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I am desperate to get proper sleep. Please help re dummies.

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mads1 · 20/11/2008 22:35

my dd2 (21 weeks old) has been having a dummy to go to sleep since she was a few weeks old. Only use to have it to fall asleep and then would go 4-5 hours without. But in the last couple of months she is needing it more and more to re settle in the nights. I am now at the point where I am sleeping on her floor next to her cotbed in her room, just because she wakes every 40-50 minutes. . It is easier to just reach up and pop the bloody thing back in rather then running backwards and forwards across the hall and sneaking in and out of doors trying to miss the creaks in the floor boards.

Have thought about going cold turkey but not sure I cuould take that comfort away from her. Maybe a 6 months.

Has anyone any suggestions on how to make this easier please. Or atleast some words of reassurance.

I am really getting to the point where I could cry all day from exaustion(sp?)-can't think anymore!!!!

Would be so easy too if I could co sleep with her but this disturbs dh sleep who is stressed at work right now so he says he needs his sleep.

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pudding25 · 22/11/2008 18:29

This is what we did:

Morning nap in cot day 1 - sat with dd. She cried for about 20 mins then fell asleep.

Lunch nap and afternoon nap - out in car/pram -no crying and no dummy but slept.
Bedtime -I think she cried for about 20 mins while I sat with her then left the room for 5 mins and she fell asleep after about 2mins. During the night, she woke for a feed and went back down without the dummy (but she usually did that anyway).

Day 2 - morning nap -was hard. She wouldn't sleep so after about 35 mins sitting with her and leaving her for only a few mins, we took her out for a walk and she slept.
Lunch nap and afternoon nap -car/pram same as day 1
Bedtime - fell asleep after about 10 mins of sitting with her. Middle of night, same as day 1

Day 3 - morning nap -can't remember but think she fell asleep quite quickly.

Lunch napand afternoon nap -car/pram. This was the worst day as she was grumpy all day without the dummy.
Bedtime - also the worst, took her 45 mins to fall asleep. i sat with her for 20mins, left for 5 mins, sat with her for 10 mins, left for 5 in for 5 and she fell asleep. Thar was horrible.

She started sucking her fingers instead of the dummy from some point on day 1 I think.

Day 4 -totally forgotten about dummy. Went to sleep straight away once she was put in her cot wide awake.

Day 8 -slept through the night for the first time. (with a dreamfeed at 11pm).

Not saying that everyone is now going to have a baby that sleeps through. My dd has never been a particularly hungry baby and I have a feeling that she was waking out of habit and I was feeding her as I presumed she was hungry.

She has contiinued to sleep through the night apart from when she was unwell and the odd other time. I am hoping that this will continue.

mads1 · 22/11/2008 19:22

maria- hi! Are you thinking of trying pudding's and gabster' plans?
Like I said, I think I'll give it ago after hols as dh will be off work then too.

Please keep us posted on your progress! In the mean time good luck and here's to restful nights ahead!!!!!!!!!

Btw-I also tried the no cry solution of trying to take dummy out before falling asleep. Think this was about two months ago. She was not giving it up!!

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Maria2007 · 22/11/2008 21:42

Hi again Mads,

For now I'm not going to try Pudding's & Gabster's plan... because we just moved DS to the cot in his own room (gulp: today is the first night doing this & already he's woken up quite a few times, really unsettled). So one thing at a time...

The gentle removal plan didn't seem to work with my boy, as you say: he wasn't giving it up!! The only times it worked was when we took it out during his deep sleep, but that doesn't count, the idea is to break the suck-to-sleep association, so to do it while they're sleepy but awake. Yeah right... I don't know about other kids, but mine guards his dummy with whatever he's got!!

mads1 · 22/11/2008 23:48

maria - hope your night isn't too bad. Good luck with the move. Just remember we'll come through this and live to see another saga!!

Big supportive hugs in the mean time!!

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Maria2007 · 01/12/2008 10:48

Mads, how's it going? Any news?

News with us- DS is ok with his own room / cot, but is getting more dependent on the dummy by the day. We end up going back & forth & replugging it... & in the end, he comes back to our bed around 2-3 am, just because it's unbearable to keep going back & forth in the cold...

How about you?

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