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Anyone else dreading the next 6 weeks?

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ShadeofViolet · 19/07/2010 17:47

Change of routine and no support - fantastic

And then we will just settle down to a new routine before its time to go back.

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ShadeofViolet · 19/07/2010 17:48

Sorry, that was a really depressing post

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autumnsmum · 19/07/2010 18:02

hi autumnsmum here dreading it as well no structure and to occupy as child at home all day plus his sisters

lisad123isgoingcrazy · 19/07/2010 18:02

im sort of dreading it but looking forward to not rushing out the door in the morning We have a lot, and i mean a lot planned.

ArthurPewty · 19/07/2010 18:03

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BriocheDoree · 19/07/2010 18:11

Well, we get 9 weeks here, and to top it off DD was ill for the last two weeks of term, so have had her at home since 21st June. She doesn't go back to school until 2nd September.
Completely lost my rag with her today. And over something really silly (pushing me out the way so she could switch on the light before me). Feel a bit guilty now. Am a bit tired of trying to balance the needs of a 3-year-old boy who just wants to go out to the playpark and run around and a 6-year-old grump who spends the whole time sitting there saying "go home, go home" but can't tell me WHY she wants to go home. Aargh.

SanctiMoanyArse · 19/07/2010 18:15

I wsan't
but after 3 days I sure as hell am now

Have had to leave the house for a while and have a break (DH was able to take over)

DS2 has been hurt by ds1

ds3 is begging for ds1 to go away

Am away with parents next week so greater audlt ratio and holiday club for a fortnight after or I honestly don't think i'd make it this year

I think having someone yell cheesy-kwondo then kick you in the face would test anyone's limits though

I know we're lucky to have a holiday palcement but only for 2 years at max as none after primary so foster care looking mightily attractive right now!!

debs40 · 19/07/2010 18:22

I cannot wait - no daily grind of dealing with shit, barely competent, lying, defensive class teachers.... bliss!

I would rather daily meltdowns about change and no sleep than that.

Roll on next year...

jjones · 19/07/2010 18:47

Totaly crapping myself, no support and 2 adhd/asd boys. Nightmare!

sugarcandymonster · 19/07/2010 19:03

Well, like debs I'll be happy that DS will out of school - for us it's his last year at (a not very supportive) primary.

We have an SN adventure playground but I get 100 hours over the year and haven't sorted out which days we'll go yet.

siblingrivalry · 19/07/2010 19:08

I'm dreading it, because dd1 doesn't want to leave her current class and teacher and is finding even the thought of the transition unbearable.

We tend to have a pattern every summer: 2 weeks of hell while dd 'adapts' to the change in routine etc, followed by 2 better weeks as she settles down. The last 2 weeks are back to being hell, as she starts to worry about the change in routine and transition ahead.

I love the slower pace of life and not have to clock-watch, but the trade-off is a very unhappy dd, so it's not worth it.

jackny · 19/07/2010 19:12

Yes, I am worried about how we are going to handle the next 8 weeks. My DS (ASD) is going into Reception in mid september. He is already fairly anxious after having visited 'big' school. He doesn't seem to understand that he is now finishing Pre-school and the really supportive Mencap Toddler Group. Toddlers finished last week and he wants to know when he is going back!! Hopefully things will settle down - today he decided to throw toys over nextdoor's fence when I went to the door!

Goblinchild · 19/07/2010 19:16

I'm looking forwards to not having to extract GCSE level homework from a boy who is a mixture of ASD and pain in the arse teenager.
And who constantly thinks when he's finished something, that's it. No concept of work in progress or first draft.
Does understand no icecream until work completed to appropriate standard as determined by me.

Holidays are fantastic, we've aways preferred them to termtimes.

Ampersand44 · 19/07/2010 20:53

I am with Goblinchild. I drove home from school in tears yet again earlier today, thinking that really if it was not nearly the end of term I would just pull DS2 out and be done with it.

After months of DS2 not going to school regularly and a slow and not always successful reintegration I cannot wait for the holidays.

I don't get any work done really anyway at the moment and it doesn't mean it will always be easier but it will be bliss not to have to keep things calm and organised and on track to get him out of the house for something that stresses him so much.

It just shows how different these things can be doesn't it, and I have every sympathy for those dreading the hols.

Ineed2 · 19/07/2010 21:43

Yep i'm in the looking forward to it camp. Apart from having the daily struggle to get Dd3 out of the door, she is like a different child when schools out. Ok so maybe we only have 30 tantrums a day rather than 50 on a school day. No but seriously the hols are really hard work but at least you can slow the pace down a bit.

BigWeeHag · 19/07/2010 21:43

We finished school on 30th June, and we are having a fab time so far, but DS1 is far, far easier to deal with when he doesn't have school and when beach/ park/ pictures/ hours to look at Phucking Jolly Phonics books are part of the day. Ask me again in a few weeks, lol.

anonandlikeit · 19/07/2010 22:10

School is the only time ds2 leaves the house without screaming and kicking.. so six weeks with an agraphobic 7 yr old with asd/cp and his older brother who would love to spend all day at the park or on the beach...
I sound horrid, as I do love the holidays and having them both at home but their needs are just so totally different I need to be able to split myself in 2.

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ShadeofViolet · 19/07/2010 22:14

Anon - I have the opposite. DS1 loves staying at home reading or watching DVD's, while DS2 would be outside all the time if he could and loves running around at the park.

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anonandlikeit · 19/07/2010 22:20

Hey shade, should we swap then, maybe we could do a week each

IndigoBell · 19/07/2010 22:29

Holdiays are hard for my DS - but luckily I work so my routine doesn't change

No, I know it will be a hard 6 weeks for my DH. DS is already stressed about next year - and I only see him getting worse.

Thing is, when he gets really stressed he gets disturbed by voices in his head - which is very unnerving for me and DH.

TheArsenicCupCake · 19/07/2010 22:33

Well I have ds at home now and things are settling down ... Both he and I are looking forward to him not being so tired from the constant social struggle... And having a respite from school.

Got some nice things planned for all of us.. And ds2 is getting on with organising and sorting...

I think it's easier when we just do things at home as we can tailor as we need to, prepare they way I know works for ds2.. And just get on with our family life.. With ds2 knowing that he is totally accepted for who he is.

DJAngel · 19/07/2010 23:35

Dreading it too.

Had dd at home for 4 weeks as her nursery stopped mid June. Totally shattered already.

From monday she'll be joined by her older brother who has completely different needs and wants and is very unhappy that dd has a habit of preventing or ruining potentially enjoyable days out..

Holidays are out for us due to dd so will be at home in the garden a lot I think.. Hope ds gets invited to some playdates!

Wonder how we're all going to survive the summer!?

roundthebend4 · 20/07/2010 07:38

Sancti hope today us a better day

I'm half looking forward to half dreading am nit going to miss the morning rush ,but balancing 4 differnt needs makes days out hard and ds1 and ds2 miss out a lot

sarah293 · 20/07/2010 08:10

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SanctiMoanyArse · 20/07/2010 10:15

Thanks roundthebend

Another bad night last night, we had to keep ds3 up until 11 just to protect him, and then totally SN unrelated but the toddler ahd a bad night too- luckliy DH gave me a lie in this morning as he needed to get up early to start work (and works from home quite often)

Weather's supposed to be hotting upnas well so we have extra to do wrt to ds1's drinking, Psych says amount he is allowing himself atm could be cauisng kidney damage.

However, LOL. Hav eto go drag a child who wants to stay on the sofa forever out of the house. And at least he's bathed now 9took 2 adults!)

Riv

BigWeeHag · 20/07/2010 11:09

I've decided that all of us are going with DS1's sleep pattern so none of us are going to bed until very late, then we get to sleep in until 8.30. I'm letting DS1 sleep until 10am. I think it's called making a rod for your own back. But being a Feckless Single Muvva and all, when I don't have school runs to do, I am going to take the path of least resistance.

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