How many of you actually stuck to the guideline to keep baby in your room for first 6months?

[Thandeka]

DD is 4 months and in a co-sleeping cot right next to my bed (DH sleeps in spare room on weeknights so he can cope with work and in with us on weekends). I am torn between putting her in her own room early or keeping her with me for the first 6months at least. For us it would mean she would go in "spare room" and DH would come in with me again which would be lovely. Although at the minute she seems to be in the middle of the 4 month sleep regression doo dah and is waking a few times in the night so I love the co-sleeping cot as I can pull her onto the boob and push her off without having to get out of bed most of the time! But then she can also be a noisy sleeper and sometimes she wakes me up and then I become aware my boobs are full and then can't sleep for until she wakes up sometimes an hour or two later- unless I wake her. So wondering if I would get more sleep if she was in her own room (and she might too as we disturb her maybe)? Despite having to get up in night.

Hmmmmmmm.

Although is only 10weeks until she is 26weeks and I can start weaning and put her in her own room and with any luck she will be past this silly sleep phase and sleeping through [wistful thinking emoticon!]

Sorry but I wouldn't put her into her own room until she is 6 months. I know it's hard and there is the thought that she and you might sleep better but the reasons for the 6 months is to reduce the risk of cot death.

It isn't that long until she's 6 months, hang in there it will get better.

you don't have to do what other people have done. Weigh it up and make your choice for your own family. My dd was with us for a lot longer than 6 months but we were happy with that. I found I woke up just a little bit before she did so I got there before she cried IYSWIM. I suppose I heard her rustle about restlessly. Really for me it wasn't a problem other than the usual tiredness thing.

yeah thinking about it it isnt really a problem for me either (apart from the knackeredness!) but have just spent weekend with DH's family and their comments made me think.

But once she is sleeping a bit better I want DH back in with us as otherwise it affects our relationship too. We are hopefully moving soon so we can be in a much better situation to try her in her own room (current spare room not really suitable)

You have to do what feels right. Both my ds's were in their own rooms at 3 weeks old. They were waking me and vice versa, i was shattered and not able to sleep. So I had to go against the guidelines in order to get some sleep.

my ds still co sleeps and he is 4 i love the cuddles i get when he wakes up!!

I put the DTs in their own room at 8 weeks. It just felt right at the time - we started a very simple bedtime 'routine' and ended with them in their own cot. I still brought them into bed to feed them but then put them back. So I echo what others have said - do what feels right for you.

The guidelines are there because the risk of SIDS drops after 6 months, but there are many other risk factors that you can continue to control - no smoking, make sure they are not too hot, no cotbumpers/bedding etc. etc.

DS moved into his own room at 4 months as he'd outgrown the crib he slept in and the cot didn't fit in our bedroom. Ideally, I'd have kept him in with us for the first six months because of the risk of SIDS but I did stick to all the other guidelines.

DD2, on the other hand, slept in our room for well over a year as the flat we were living in when she was born had a much bigger bedroom. DD1 moved into her own room at 3 months as none of us were getting any sleep and there was a definite improvement after she'd moved into her own bedroom. On the other hand, I didn't know about the 6-month guideline at that time and may well have kept her in with us for longer if I'd known (and been able to think straight in my sleep-deprived state).

Dd1 slept in crib by bed for 6 months, dd2 the same then in cot in corner for another few months (she woke a lot in the night and it was easier). Dd1 was a very noisy sleeper, but we found it helped to have a radio turned down very low on all night. I think the white noise helped her sleep, and stopped us hearing her snorting and grunting like a piglet

me!
They were both in my room for a year as will this one, all being well, once she is born

I did, ish

dd went into her own room at 23 weeks I was counting the days lol she was an appalling sleeper

ds went into his own room at nearly 8 months but he is my last and a better sleeper and I knew I'd miss him

in both cases the room they went into was ensuite to our bedroom, so not like they were going to a different wing of the house

DS moved at 8mths. DD is 8 mths and still with me as we haven't gotten around to sorting her room yet.

DS co-slept for the first year and finally moved into his cot around his first birthday (the cot was still in our room). We moved him into his own room at the begining of October (he was 1 year 8 months)- I fell pregnant the same week . DD due at the end of the month!

I had terrible trouble sleeping with my babies in my room. Every noise they made I woke with a start, eyes wide open etc. I also woke them if I had a cough/ cold/ when I came to bed etc No matter how quiet I tried to be. For my sanity I moved them into another room when possible. But made sure I could still hear them with doors propped open. Others use baby monitors etc.

If you're happy with them in the same room. Carry on for now. It's a lovely thing to do and the right thing.

Son stayed till 8 months - partly because his room wasn't ready.

I didn't. They were both in their room at 8 weeks. The moses basket took up all the floor space in my room and I was on edge all the time when they were only inches away from me. In my (slightly lame) defence the nursery was only 10 steps away from my bed and we always had the doors open, didn't even need the monitor as they were so close.

My 3 all moved out on the day they were 6 months. I just couldn't see that it would be worth the risk before hand and know that I could never even begin to imagine what I would have felt if i had moved them before and anything had happened. It wasn't ideal for me and dh, but was what I was told was best for them.

DD was in with us until she was 3 (in her own cot and then toddler bed - our room is big enough) for various reasons, mainly that her room was being used for other things. But it was lovely having her there and DH never slept anywhere else - he just put up with sleep disturbance (after 6 months we were both working f/t anyway, so we shared the night soothing)

DS stayed in with us until just before his first birthday then moved in with his sister.

Do what works for you. Personally I wouldn't have wanted to go through to a different room to bf during the night. But then I would have hated to be sleeping apart from DH too so I can see your dilemma. You are right, 10 more weeks isn't that long.

Had to move DS into his own room at 4mo because he'd outgrown the moses basket AND the crib . He was a big boy.

He slept in his cot until first feed about 10/11pm then we both went to bed in our room.

We're getting a sidecar cot this time so I don't have to haul arse out of bed until DS2 is much older!

we only lasted 3 days in the same room, but looking back i wish i'd done what you did and moved into a room with ds, leaving dh behind . move if you want to, but NOT because of your inlaws' comments. Also remember if you do move her out, there's nothing that says you can't move her back again

My paranoia about cot death was too high so we did keep both ours in with us until 6 months. We ended up buying a very cheap cot (from ikea) and proper mattress (which we then moved to the proper cot so no money wasted) because ds grew out of the moses basket very quickly and dd was still in the other cot.

we managed 6 weeks for DS1 and 10 days for ds2