Not one full night yet

[Spoo]

MY four month DS is still not sleeping through. We are suffering and are both very sleep deprived. DH would like to try controlled crying. Is he too young? Does anyone have any advice? He has a very good betime routine and generally goes to sleep okay in the evenings but wakes during the night.

Hi Spoo, my dd has just turned 16 weeks, and still wakes twice a night for a feed - the 5am one often turning out to be when she wishes to start the day (and doesn't give me a huge amount of choice about it) so I totally know how you feel. The other mums I know through antenatal yoga all seem to be having babies who sleep through, and nap perfectly during the day etc. and seem to have some idyllic experience of motherhood. It's wierd how competitive things seem to be with other mums in baby groups and how much pressure you seem to be under to have a baby who's behaving perfectly all the time - I've found it really uncomfortable and don't understand why these groups, which should be for support, often end up being stressing you out more because it seems almost taboo to admit that your baby isn't settling well etc. I've found it really reassuring on mumsnet, because the posters are all really honest and tell you like it is - no facades here. I know it's not fun still not getting any sleep (my dd refuses to sleep during the day, so I can't even catch up on any then!) but I know at some point, when she's ready, she'll sleep through.
Good luck!

Spoo the other mummies are LYING.

They probably reckon they are all back in their pre-pregnancy clothes and shagging three times a week as well...

Just to add to Snafu's reassurance, my dd is nearly 3 and still usually wakes a couple of times a night ... Lots of people with children have kissed goodbye to ever sleeping a straight 8-hour stretch ever again....

I always thought that the 4 month stage was worse than having a newborn! You are worn out and it seems as if they will never sleep through! DD was about 5-6m when she started to sleep through and 9m before she slept through regularly.
The only advice I can give is that when your ds wakes in the night, give him no stimulation at all, keep lights out (even when feeding) and don't talk..not too difficult at 3am when you are half asleep anyway!
Hopefully he will learn to equate night times with boredom and so not bother to wake after a while. Good luck!

complete sympathies, however my 18 month son still doesn't sleep through, got to a point where we just leave a bottle near him, he wakes, drinks and goes back to sleep, early bed is an answer, he sleeps from 6-midnight, drink, midnight to 5 drink, and then 5-9, no daytime nap. hope you find your own way soon, none of the new mums near me have kids who slept through that early. sorry