HELP! How do you sleep when DH snores?

[buttermymuffins]

My DH snores. Nothing new there. I wear earplugs but I still hear it through my Facial bones. It’s awful & has got worse. I get woken up between 5-10 times a night. I never get more than an hour’s sleep straight. I am broken (both my DM & DSF have died in the last 6 months so I am mentally & physically exhausted). We don’t have a spare room so I want to ask what do you do when you have a snoring partner, have no spare room & don’t want to spend your nights on the sofa which would basically turn us into house mates! And what about holidays? Thank you!

He has dental insurance which might cover this - I will get him to check. thank you

We have this problem and I find the Loop earplugs (specifically the sleep ones) very good. But they work best when I put them straight in when I go to bed, before the snoring starts. It dulls the sound enough that it doesn't wake me up. If I'm woken up by the snoring and then put them in I find they're less effective.

Also another one who sleeps in a different room. The snoring coupled with him NEVER putting his phone on silent and it pinging all night long I gave up trying to sleep well in the same bed so now sleep in another room.

So the loop earplugs helped. DH went to the pharmacy & asked what they would recommend (I think me quoting ‘selfish snoring swamp pig’ helped him realise he needed to get his act together!) & he bought some nasal strips. Not sure they did anything as as soon he rolled onto his back he was mouth snoring. I am going to order something to seal his mouth up forever overnight. How does anyone ever have sex again??!! 😂

My friend has a massive sofa and so goes there when her DH is bad. He then wakes up and follows her, she wakes up to him snoring next to her again because he’s ‘lonely’.
i think if you don’t have a spare room I’d suggest finding an alternative for when he is particularly bad, like a roll out bed. DH when he has a cold is unbearable for instance.

Oh wow!! He follows?! 🫣😂

I can’t use ear plugs as I need to be able to hear the kids.

Oh my god. I’d kill him. Selfish dick.

You have my utmost sympathy!! Sleep deprivation is the worst. I think you need to look at creating another sleeping spot if only for a few nights, to either banish him to, or to catch up on sleep yourself.

I can't wear them because they amplify my tinnitus which is usually drowned out by the swamp pig next to me.

When you say you don't have a spare room: what other bedrooms or other household rooms do you have and what are they being used for? Can't any other room in the house be requisitioned? I would be making this a priority until he gets on with seeking help himself.

He sleeps om a pullout bed downstairs. He refuses to do anything about it. It's fuckng miserable - I can still hear him 2 floors up. Utterly fucking miserable.

DH losing weight and sleeping on his side has made all the difference here.
if I didn’t get to sleep first (before) I wouldn’t get a wink either - even with jabs in the ribs, holding his nose, turning him over etc.

My DH is a prolific snorer, to the point we had our next door neighbours ask if we could keep the windows closed as they could hear him!

Problem solved, we now have separate bedrooms, although you say that’s not possible, maybe you need a bed settee in the lounge.

I recorded him one night, he thought it was hilarious, how I didn’t murder him then, I will never know.

When we go on holiday he always stays awake until I am asleep

If you don’t have a spare room then it’s the sofa for him and speak to Dr about? sleep apnea.

Chronic snoring isn’t cured by nose strips or throat spray. He might have sleep apnea or excessive tissue in this throat that needs surgically removing.

I would not share a bed with someone who thinks keeping me awake is some sort of joke.

@buttermymuffins Sex happens before any sleep devices are put on.

I do wonder why snoring hasn't been 'evolutioned' out. Surely all the snorers back in caveman days would be killed by bears due to giving their location away.

Honestly do whatever it takes to sleep separately. Get a fabulous mattress of some kind downstairs and your favourite bedding. Overcome all obstacles and do it! Life changing!

He’s a bit pathetic in lots of ways. No way could I deal with him.
He also snores because he has a massive belly but she doesn’t feel able to push that conversation with him.

I have a signal to DH that he’s snoring and he knows to roll over which works unless his sinuses are bad.

How have I never heard of these things??!

Thank you x

My DP snores and is very slim. Doc years ago said polyps and allergies. Nothing much can be done about polyps but allergy nasal sprays help a lot. I think it depends on the cause of the snoring. When he is going through a bad phase of snoring nothing helps. I tried noise cancelling headphones and listening to music that is designed to help you sleep - kinda helps.

You need to establish likely causes and then try and address that. It's so difficult!

I also try to go to bed before him and sometimes take something to help me sleep e.g. CBD drink

Or hacked to piece by their cavewoman.