I’m a single parent to a 9 year old who has autism , adhd , learning difficulties and a tic disorder . He attends a specialist school where he is 2:1 . His behaviours are extreme in all settings , home , school , respite etc
He hits , kicks , bites , punches , pinches , repetitive questioning that goes round and round for ages but no answer will appease him and this will result in more challenging behaviours .
When out in the community he will purposely target younger children , try to push them over etc and make them cry . He will also shout inappropriate things like you little shit or you bastard .
He tries to run off to kick peoples cars and ring people’s door bells so I have to have a tight grip on him . This is very hard as he is very strong and I’m on my own .
I try to take him down quiet footpaths into open fields but just seeing one person or family can set him off . It is so isolating and depressing .
I’ve been told by numerous professionals now to consider residential for him but I don’t want to give up just yet with him not being even 10 it seems so young . I think I would have failed him and would want to end my life .
Respite can no longer cope with him so another provision is being sought , however none so far will take him because he targets other young people / children.
I’m on my knees the majority of the time and I get no joy out of anything in life . I love my son but hate the behaviours . It makes me so so sad and embarrassed too . Who wants their child to target other children .
His behaviours have no visible triggers . Are explosive and impulsive . He will just rip a chunk out of my hair with no trigger or bite a member of staff without a trigger , put his hands round their necks etc so many behaviours u can’t list . He always talks about killing and death this is on a loop and repeated over and over .
I don’t understand why people say I wouldn’t change a thing about SEN children . I would wave a wand for my son . Neither of us have quality of life .
Does anyone else live a life like this 😞