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Those of you who didn't to any sleep "training" -- when did DC child start to sleep through?

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glimmer · 19/05/2008 21:17

DS is 6 month old and co-sleeping. I decided not to do any sleep training for now and he wakes very often in the night. Since we are co-sleeping I am a bit hazy about it, but maybe 3-4 times. Normally he drinks, goes back to sleep until 4am, when he starts crying a lot and needs settling. This goes off and on until 6 or 7am when we get up.

Thise of you who didn't do anything sleep training or encouragement, when did DC start to sleep longer? Thanks!

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tissy · 19/05/2008 21:21

what do you mean by "sleep through"? If you mean "not wake up after put in bed till a sensible time in the morning" then age 2!

Everything that goes before is a blur!!

Indith · 19/05/2008 21:23

For the first time, around 5/6 months he slept 12 hours a night.

Then we moved house. We do not talk about what happened next. We did have to sleep train then for want of a better expression for feeding not working, cuddling not working, co sleeping not working!

FrannyandZooey · 19/05/2008 21:24

you don't want to know

malfoy · 19/05/2008 21:25

DS 6 mnths; DD 2yrs

cmotdibbler · 19/05/2008 21:26

DS started sleeping 7-6.30 aged 17 months. From 9 months he was waking twice, until about 12 months when it was once a night.

I did use the No Cry Sleep Solution to get him to go to sleep on his own, aged 11 months, but nothing else.

saadia · 19/05/2008 21:26

ds1 around 12mths, ds2, about 7mths.

DontlookatmeImshy · 19/05/2008 21:29

DS1 slept through sometime between 1.5 and 2yrs. Everyone else in my PN group did sleep training of some sort. But now my ds sleeps through consistantly whereas they all keep having problems. Don't know whether there's a link or not.

IdrisTheDragon · 19/05/2008 21:31

DS - about 12 weeks (sorry)

DD about 2 years

harpomarx · 19/05/2008 21:32

about 13 months glimmer and it was definitely because I stopped feeding at night (we were still sharing a bed). Maybe that is sleep training but it wasn't harsh, just found the strength to say no, she didn't kick up a fuss and started sleeping through.

Booboobedoo · 19/05/2008 21:33

DS was abou five months as I recall.

Stopped co-sleeping when he was four months, as we were all waking each other up.

I slept on a camp-bed in his room for the first couple of nights, but then moved back to our bed.

I missed him at first, but he now does 11 hours. (He's 14 months).

No controlled crying, no PU/PD.

I still rock him to sleep most nights.

I'm sure most of it is just down to luck, tbh.

sophiewd · 19/05/2008 21:34

12 weeks, with a dream feed when we went to bed, sorry.

harpomarx · 19/05/2008 21:35

also noticed same as dontlook - i know many mums who sleep trained their dcs and they seemed to go through various phases of waking up for different reasons after periods of sleeping through.

like dontlook's ds, dd now sleeps brilliantly and we are finally (but only recently) in our own beds!

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glimmer · 19/05/2008 21:35

Thanks for your messages. Should have been more specific, what I mean with "through" but a stretch of 5 hours or more would be a good start. Dontlookatme very interesting, I wouldn't mind getting up once but it is much more often than that. Just can't get myself to do anything about it, especially since I returned to work.

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glimmer · 19/05/2008 21:38

Harpomarx - very interesting. I thought it was unrealistic to co-sleep but not BF. Did it take a lot of strength do deny boob?

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fishie · 19/05/2008 21:40

0-6m cosleeping, feeding every 2 hours
6-9m less restless in evening but up all the time
9-12m moving into cot and waking a couple of times a night
12-18m waking once or so
22m into own bed own room

is 3 now, often arrives in my bed at some point (returned to own room if before 2am) and always wakes up at 6am aargh. but not a problem with wakefulness at night so i am content.

harpomarx · 19/05/2008 21:50

not at all glimmer, hv suggested it after I admitted I was tired of waking up in the night. It can't have taken much strength 'cos I have none at night, that's why i never bothered sleep training or putting her in cot and still often cuddle her to sleep.

if i remember rightly it only took a day or two, that was also the trigger for her to begin weaning herself I think.

CristinaTheAstonishing · 19/05/2008 21:52

DS slept through at 3 years 2 months. DD1 at about 2. DD2 is 7 months old and wakes up twice a night.

Kitsilano · 19/05/2008 21:58

DD1 - 3.5 months
DD2 - just starting to sleep through at 6 months - but not consistently

havalina · 19/05/2008 22:41

Didn't do any sleep training as such, just went with the flow.

We used to cuddle dd to sleep until she used to fight so so much I twigged erm she probably didn't like it (4 months). She started sleeping through (12 hours) most of the time at about 5 months, strangely after a d&v bug. Didn't do any training just happened (still had the odd 2am screaming fit mind).

Ds we used to put down in his basket/cot awake from birth, he woke every 3 hours like clockwork. Can't quite remember when he slept through first. We didn't do anything to encourage it, it was just a gradual thing, but must of been about 5/6 months when he was taking more feed at once ifyswim.

I don't know if there are different patterns if you co-sleep and breastfeed as I suppose the relationship is so symbiotic. Even if the baby slightly wakes your boobs are there, ripe for the access lol.

but then again I'm sure it's down to the child's own needs. My super sleeper dd is now night waking a lot at 4 (fun,fun,fun)

FAQ · 19/05/2008 22:43

DS1 - sleep training at 6 months as he was HORRENDOUS

DS2 - slept through of his own accord at 3 weeks old (I woke up shitting myself as I honestly didn't believe that a baby could a) sleep through on their own b) sleep through so young)

DS3 - slept through of his own accord (regularly) from about 7 months, properly from about 9 months.

freakypenguin · 19/05/2008 22:46

8 months for DS1

don't know yet for DS2!

suzi2 · 20/05/2008 05:43

DS reliably went through 7-6 from about 15 months. It was like something switched in him. Stopped feeding him at 12 months so maybe that's why. Now 2.9 and grumbles a lot through the night and wakes us, but isn't up IYSWIM.

DD is now 15 months and is sometimes going through but more often than not she's up a couple of times. By going through I mean 8pm until 4:40am when she gets up.

suzi2 · 20/05/2008 05:44

Oh, have done loads of sleep training with DD to get her to go to sleep on her own. It's still intermittent though.

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glimmer · 20/05/2008 08:19

Hmm there is almost something like a pattern, isn't there? a lot of DC seem to get up about twice until they are 18 months. Will persevere. Thanks for your answers!

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Philomytha · 20/05/2008 08:48

DS started sleeping about six hours at a stretch by around six months, though not regularly every single night (this was with cosleeping, bf on demand and no training). He's 2.6 and still doesn't sleep through, though he does now go to sleep on his own in his cot at bedtime (with a struggle), then wakes around 3am and comes into bed with us.