collect DD from nursery yesterday as she cried and was sick..she seemed well all day so took her today, she wouldn't go in, tried to run away and she screamed so much she was sick..(she normally loves it)..turns out she has a sore ear, I hope that's all it is and she hasn't stopped wanting to go.

Am really worried she won't settle back though, and she just got a full time place with 1:! which is a lifesaver.

And DH is going away for rest of week.

Also my mum had 5 year cancer scan results today, which were clear but didn't help my stress levels.

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2shoes · 07/09/2010 15:32

just seen this and am furious,
I have also had a fb message from a friend asking if the cowardly name changer is me!!!

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 07/09/2010 15:33

i can't believe anyone would think it was you!

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