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DD is currently banging on her door saying OUCH OUCH OUCHY OUCH.

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pavlovthecat · 12/02/2009 19:58

Now, do you think she might have hurt herself, or do you think she is taking the piss pretending?!

Either she sleeps instantly when she goes to bed, or she wakes in the night for hours, or she wakes up really early. Or, recently, a combination of. Last night she went to sleep at 8:45pm, woke at 6am. Slept in car for 45 mins (grrrr) which power napped her and thus she is not asleep, even after a stomp on the beach.
Yesterday she woke at 5am, the day before, 5am.

I am sure I never said I wanted another one did i? If I say it again, slap me.

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pavlovthecat · 12/02/2009 20:00

that did not make sense....i meant 'she either stays awake for ages then sleeps well or she wakes in the night for hours...' Sorry, cant hear myself thinking for all the pounding going on in her room.

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bigTillyMint · 12/02/2009 20:01

Is her door shut?

Can't she just come out and tell you properly what is the matter? (Well, as well as LO can)

thisisyesterday · 12/02/2009 20:04

how old is she?

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pavlovthecat · 12/02/2009 20:05

Yes, she can, but she prefers to bang on the door tonight! If it suits her, and she thinks I wont send her straight back to bed, she could open her door, and quietly stand by the front room door (we live in an apartment) until I say 'come on then, just a quick cuddle' but she knows I wont do that. So, she is trying...'ouch, ouch, ouch, i need help mama, mama, ooooow, ouchy ouchy, oh whats that? Oh baby? go sleep baby.....mamaaaaa (crying), need you mama' and so on.

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morningpaper · 12/02/2009 20:07

Mine are awake forever if they nap

Why not just let her sit with you or cuddle with you under a blanket?

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pavlovthecat · 12/02/2009 20:08

she is 2.6yo. There is not much wrong with her apart from daddy getting her up yesterday when she tried it (apparantly she was not tired ) so she is hoping I will do the same with DH out!

I absolutely adore her, apart her sleep pattern or lack of it is absolutely doing my head in. Honestly, its getting beyond a joke. I need some space.

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 12/02/2009 20:09

My DD is 2.4 and is exactly the same, she is currently bouncing around in cot and playing, and if her door was close enough she would bang on it and shout too, hopefully it's just a phase!

LightShinesInTheDarkness · 12/02/2009 20:09

IGNORE HER! Just don't make it worth her while to make a fuss. She has not hurt herself - she is very, very smart and wants you to give in.

If you must say anything- say it once in a calm voice '[name] i want you to go back to your bed and go to sleep now'

Pour an even bigger glass of wine. And put in earplugs. She is safe in her room.

Good luck - the night is long!!

SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore · 12/02/2009 20:09

I'd just leave her. She will soon wear herself out.

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pavlovthecat · 12/02/2009 20:10

Morningpaper - the problem is I have been with her all day since 6am, and I just need to be. I was with her since 5am til 7pm yesterday and the only way I got space was to go to bed as DH got her up. The day before, 5am - 8pm. I might have to get her up, but I really do not want to.

I did not want her to nap but we drove to Bigbury as DH decided it would be good to go for 45 min drive (maybe 30 mins) instead of up the road, and she fell asleep.

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 12/02/2009 20:12

It is the most wearing thing..my DD fell asleep in car this morning but only for a short while, wouldn't go down for her usual nap and then got so overtired that she would ask to go to cot then cry and whinge when in there, she finally napped at 4.15 I was ready to scream by that time!!! (also on wine) Oh I hear a whinge!

morningpaper · 12/02/2009 20:12

I let mine stay with me if they are awake as long as they are lying down under a blanket or something

So they could lie on the sofa or spare bed and watch me work or read or whatever

But hey ho, some days are tough I know!

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 12/02/2009 20:13

I actually shouted at her today, for only the second time ever (yes I am too soft!)

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pavlovthecat · 12/02/2009 20:13

lightshinesindarkness I have indeed poured the wine. I will give her 2 mins, then give her my stern but not not angry 'get.back.to.bed' voice.

Shesells yes, I beleive eventually she will either sleep or play with her puzzles for a bit. She is clearly getting distracted as the banging stops for a minute or two before starting again!

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 12/02/2009 20:13

Anyway don't mean to hijack, but you have my sympathies, hopefully they will grow out of it

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 12/02/2009 20:15

I think at this age it is like someone turns on their "being a bugger" switch, as I say to my DH, my DD was quite angelic until last week!!

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pavlovthecat · 12/02/2009 20:17

morningpaper - from time to time we do this, but only if I beleive she really is not tired, and will not sleep, and sometimes, it is nice, we put on My Neighbour Totoro, which I love, she snuggles under her duvet.

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pavlovthecat · 12/02/2009 20:19

Fanjo - not hijacking, just continuing a flow of conversation . I shouted at DD today too, and immediately felt awful. Surprisingly, she said to me 'ok mama?' Which, to be honest I was not .

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 12/02/2009 20:20

Thanks, was just aware it could turn into a rant about MY lousy day She is now doing the throwing the toys out of cot trick then crying and saying "dropped it, dropped it"!

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 12/02/2009 20:21

My DD just looks at me blankly when i shout at her, I really don't think there is THAT much understanding of discipline at that age, just lots of patience needed

ellideb · 12/02/2009 20:25

She needs to be going to bed earlier then what she is doing and contrary to popular belief - later bedtimes do not equal later mornings as you can see. How many naps is she having during the day and for how long? She should be having a decent nap in the early afternoon at this age, if she isn't and with her late bedtimes she is becoming overtired and wired and therfore unable to sleep. Fatigue is chronic and is a vicious circle. Try to avoid her napping on the move as it interrupts the rest of her sleep.

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pavlovthecat · 12/02/2009 20:33

ellideb - she dropped her naps for the most part since before christmas. She has the odd nap, and when she sleeps well she sleeps from 7pm - 6:30am, which is fine. She has had a bout of illness in Jan which threw her completely and it has taken a long time to get her sleep back, she had almost done it. almost, was sleeping well 3/5 nights. The monday, it all went to shit.

She does not actually get put to bed this time of night, its not a late night through our choice, she was put to bed at 7:15pm! As you rightly say, she has not been known to sleep later if sleeping later - she generally wakes up the same time/earlier. if she has an afternoon nap these days, she will not sleep at 7pm, and its a viscous circle which has started again .

fanjo - feel free to rant away, we can rant together and drink wine!

she has gone quiet. After I read her Tiger Came to Tea again. She told me she loved me, she love her flower light, she loved daddy, she loved poosecats, she loved the tiger, then she rolled over'. Cried when I shut the door, but...... maybeeee.

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 12/02/2009 20:36

It's not always that easy..my DD is always in bed by 7-730 but then stays up for 1-2 hours.

But..am almost hopeful she is going to sleep now! She will wake at least once in night though!!

ellideb · 12/02/2009 20:40

I see, well I hope you get some rest, wine is a great sound muffler! Love "poosecats" btw!

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pavlovthecat · 12/02/2009 20:48

We have always said poosecats as MIL started saying it about them and it was cute, then DD started saying it too, very cute indeed when she says it!

Fanjo - does she always play? I mean, play, rather than cry? I would not mind if DD would play or look at some picture books (she does this sometimes). If she has not had a nap, she will go straight off. But the nights are also unpredictable right now. Coupled with me starting my period for the first time in years, DH has a cold, so I have been up 5am-6am every day, sometimes with a night wake from time to time. When she was younger she would wake in the morning, and play. I would lie awake and listen to her talking to herself and playing with toys. Now, she opens our door and I wake to her getting into our bed .

She is asleep, with milk and another story.

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