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handholding please

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roundthebend4 · 05/09/2010 19:22

Have just put ds 3 to bed and breaking my heart that tomorrow i wont be taking him to school like i have with my other dc .

Tomorrow im going to be putting him in a taxi and he be travelling for a hr before he even gets to school .
Be no chats with teachers at doorways no little boy with big grin coming out of class to meet me .Not be able find out if he ate his lunch or any of the 1001 things you do when collecting dc and walking to and from school with them

/He is my most vunverable yet im sending him so far from me

And daft thing is i know this unit is best place for him and that fought so hard to get him a place

But just wish it was not what i had to do Sad

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MistsandMellowMilady · 05/09/2010 19:24

Oh that will be hard Sad

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roundthebend4 · 05/09/2010 19:27

think its just hit me hard becuase done all the normal school runs with other dc a nd will do tomorrow with dd but just hurts that ds3 wont be going to the local school tomorrow with her

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Doigthebountyeater · 05/09/2010 19:28

Just sending you a big hug. My DS1 is starting MS primary school on Thursday. He has epilepsy. I've got to trust the teachers to look after him and it is very scary for me. We just have to tell ourselves that we are doing the best thing for our kids. I don't know your particular situation but I do know that I will suffer a lot more in terms of worry than my robust son will!

5inthebed · 05/09/2010 19:29

Have you got anything planned for after you send him off? Is anyone going to be there with you, or to meet you for coffee?

I know it's no consolation, but the home diarys they come home with are a nice touch for this. Sad

Marne · 05/09/2010 19:30

Sending you lots of hugs. Can you phone the school to check on him (atfer he has arrived)?

Hope he has a good day.

I will be thinking of you both tomorrow xxx

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roundthebend4 · 05/09/2010 19:33

no after he goes at 7.45 have to take dd to school up the lane and then come home

downside of moving dont really know anyone here and im single parent no one else to see him of and hold my hand

i know they said about home school diary and know its the right place for him but its not right iykwim

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roundthebend4 · 05/09/2010 19:34

its the fact that does not talk so wont be able to tell me about how the days gone , the worry what if they forget to remind him about going to the oilet or when he goes for a pooh that they might prsume he can wipe his bum ok

he cant but will just sit in dirty pants if no one checks on him

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LollipopViolet · 05/09/2010 19:47
loflo · 05/09/2010 20:01

Oh roundthebend thats nae easy Sad. LollipopViolet is right tho - come on here for a blether and try and help pass the day. Once the first few days are past it will get a bit easier for you all.

MistsandMellowMilady · 05/09/2010 20:23

I'll be here during the day too Smile

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roundthebend4 · 05/09/2010 20:32

ty knew you lot would understand

long day for him to nad he is so little as well everytime think about it i want to cry major tear leakage going on

but will have to keep it together till least got dd to her school then will probably come home and bawl

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Marne · 05/09/2010 20:38

Dd2 doesn't tell me about her day Sad, she has a book but they only write down one activity she has done.

TheArsenicCupCake · 05/09/2010 20:42

< stands in line to just hold hands>
will be thinking of you so much tomorrow
x

Goblinchild · 05/09/2010 20:48

They will remember all those important things, in the way that MS school might well not. That's why you did your best for him, even though it's so hard for you.
Does the school use email as well as books to keep in contact with you if necessary?

Lougle · 05/09/2010 21:02

roundthebend4, I am with you too. It will be my turn at some unspecified point in the next couple of weeks Hmm

rebl · 05/09/2010 21:07

I feel for you. I am doing the 1st day at school tomorrow as well, MS. I'm dreading it, he is so incapable and has such poor provision Sad.

So there are some of us around tomorrow all doing the same scarey thing. We'll hold each others hands.

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roundthebend4 · 05/09/2010 21:12

Sat here realising school don't even have my phone number if problem not had any contact detail forms to do or anything will call school tomorrow

Sat think omg is it the right descion scared for him he just seems so vunerable

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MummyO3 · 05/09/2010 21:47

aww sending you massive hugs, not read everything so unsure if this is a possibility but, could you possibly move closer to the school? i know that wouldnt help you for tomorrow though, i hope he has a fab day though, and i hope you find something to take your mind off it :) xx

bubble2bubble · 05/09/2010 22:31

It's dreadful, I know. Sad
But the school are SO used to this - they will send you loads of stuff about what he is doing so you have a chance to talk to him about his day.
More importantly, he will be happy because he is in a place where people can understand him and he knows they are helping him

If it's any comfort, Dd went to her language unit this time last year with about 5 words and I was so frightened for her going off alone. On Friday she came grinning out of the taxi & announced "I LOVE school"

They proabably do have all you contact details as IME your numbers etc are copied on to all the reports, but I'm sure they'll be more than happy to reassure you if you ring to check he gets there OK. Give your number to the taxi driver as well and get his/her mobile so you can get in touch if you are worried.
Good luck Smile

Spinkle · 06/09/2010 07:54

Hope it's not too bad for you today.

Good luck Smile

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roundthebend4 · 06/09/2010 08:08

Ok that was rough he has been ok about going to school right up to point when the bus turned up

all he was saying/signing was I don't want to and sobbing his heart out :( while I showed the driver how to tie his wheelchair down.Took every but of self control not to say forget it I'm keeping him home or to let him see I'm upset :(

tell me please that it gets easier

they did not even know about the epilepsy either so my hearts going to be in my mouth whole time know he is not likely to have one on way to school but :(

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roundthebend4 · 06/09/2010 08:09

Just need to take Dd to school in a bit think that's when going to hit me harder

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LollipopViolet · 06/09/2010 08:28

BIG HUGS! Poor little guy, I don't blame him for being upset, I remember being that young and always wanting my mum with me so can't imagine how hard it is for him, and you of course. Come back and chat as and when you need to, there's lots of us about.

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roundthebend4 · 06/09/2010 09:51

well dd statrted her new school with np just felt sa dthat ds was not going there ,though do know deep down this school is the best for him

came home and had a bawl but ok now though house is very quiet without any dc home just dont know what to do with myself

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LollipopViolet · 06/09/2010 12:48

Cuppa, cake and feet up would be my suggestion, but I have no kids and am BORED SENSELESS waiting to start back at uni!!!