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WTF is going on with my 4-month-old?

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herbaceous · 16/11/2009 11:11

Hello all

I have a problem which I believe is shared by many, and just wondered if any of you had been through the same thing and found a solution.

My four-month-old had been sleeping through the night - 10 til 8, or so - since he was about 10 weeks old. He wasn't great at napping during the day, and would cluster feed like mad during the evening, but I thought it was a price worth paying.

It got to the stage, though, that he was so overtired by the late afternoon and evening, that I got firmer with his routine, and now have him on a roughly three-hour cycle of eat, activity, sleep. He only ever naps for 40 mins at a time, so has about 2-3 hours sleep during the day.

However, he now hardly sleeps at night. He won't go to sleep before 10 (if I put him down before then, he's wide awake, chatting, and then crying if I leave him too long), then wakes up at 2 and quite often 4 or 5 as well, staying awake for an hour at a time. He wakes up for good at 8.

He is therefore only getting about 10 hours sleep in total in 24 hours.

I am mainly breastfeeding, with a bottle of formula before bed. After a bottle of formula he's as chatty and happy as larry, whereas after bf he still seems unhappy. As i feed every three hours during the day (and did when he was sleeping through), you'd have thought the supposed increase in supply would have happened. He's also bobbing on and off the boob, and getting very distracted with both boob and bottle.

He also had his third big immunisations last Tuesday, which is about when it all started to go wrong.

So, ladies, do I:

1 Extend his naps, as he may be overtired by night time?

2 Reduce his naps, as maybe he's not tired enough?

3 Give him more formula (topping up after a bf) during the day to fill him up?

4 Hope it's 'just a phase'?

5 Punch the next health visitor who says 'growth spurt'?

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herbaceous · 26/11/2009 16:41

Sue, is that you??

You sound like you have it worse than me. Though my hideous lurgy is magnifying everything x10...

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Ineedsomesleep · 27/11/2009 13:37

Herby, glad you got a good night's sleep. Hope you are both feeling a bit better.

Floozie, don't know about the diet sorry, have you tried asking on the feeding forum or asking a bfing counsellor?

flooziesusie · 27/11/2009 15:37

ahhh, Herb! Love, you have no idea how bad it is! I've got a mouth full of ulcers as a result of stress/lack of sleep... I'm not a pretty sight!

I can't even put her down for a nap without her screaming merry hell... it's like when she's tired she's only happy when I'm holding her - happy as larry the rest of the time...

Good point Ineedsomesleep I will nip over to that forum immediately!!

herbaceous · 28/11/2009 13:27

DS seems to have moved into even cuter daytime behaviour, with a new repertoire of coos and chats, and more interest in the world. He has also reduced his naps to 30 mins. Gr7.

It's a good job he's cute, or I may just give up. I've been ill all week, desperately needing to sleep. Last night, he woke up at 1, but DP took charge and gave him a bottle. I had sudden-onset squits (TMI, sorry) which kept me awake until at least 3am, not helped by people talking in the street all night. 'At least DS won't wake up - he's had 8oz of formula', I thought. 4.42 he wakes up, just as I'd dropped off. Gave him the bob, changed his nappy, and he slept until 8.

Tonight I shall go to bed when he does!

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Ineedsomesleep · 29/11/2009 21:05

Did you have a better night last night?

My MW once said to me "formula isn't a magic formula, it doesn't necessarily mean you'll get some sleep". I know a few Mums who have swapped to formula only to regret it as a couple of weeks later they are back in the same situation. Often feeding and sleep are unrelated.

2ChildrenPlusLA · 30/11/2009 20:47

have you seen this?

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