At what age do you say "goodnight" and leave them to get themselves off to sleep?

[Fillyjonk]

Am curious really

I know some do it from very very young, and some never do, but I am trying to get a whether there is a developmental jump at some point that makes all this a bit easier

Just before two.

Up until then, I was bfing ds to sleep, so I am not a leave-them-to-cry type, but once he'd stopped going to sleep on me. he was not settling at all if I hung around.

about one yr old

DD is two and can do this most of the time.

I do to both of mine, DD2 def doesn't understand as she is only 3 months.

DD1 is 21 months and I think understands that when we put her in bed give kisses and say goodnight that it is sleeping time. Although to be honest with these light nights she often fannies around for a bit with her teddies, as long as I can't hear her over the moniter I usually let her to get on with it and she goes to sleep when she gets bored.

interesting.....

our ds has done it since about 3 months old?!!!!
long may it last!!

Our DD has from about 8 months, up until then I BFed her to sleep.

ds always did. I never cuddled/rocked/fed/sang to sleep - he just self settled from about 6 weeks.

My sister's kids on the other hand are 2 and 5 respectively and even the 5 yo cannot go to sleep on his own. But imo that's because she used to lie with him until he slept and so he has never been made to settle himself. the words rod and back spring to mind..

I honestly cant remember!
DS1 is 2 now and he has been going off to sleep on his own for ages though.
DS2 is 3 months and no where near going off on his own

So it must be somewhere between those two ages

I can't remember but probably 12 weeks or so
Both of mine are thumb suckers so that helps

From 2 - 3 years DS needed someone with him but now goes off to sleep by himself

DS1 about 7-8 months, after controlled crying basically.

DD self-settled from birth really, took me a couple of weeks to realise and encourage it.

DS2 again from very early, birth or soon after.

I think most of them can, from the beginning, but sleep associations are quickly made and by the time desperate, sleep-deprived parents get round to thinking about self-settling it's too late, the ability is gone, and they have to relearn it.

Can't help but wonder whether you've had better luck in the easy baby stakes than your sister has, wannabe

DS 11 months and waaaaaaaay off self-settling.

Straight away after last bottle/BF as I recall. Right from the earliest age.

It took 3 and a half yrs with ds.

dd fell asleep on her own from
day 1

both my ds did it from arond 13 weeks, the did have a few times here and there where we needed to seetle them but very rare, the do night cry either ( couldn't do that)

From day one with DD, only a few weeks later with DS.

Can't remember with DD1 probably round about 7-8 months.

DD2 with a little help at 13 months.

6 mths - took about a month/6 weeks - I would put her down and sit next to her, then each week move away slightly until I made it to the door.

One of the best things I ever did - she's 3 now and bedtime takes 30 minutes and that includes teeth, long story and lots of cuddles.

Mind you I knew once I was back at work, I would have to work each evening when she was in bed (i teach)

I never left her to cry - i'm too soft

DD2 has just started to go down without crying in the last month (she's just about 18 mo).

This evening she waved goodnight and laid down. I check on them about half hour after putting them to bed. This evening dds were sitting up, each reading a book. (they share a room)

We have varying levels of success, for instance, dd2 wouldn't settle last night because dd1 wasn't there.

I used to leave her to cry if it's that tired grumbly cry.

We did it from about a year old iirc and carried on doing it until she turned three - then it all went horribly wrong and she wouldn;t settle unless someone stayed with her. That carried on until about 3.8. Now she's 3.11 and settles easily by herself again. I have Reclaimed my Evenings [happy sigh]

in the day - no chance! at night from 3 months or so?

I did it from weeks old. Even though I was still breastfeeding. But I fed him a bit before I put him down. Ds didn't cry. I am sure that he didn't comprehend at that age, that it meant 'go to sleep', but the thing is, he just did.
I don't know if there is a developmental step. Just the nature of the baby/child plus what they are used to ??