How long do I leave her to scream before I just get her up and put on Totoro again?

[PavlovtheCat]

It will be simpler to link, as I am not getting much response to an old thread. Boring I guess.

But I am at the end of my tether. DD is screaming the place down, hitting herself, the door, tearing her room apart.

She is jetlagged, we have to get her routine back. I feel like I am punishing her. I do not know if she is trying it on as she knows we will cave in eventually, if she is really too awake to sleep, if we should get her up, make her stay.

I am a shit mother.

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fair enough! definately understand that need. glad she is asleep now.

Chasingsquirrels - you are right. I should go to bed, or else I will not manage tomorrow at work, or tomorrow evening with DD.

Thanks for the advice everyone. Much appreciated

melatonin is something we naturally produce so I think it's more a case of getting the dosage correct, and I think for jet leg you need to take it a for days before coming back at the correct time to make it work quickly IYSWIM.

well DD went to sleep at whatever time it was yesterday, 11:50 or something. She woke at 5am, screamed for milk, we obliged (or rather DH did), then that was me and DH awake for ages! She slept until 10am.

She also went to nursery today. We decided not to have her there all day, as she is so tired it would be a bit unfair, she was very very upset about going . She went in at lunch time as DH was off this morning, and stayed until 6pm, no nap and is saying she is sleepy. So we are going to start her routine in half hour - hour with a view of her being asleep by 8:30pm - 9pm. There is no point trying for 7pm, as likely she will just have a nap. We are going to bring it back slowly. (she says, aware she has just jinxed herself and DD will now be up for hours !!!).

Wish us luck eh?

good luck - hope you are nearly there now.

I am reluctant to post...but...she has been asleep since 8:45pm . After a gentle routine of potty, wash, teeth clean, jumping on our bed for 10 mins (she always does this), then 6 books that she selected herself, she slowly wound down. When we first mentioned what time she was going to bed, she became agitated at going to bed, we immediately said it was ok to sleep in mummydaddy bed (as she calls it), but not bedtime yet. And never mentioned it again. We just climbed into bed for stories, she helped put jimjams on and I left her reading Angelina Ballerina. DH and I ate tea, and 20 mins later it was too quiet, DH crept in to look, and fast asleep.

My ears are not pounding, my head is not hurting, I am not letting down my guard for a second! I am fully expecting her to 'nap' not sleep for the full night

it's a start though, a week down the line and it will all be forgotten.
How old is she?

She is 2.5, oh sorry did I not say?!!

I am perfectly happy for 8:45pm! We did not even try before this, and there were no fights or tears, just the usual bed time routine of fusses cuddles stories. Tomorrow, we will try half hour earlier.

you might have done, I didn't scroll back, she just sounded similar in age to my ds2 (2y11m).

almost!

If she is really struggling to adapt could you not move her bedtime forward from 11 pm by 30 minutes or so each night until she is back to normal? It would take 2 weeks max if you do that, and she may actually start to drift back into usual routine much more quickly.

Sorry, only read OP!

Looks like she is settling back into normal routine anyway.

georgimama - yes, we are going to do that...she is asleep now {fingers crossed}. I just have not been able to see an end of the tunnel as the earliest she has gone to bed has been 11pm, and this was with an incredible fight. I would be fine staying up til midnight if she was happier going to bed, but I just could not tell if I was doing the right or wrong thing.

I am likely to be back here going AAAAARGGHH, but for now....shhhh!

No worries Georgimama - I do that all the time and there is a lot of long posts by me to read eh?! .

I just heard a cough in our bedroom and I am praying it is a minor stir...[hides]