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Here you'll find advice from parents and teachers on special needs education.

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I'm so furious I can't even think straight.

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NDandMe · 06/07/2023 18:23

I've posted about my 6yo son before: https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/special_educational_needs/4803439-this-is-breaking-me-6yo-about-to-be-excluded

Since then, his behaviour has improved substantially, but he is still not coping the best. He's been seen by an Ed Psych, and I just got the report this week. He's also been awarded DLA recently.

The school is still messing us about though. They've sent home a letter today inviting my son on the end of year school trip on Monday, but the only way he can go is if I attend with him. I've been given one day's notice to arrange this with work.

They know I work full time. And obviously they've known about this trip for ages, so could have told me. They've told my son he can go (it was an attendance based trip), so what am I supposed to do?

This feels discriminatory, hence my anger. Why didn't they tell me sooner? Why are they doing this? And more to the point, what do I say to the head teacher tomorrow morning?

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His behaviour is erratic, violent, and uncontrollable at school. I know and accept this is an untenable situation and the school has a duty of care fo...

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coldcouture · 06/07/2023 19:02

It's rubbish.

Relaxinghammock · 06/07/2023 19:16

It is rubbish, they should have given more notice.

Whysomanyfoxes · 06/07/2023 20:21

I’d ask the school what provision they would make for him if you can’t attend on Monday. If it’s imperative that you go with him, surely he would need additional supervision on Monday if he stayed behind?

fedupallthisrubbish · 06/07/2023 20:23

Does your child want to go on the trip?
How far away is the venue to where you work? Could they ring you if they were having issues and you could get there quickly.
Do you think your son could cope and enjoy it? Or will it be too stressful for him?

They defo should of thought about it sooner .... suppose finally got round to doing a risk assessment.

Is gma a bit bored and can just pop along with him.

So tricky! And upsetting too

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NDandMe · 07/07/2023 06:50

I've just realised today is a strike day so I won't be able to speak with the Head anyway. Sigh. They planned it well, didn't they!

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coldcouture · 07/07/2023 08:37

Head is likely to be in School, OP, and admin staff won't be in teaching unions - still worth ringing.

I have a child with objectively complex needs, including very challenging behaviour, but it's this sort of shoddy bllcks from public sector orgs that are required by law to eliminate discrimination, promote equality and inclusion, that is the last s*dding straw.

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NDandMe · 07/07/2023 09:05

Thanks everyone for the support. Ive had a chat with the Head and he's going. 😊

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coldcouture · 07/07/2023 09:09

NDandMe · 07/07/2023 09:05

Thanks everyone for the support. Ive had a chat with the Head and he's going. 😊

Yay!!!!!

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NDandMe · 07/07/2023 10:37

Thanks! The Head assured me he would be in a small group etc. Result.

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