wankers

[2shoes]

sorry but I am so angry at the bloody wankers on mn who think caring is not a fucking job.
as they sit in thier air conditioned offices on thier flabby arses judging paople who through no fault of thier won are doing this job and it is a fucking hard job
thank god I didn't sign up for the xmas meet.

I agree..am at work today, it's amazingly busy and the public are being twunty..it's still easier than looking after DD, by a LOT!

But there's no paid breaks and no holiday entitlement and no contract and no set hours and no extra money for working overtime. So maybe it's not a job.
I am joking, of course caring is a job.

My sister would be in good company then. She has just been ranting at me about how I am exagerating the effect of DD1's needs. Yeah, I love the thought of DD1's future

Agrrr of course caring is a job.. Being a parent carer ( the only caring I have done so all I can base it on) is the hardest thing in the world.

Of course parents have do do nappy changes, broken nights, tantrums etc... But they ( and I with ds1 and dd who are nt) have the luxury of being able to mutter ' it will pass'. And know that although hard work their child will speak, use the toilet, run about, sleep through the night etc etc ( most have the luxury of enjoying their child thinking about exams, jobs and future careers).

It's when it doesn't pass.. Not only do we have to care, we get to worry and grieve on top all the time.

My ds2 is pretty easy if I compare him to some of the dc's on here.. But not compared to an NT child.

I work as well.. And that time is my respite!.. It's really easy.. I go out, I do the job that's all I have to do.
The work starts when I get home!

TheArsenicCupCake sums it up really well.. I think being the carer of an SN child is the hardest job I've ever done and I've done some shitty jobs in my time. Mostly it's like fucking groundhog day (thought swearing probably ok on this post with opening title!) which starts every day with dd screaming on waking up..

You're right that the daily grind is such hard work and then you have all the emotions about the situation on top which never really have time to be processed coz life is so relentless..

OH and me both work part time and when not working with kids.. We both agree that the working days are by far and away the easy days.. My job is quite stressful and very busy but I go to work for a rest.. Some folk don't know they're born..

2shoes
they are wankers. Big judgy wankers

it seems, from the judgy thread, that half of MN are judgy wankers at the moment!!

Wankers indeed.

I always say when I leave work 'oh well, I'd better start the next shift'

I think my colleagues thought I was being a drama queen.

Until I took ds along to a post work tea and cake do.

Now they are reasonably understanding.

Funny that!

What thread is doing the judging?

I've hidden the thread. I shouldn't have posted in the first place as I always get flabbergasted and can't get my point across as well as everyone else.

I would love to work, but it isn't going to happen soon. A job would be a reat break for me!

I'd like to see how those wankers people cope with a carers responsibility.

Just sat down for the evening and so I assume it's the Tory / Bastards thread in AIBU JP.

I haven't the stomach for it there but I do want to add my voice in support of Riven and everyone else. It's disgraceful.

im going to xmas meet up hmm starts biting tounge now

2shoes, you are right, they are so judgy - we can do it, why can't you!

Riven, don't even bother explaining to them what you do. I think you are just wasting your time.

Sorry to crash an SN thread but just wanted to add my support. I was absolutely sickened by the comments on that thread today. I'm so sorry you had to read that crap, Riven.

I'm so tired of caring I feel past caring. I saw that thread and just turned my laptop off completely. I wish I could have styaed on the thread and toughed it out but I couldn't I just felt so from it. And the main thing that annoyed me was that it verified what I suspected ignorant wankers think of me anyway! I am given visibly much less respect now I am claiming carer's instead of when I was holding down a business and juggling DS and I ended up on prozac and he was regressing and retreating everyday.

Urgh life sucks sometimes. They are indeed wankers.

Gah - I've had some wine and typed what I have wanted to type to Xenia for years all in one go. She really got my goat today though.

Mind you I once saw Riven question her on her £1m mortgage debt stating she'd been saying that for years and surely should have paid some of it off by now and was thinking of including that but I'm probably in enough trouble... oh dear, time for another name-change perhaps!

there's a certain type of braying opinionated judgy person on here,you can tell them as even when they have really hurt someone they keep going like a bulldozer. You won't change them,best just to ignore and file under 'wanker'

i not even seen the thread , right now they want my life can have it, have had ds screaming in pain for the last 3 hrs despite calpol and nurofen hes asleep for now but is restless

Thanks FFTM, I am still a bit nervous and can't quite believe I said it. But that's me, I don't have the advantage of millions of pounds, an expensive education and endless privilege and entitlement behind me.

I'm "at my desk" at four a.m most days in my own way and often work between midnight and three when DS is in that mood. He'll still rise at five or six if I'm lucky. He screams a lot and is hugely demanding. But I'm a lazy sod and can't be arsed to start a business which turns over £100K a year. I'd rather coast on benefit top-ups

My PILs are still carers in their late seventies, no lovely retirement in prospect. Some people have a blinkered view of reality.for you all.

god that thread gets worse, and worse, why do mn hq allow such trolling, I can only assume he is a troll as he talks such crap.
I would post on the thread but I would only be deleted so no point

2shoes, I'm finally seeing it now, but it seems you can't be homophobic, racist or anything on here, but taking pot shots at the disabled and those who care for them is OK :(

My granddad is still caring for his tetraplegic son and he is 69. It is a full time job caring for ANYONE, and the people that say these nasty things should walk a mile in the shoes of any one of you :)

I can't even bring myself to read the thread -I'm too emotional and low at the moment.I want to add my support here, though, for all of the people who have been upset by it.

It makes me so mad that we have to deal with all the crap these ignorant feckers throw at us, when life is tough enough.