How many of you actually stuck to the guideline to keep baby in your room for first 6months?

[Thandeka]

DD is 4 months and in a co-sleeping cot right next to my bed (DH sleeps in spare room on weeknights so he can cope with work and in with us on weekends). I am torn between putting her in her own room early or keeping her with me for the first 6months at least. For us it would mean she would go in "spare room" and DH would come in with me again which would be lovely. Although at the minute she seems to be in the middle of the 4 month sleep regression doo dah and is waking a few times in the night so I love the co-sleeping cot as I can pull her onto the boob and push her off without having to get out of bed most of the time! But then she can also be a noisy sleeper and sometimes she wakes me up and then I become aware my boobs are full and then can't sleep for until she wakes up sometimes an hour or two later- unless I wake her. So wondering if I would get more sleep if she was in her own room (and she might too as we disturb her maybe)? Despite having to get up in night.

Hmmmmmmm.

Although is only 10weeks until she is 26weeks and I can start weaning and put her in her own room and with any luck she will be past this silly sleep phase and sleeping through [wistful thinking emoticon!]

6 weeks with ds
dd is co sleeping & still doing it at 8mo

Yes, I did stick to it. It didn't feel right to me to put them in their own room any earlier, to be honest.

First child in with us until 7 months, second child in until about 11 months. I had them in a cot beside our bed once they'd outgrown the moses basket.

Lasted 2 months with ds. But MrNC was in a separate room to try to get him some kip.
I brought ds back into my room whenever he had a cold or cough though until he was around 5.5 months (when he grew out of the moses basket)

yes, I did.
I have had a close bereavement through SIDS so I followed all the guidelines.
It is a short time, and I don't underestimate how hard it is.
can you swap with dh for one night a week, so you can catch up a little? sleep during the daytime?

eight weeks with DS. I can't believe I did that now, have no idea why I didn't worry more about it.

co-slept with DD for about ten months

yes i wouldnt do it again. in my defence it was a small house, bedrooms next to each other, doors open....could have been the same distance as someone with a bigger room

I had mine in a cot in our room for longer than 6 months, mostly for very practical reasons (me too knackered to walk for more than a few meters to get them when they woke up)

All 3 of ours were in with us until somewhere between 6-8 months.

DD1 was in her room at 7 weeks and slept through from the same night. DD2 would have been in her room from birth if MIL was not visiting. She was 11 days old, and is now 5 weeks and sleeping through.

I am an extremely light sleeper, and finely tuned to my children's noises. DH and DD1 have sleep apnoea, and snore like trains, with long gaps... so it is just too noisy for DD2 to get any sleep other than in her room. Co sleeping is recommended partly to help regulate breathing, so I did not want DD2 to copy her daddy or sister!

I have a very good monitor which includes movement, both babies good birth weight and no health concerns. All naps except in pram and car seat are with the monitor on.

I actually prefer to go to the nursery to feed - can get comfy, keeps me awake as I would nod off in bed, everything to hand... nappies, chocolate etc.

Although she is sleeping through, I still respond to any odd noises, coughs etc.

I do not leave her to cry, and seem to wake just before she does, and sleep well myself inbetween times.

Mine were 4 and 17 months when they went into their own room. Personally I'd never put them in their own room before 6 months.

mine went into the next room at 5-6 weeks

Another one who didnt stick to it, I think it was around 3 months but couldnt be 100% may have been just before.

Do what feels right for you. If you are happy with your current arrangement and it is just the comments of your in-laws then ignore them.

Remember something is only a problem if it's a problem for you. What other people think is irrelevant.

Mine both went into the room next to ours at around 5/6 weeks. I left the doors open and could hear everything, but the extra space resulted in them, and us, sleeping much better. It worked for us, but as you'll see from other posters, others wouldn't do it.

DC3 is due in 2 weeks and is unlikely to last much longer in our bedroom!

FWIW, when I say 'everything', I mean every hiccup, gurgle, burp etc. I didn't shut the doors for a long time

DS1 stayed in our room til 6 months. He was a terrible sleeper before and afterwards!

DS2 went into his own room at 4 months -- we went on holiday and he had to be in a separate room as there wasn't space in ours. He slept through every night on holiday so when we got back we decided to put him in his own room and bar illness he's slept through ever since.

You have to weigh it up though. If baby is still feeding at night then much easier if they're in the same room as you imo.

both my 2 were in their own rooms from day 1 and the twins on the way will be too. When our first child was born we were in a small 2 bedroom and slept with the doors open so the cot was literally 10 steps away and we heard everything. (we wouldn't have had room in our bedroom anyway) We had moved by the time our 2nd was born, but we still had her in her own room. It was slightly further away, but we still had the doors ajar and we always woke easily. I was only doing middle of the night feeds for 10 weeks for 1st child and 6 weeks for 2nd and I actually liked going into the nursery to sit in my comfy chair and feed properly without waking my husband. We're expecting twins at the end of the summer and we couldn't fit them both in our room so they too will be straight into the nursery. We may use a monitor this time at night though (we never have before), but just because they are twins and I guess we're a bit more unsure of how that will affect sleeping etc...

ds was in his own cot in our room until he was 9 months old. dd is 5 months and we plan to move her in together with ds (3y) in about a month time. she still needs one night feed which I hope will change when we start with solids. (walls so thin, we can hear ds breathe...)

both mine did until 6 months - though the reason was then i wasn't getting up for them in the night..if you are still going to get up if they yell OP - it could make for less sleep....

Oh I kept to those guidelines alright. For about 2 years with each one. But I also mostly had them in bed with me which I suspect breaches other guidelines.

DD stayed in our room/bed for aaaaaaaages

DS has been in his own room since 2 months, just because he settles very well in his cot and has a very settled routine. We leave the door open of course and it's right next door but he's now 5 months and has been fine.

How far away is the room she'll be in?

We moved DD into her own room at 6 weeks as she was a really noisy sleeper and I think DP was waking her up too. She was about 2m away with all doors open so it wasn't really very far. OTOH DS didn't move out until 16m because it suited him and us. Do what you think is best (although I wouldn't move a LO to where you can't hear them).

My first DS went into his own room about 8 months. Second DS went in with his brother at about 10 months.

Both were appalling sleepers and continued to be so in their own room so the move gained nothing in terms of getting more sleep for any of us! And the down side is much further to traipse to pick them up in the middle of the night.

The only plus as far as I'm concerned is being able to read in bed again

On the positive side, DS1 is now 4 and a superb sleeper who will sleep through anything including his brother having a 4am meltdown.

So don't believe the doom-mongers who say that not doing CC at 6 months will lead to a lifetime of sleep issues. In our case, it all worked out fine.

I moved ds1 out at 5 months, then back in, then out, then in etc etc until he was nearly 3 (and he still sneaks back in nearly every night).

ds2 now 6 months and still in ours, co-sleeping. I don't see any changes happening in the near future, especially as they will have to share a bedroom.

Both sleep much better when they are in bed with me. I sleep much better because I am not getting out of bed to settle them when they wake. I can't even remember if and when I wake in the night now tbh.

My DD is 3.2 and has always slept with me. She does have a bed at the foot of our bed and had started to ask to sleep there but seems to have decided to come back with me.

Mine all slept in our room for at least a year.

It has nothing to do with whether or not you can hear them or how far away the room is, the theory is that little babies often stop breathing at night and the carbon dioxide in the exhaled breath of the parents in the same room kick starts the breathing reaction.