Should I Tell DH about son’s girlfriend

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I am struggling to decide what to do for the best. We are of North Indian descent and DS2 has just finished 1st year at university he has come back for the holidays. I have seen some pictures of him with a girl which clearly show that she is his girlfriend. She is Chinese and I am struggling whether to tell DH or to keep it to myself and not mention to DS2 either. On one hand I’m thinking that he is only 19 and this will be the first of many girlfriends but on the other hand I need to talk to someone about it. I’m not sure what to do for the best any advice would be appreciated.

It kind of does actually, if you think people from different cultures shouldn't be in a relationship.

Well your son clearly isn’t worried And this is a multicultural country. Embrace it OP. If you don’t you could damage the relationship you have with your son.

It kind of does

What cultural differences are you expecting to cause problems?

The example of clicking fingers at a waiter for service being acceptable in some cultures surely only applies for first gen immigrants, though.

as both OP’s DS and his GF are presumably British born, they will both have absorbed British manners about things like that, so the nationality of their parents or grandparents don’t really matter (I’m married to a British man of Nigerian extraction and he is 100% British in terms of culture and customs)

I assumed she was a first gen student, but I don’t think OP has said. It was only meant as an example.

No it doesn’t. Acknowledging that cultural differences do exist, and recognizing they can (and do) create difficulties is relationships is not racist. How to parent, the role of in-laws, the food being too bland or too hot. All things which have to be negotiated, and pretending they won’t come and/or cause rows shows you have no clue.

I mean Scottish and English people have the same passport, An English spouse will dutifully support Scotland against a third country, and their Scottish spouse will repay them by throwing a street party for any obscure sport where England get beaten. Do you think that is a cultural difference which causes no problems in relationships?