Hello, I'm not sure where to post this (sorry it will be a long post). I'm concerned about my daughter's behaviour. I'm not sure if it is just 'normal' as she has been through alot or if there is something else.
i will tell you briefly our background 1st. I split with her dad when I was pregnant due to domestic violence and he stopped seeing her when she was about 3 months old. She was a happy baby/toddler though was very hyper and had typical tantrums. When she was 3 we were evicted from our house as the landlord sold. We lived in a homeless 'hotel' for a year and then stayed in my mum's 1 bedroom flat untill recently we have moved into a house with my mum as I am her carer. My mum has mental illnesses which is managed well with medication and is physically unwell so is in and out of hospital alot which obviously worries my daughter.
Her behaviour is sometimes uncontrollable, but at school she is apparently well behaved, does her work etc. Before lockdown she was getting extra support for her emotional well-being. Play therapy etc. And have a early help plan with a family support worker. The teachers said she does constantly want cuddles and adult attention but other than that she is ok, i had to send her back to school during lockdown as I just couldn't cope. At home though she will constantly have major tantrums, hitting, biting us, hurting herself. She will be doing something and be fine one minute and then the littlest thing will upset her and she just kicks off. Shes always screaming that she hates herself and wants to be dead. She even got a knife (only a normal blunt one thankfully) and was holding it to her stomach saying she was going to kill herself. Her tantrums can last up to an hour but she gets so upset. I asked her why she feels like that and she said she can't control it and everything just feels red. She won't be in a room on her own, she says she feels like her toys are watching her. I have to get her to sleep and she will wake up several times having nightmares and crying. She also hates certain textures. She screams if I get the wrong towel after her bath, wont wear socks as hates the feel on her feet and certain clothes and blankets she won't have near her. She constantly is on the go. She very rarely will just sit and watch a programme the whole way through. She does gymnastics and when we get to watch them at the end of term she just doesn't sit still and listen and will just be silly and give them cuddles. If there was something wrong surely she would be the same at school? I just don't know what to do. I have told the school and the family support worker but nothing is really suggested to help. I'm just so exhausted she can be such a loving little girl, i don't know if I should call the dr or if it's to be expected as she has had alot of stress. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated