very competitive... when at 8 months dd could not sit unsupported - they were horrified... oh she is how old and she is not sitting by herself. Needless to say I just said no not yet - no reason. Another mother was moaning about the fact that her daughter prefers to bum shuffle around the room and shows no sign of wanting to walk ( 2-3 mths older than dd) We are just glad for our little worm who wriggles around the place - very fast may I add. Now that dd is sitting very nicely and playing with toys etc they are all oooohhhhh isn't she sitting so well - I can't believe it, in very patronising tones.
Then we have statements like - I would rather die/starve etc than put my child in a nursery. Or I had a little part time job when my first daughter was born....
As you know with summer things close down and as I am going back to work dd will not be going back to M and B group. A couple of mums decided to hold some sessions in the holidays as they could not last 6 weeks without m and t. We were blatantly not invited to be part of it. The woman took out the form where one wrote their name on the ones they wanted to attend and offered to hold one at their house. I was the last in the row of chairs. The form went the opposite direction to me and when it came back to the woman who was sitting right next to me - she moaned about the fact that everyone wanted to attend a group but very few wanted to host it and then folded up the form and put it in her bag. I figured - oh well I was quite happy to host a session but not now. Felt very funny about it at first and then realised we had so much on over the summer that it did not matter anyway.
We live in quite a 'posh' area - hate to use that term and most mothers are in their designer wear and drive the latest BMW/Merc 4x4, lots of children in their little designer clothes. That doesn't bothre me but the snobbery and patronising attitudes that come with it do - not just to me but to a couple of other mothers as well. And no I do not have the desinger clothes/nor does dd and I do not have the latest 4x4.
The same group of mothers attend a group on another day that we can't always attend as dd has clinic and when we turned up the other day - one mother said - Oh you are coming to this group now are you??!?! Sorry can't capture the tone but very unwelcoming to say the least.
I am looking forward to going back to work where I can deal with people who live in the 'real' world.
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For jimjams - re M and T groups
eidsvold · 21/07/2003 08:01
eidsvold I have replied on the proud2 thread!! So if you do get it removed there will be lots of little messages off me and people will think Im mad!!!(not far from the truth
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Thomcat you made me laugh I am going to a group this afternoon at the SN nursery for Jo'got a diagnosis?'Jingles. Wonder if it will be different with SN mums or not? I'll let you know later.
oh god the group was a blumin nightmare ds played merry hell the whole time and dd was as good as gold but got hardly any attention off me because I was having to deal with him all the time. The group was intended for her-poor thing. All the teachers kept saying oooo you've got your hands full and I just felt like the worst mother there. So consequently I hardly spoke to any of the other mums but they all seemed ok-no clicky group like you usually get.
Oh yes and then in the taxi on the way home I got told by the blumin driver that I had the broadest black country accent he'd ever heard-I doubt it. I mean I have got an accent but its not that broad. rant over
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Thomcat glad it made you laugh. I was going to try to get someone to look after him next week(maybe a friend, my relatives dont live close and my mum works anyway
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eidsvold where do your in laws live in kent? would love some advice on nice areas and what areas to avoid. dh is working near dartford so need to be within an hour of there really. If you know any areas that is.
funny isnt it about accents, I dont really take offence but why do people always have to comment? I will have to try to put a posh voice on in fuuture instead of sounding like lenny henry
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