I really think you need some RL help. If you appeal will you qualify for Legal Aid?
Sixth forms are in schools and FE colleges.
Sixth form is Further Education, so no DS does not need to complete sixth form and then FE college, but with an EHCP he can do so if appropriate. For example, some DC complete sixth form at a school and then go on to a specialist FE college placement.
If all is amicable and you are collaborating why do you need help to work as a team?
None of them have children, they are all young inexperienced and not qualified. I was hoping they could draw from their caseload the knowledge to help us.
Having DC or not is irrelevant. Are you sure none of them are qualified? The school will deliver the provision in the EHCP, so it is the knowledge of the the professionals assessing DS that is most important in this situation.
You don’t need to be scared of the DSL and social worker.
DSL - They have a legal responsibility for dealing with safeguarding issues, providing advice and support to staff, liaising with the Local Authority, and working with a range of other agencies. My DS 15 out in the community unsupervised I feel great pressure to keep him safe. What range of agencies do they work with?
social worker- they think they know what is best for DS and their decisions may be swayed by cost forecasts rather than moral things.
DSLs aren’t there to be feared and going in with the attitude you have I can see why they are equally frustrated. The crux seems to be they don’t agree with you letting DS out unsupervised and from your posts I can see why. The agencies involved will depend on your circumstances (children’s services, YJS, police, health, local charities…). It is the social workers job to make recommendations. It is not in anyone’s interest to suggest DS isn’t developmentally ready to independently access the community. If cost was the deciding factor in their decision they wouldn’t be saying he shouldn’t be in the community alone. If you don’t agree with the provision you can ask SENDIST to look at social care provision when/if you appeal
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Start by explaining why you feel scared and stitched up?
I am scared DS is not going to get an Autism special school because he needs one for him to be understood to avoid self injury, SALT and OT.
I feel stitched up by the school because they say they can handle him when they can't and hide things from us such as self injury,
If you think DS needs a different school appeal. Schools often say the can meet needs when parents disagree. Don’t take it so personally. From what I can gather from your threads the school haven’t hidden self injurious behaviour from you, communication just hasn’t been as explicit or as often as you would like.
Why do you feel they are policing you? because they say it is not a good idea for DS to be alone out in the community which puts a lot of pressure on us parents because he damages property in frustration.
This isn’t policing you. If this is their professional belief it would be negligent not say anything.
What you think is a systemic failure?
The people in the system don't have the tools, knowledge or resources to help us.
I think you are relying on the wrong people to give you the answers. The support DS needs comes from having comprehensive assessments, an EHCP, for which you may need to appeal for.
Why you think they are going to accuse you of neglect?
because I let me very independent DS 15 out to avoid damaged property out to avoid frustration.
If you have been advised it is unsuitable for DS to be alone in the community and you ignore the advice you may well find yourself viewed as negligent, especially if anything were to happen. Giving in to DS to avoid his frustration isn’t the right way to go about it. Instead DS needs supporting to access the community, learn independence skills and better ways to manage and communicate his emotions.
What you want to achieve and why you think that isn’t happening at the moment?
Autism specialist school
The reports/information is not available to put into the EHCP which will determine what school he goes to.
So either ask for a reassessment of needs and then appeal if necessary or, when you have the right of appeal, appeal and seek independent reports.
Can you explain what you mean by ”Don't know what we need and everything is honest and willing.”
Don't know what to ask for help wise. Is it just to stop self injury and distress, environmental factors to help with regulation?
You don’t need to ask for anything other than assessments. It is the assessments that determine what provision gets included in the EHCP.