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Anyone else dreading the next 6 weeks?

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ShadeofViolet · 19/07/2010 17:47

Change of routine and no support - fantastic

And then we will just settle down to a new routine before its time to go back.

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MiladyDeSummer · 20/07/2010 11:20

DS has only been in pre-school for three months so it'll be better for me than the previous loooong cold winter with him was.

However, he has settled well at both his mainstream and special development groups, has a different bag for each place and knows which "school" he is going to every day... and now nothing for seven weeks.

How the hell do I explain no more school for so long? It might as well be a lifetime to him. I wish he had had experience of a short school holiday before this.

But reading your posts it could be worse, don't know why I'm moaning really.

siblingrivalry · 20/07/2010 11:29

Sancti sorry you are having such a bad time.
DD1 has the drinking problem, too. Sometimes her lips will be cracked and almost bleeding and she will still insist she doesn't need a drink.
I hope you have a better day x

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ShadeofViolet · 20/07/2010 13:33

Sancti - sorry things are not good at the moment.

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saltyseadog · 20/07/2010 14:35

I hate the summer hellidays - they make me want to cry. I will be adding a countdown to our calendar. I'm having a nightmare sleep wise with ds (4mo), so I could do without having to worry about dd during the day.

sancti sorry things are rough at the moment.

SanctiMoanyArse · 21/07/2010 00:13

Thanks guys.

We're lucky in that AMHs are seeing ds1 weekly now, to deal with drinking first then the rest of the eating disorder. Hopefully it'll help

Today ahs been a better day I think, although we now have date for EEG to look forward to! Be good to get that done though, becuase if it is epilepsy he's gone from absences sometimes to eye-flickering ones hourly over last few weeks.

Hey ho LOL.

At least we're a week in already (OK maybe not- wishing LOL)

mariagoretti · 21/07/2010 00:19

Riven: more hugs. Hope tomorrow is better x

squashimodo · 21/07/2010 01:58

Oh I am totally dreading the summer now it is being forced upon me.
My 7 year old and 3 year old will be at eachother's throats. 7 year old with asd/adhd will go mad when my 9 month old dd cries. Today, he tried to cover her mouth with his hand when she screamed, I had turned around to deal with my 5 year old who has autism and was doing something dangerous. Then when I picked up dd and soothed her, and told 7 year old as calmly as possible that we do not do that, 7 year old attacked 3 year old who then screamed for hours. It is like that everyday. Soon it will be all day. If I ask for more respite, and give my reasons (i.e. 7 year old's dangerous behaviour) then apparently my children will be on at-risk register.
Still I have 4 hours of respite on Saturday, that is when I can go to the toilet.....And my poor 3 year old gets a break from his brother who wants to kill him.

sarah293 · 21/07/2010 07:36

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roundthebend4 · 21/07/2010 08:17

Sancti for me nit knowing was worse than knowing when came to the EEG ,was relieved was an explanation even if shook me for a while

ouryve · 21/07/2010 13:46

I'm apprehensive.

And DH doesn't have much leave spare at all to break it up with. Most of what's left we need to hold onto for those far flung appointments for the kids (which are always in the middle of the damned day, necessitating a whole day off). On top of that, he's going to need to work a lot of overtime. That we are grateful for, but it isn't going to stop it form being a very long 6 weeks, on my own with the two boys with very different needs.

asdx2 · 21/07/2010 18:59

I'm looking forward to it even though they are both in schools that regularly and routinely meet their needs they are undoubtedly happier off school.
1st week on a charity funded holiday.2nd week dd at church holiday club.3rd and 4th at school playscheme. 5th week at home and 6th week on our holiday so I should have it easy.

Lougle · 21/07/2010 19:41

6 week holidays?

I am quivering. DD1 doen't understand the concept. She wants to go to school. Now.

3 under 5. DD2 is quite 'particular' and much as she loves DD1, she disrupts her play and winds her up.

Did use the DLA to buy a Ford Galaxy for £850 yesterday though so at least I can take them all out, although I can't manage them when I get there so might need to rope in some help from GPs.

daisy5678 · 21/07/2010 20:20

Last year, I was dreading the summer holidays as J was so stressed and violent and I wasn't looking forward to being stuck in the house but he wasn't safe to take out alone. I imagined a summer of hiding knives and cleaning up smashed plates and glasses, and lots of restraining sessions. I rang his SW and asked for more respite and realised we're owed about a million hours from the respite provider anyway, so booked in extra.

However, even though we still went with the respite as it gave him a chance to be out and about without me and I got boring jobs like going to the bank done, we actually did have a much better time than I'd expected. J is mostly stressed (and therefore tired and violent) when he's at school or has been at school. For me, the summer holidays are where I get my boy back and even though he's always 100% exhausting and hyper and needs 100% supervision, he's so much easier when it's the holidays. I feel like the summer is when I get a chance to be a proper mum and we have proper time together. I miss him in September! I do think the decent amount of time apart helps too - usually about 6 hours in 2 blocks. It's crap that everyone doesn't get the amount they need.

I know it's easier for me because my job does make it easier for me to have a summer without childcare worries though. Also, I only have one child. I couldn't cope with any more!

cuttsy · 05/04/2011 12:08

Been fostering for over ayear and the kids are settled with mine. We have now been told they are putting them in respite for 6 weeks about 30 miles from us over the hols and into next term. All very cagey but all are extremely distraught and emotionaly up and down...any advice???

moosemama · 05/04/2011 13:38

Sorry cuttsy, no advice, sounds like a really hard situation - I just wanted to suggest starting a new thread with something specifically relevant to your situation in the title, as you're more likely to get responses that way.

People may not read on once they realise this is an old thread thats been picked up again but I'm sure there'll be someone around who can offer you some advice and support.

Triggles · 05/04/2011 13:39

Sounds odd cuttsy... might be good to start a new thread about it to get replies, as this for some reason has been buried at the end of another thread.

wendihouse22 · 05/04/2011 15:33

My son's had a great deal of time off school recently due to his condition. I find the holidays hard. I know other 10yr olds can just chill out with peers; go out and about to each other's houses and the hols are good for them. For us, being very isolated and my ds an only child, the hols just seem to go on and on and on.....

smileANDwave2000 · 05/04/2011 16:34

holidays are hard ive two teens and ds asd /ebd so all like doing different things not easy on a tiny budget especially as the boys are quite happy sitting indoors and DD and i want to get out and about but have no money (prob less this summer) the way the government are going

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