When did you move baby into their own room?

[Lizbiz89]

My 6 month has never been a good sleeper, however his sleep is now getting worse and worse. I think this may be down to the fact he's a light sleeper and my husband and I are waking him up. I'm also ebfing him so this is what's made me nervous about moving him as he still wakes quite a bit for feeds. Would love to know peoples experiences? Also did you sleep train or not? I really don't want to as I don't feel comfortable with leaving my baby to cry but not sure how to transition.

2years. We had to wait for us to move house for her to have her own room. Around 1 year we moved her cot to one side of our room so she wasn't as close to our bed.
We haven't sleep trained. She has poor sleep but this is due to silent reflux and food allergies. When these are under control her sleep is much better.

After 1 she would start in her cot and then we would cosleep once she woke up. If her reflux was bad she would only sleep using my face as a pillow. We moved her into a bed at the same time as moving her into her own room and this made a big difference she never settled well in her cot and she was better with a pillow and duvet with PJ's than sleepsuits and sleeping bag which she learnt to escape at 18months and would often strip herself down to a nappy and then wake up cold!

She's nearly 4 now and can sleep through the night but if any of her needs aren't being met - too hot, too cold, reflux, feeling unwell, allergic reaction she wakes up. It's a challenge at times to work out what it is. For me something is has always been difficult the cause of poor sleep last week isn't necessarily the cause of poor sleep this week

We moved my DD just after 6 months. She went through a phase of poor sleep around 5-6 months, which got much better after we moved her. Also EBF, but was down to just 1 or 2 feeds a night by then. We didn't really sleep train properly, she is a thumb sucker so always self settled fairly well. When she didn't, we would go in if she cried, calm her down by either picking up or patting her back but then left the room as soon as she was calm. Then repeat if needed.

You could try moving her and see how it goes? As you say she might be disturbed by you and might sleep better on her own.

My first, 18 months. Sleep was never amazing and sod traipsing around the house in the middle of the night when he could just sleep with me. Second is 16 months and still in with me, we’re moving house in the next few months and I’ll transition her to her own room when we do. Never sleep trained, you can’t train sleep.

Moved DS at about 6 months, with a comfortable chair in the room for feeding. I've always been more comfortable feeding in a chair rather than sitting on the bed though.

We made him a lovely room He chose to move in to it aged 7 and still visits us a few times a week and we wake up to find him crawling o between us !

Never had them in with us atall. They were in their own room from the start

First was 6 months as per guidelines.

Second was going to be the same but i liked him being in with us so was around 9/10 months when he outgrew the next to me in the end

The day we got home from hospital with the first one

second wouldn’t sleep till 3 years old

third shared room with her sister when she came home from hospital

About seven or eight months. We had started waking each other up, one way or another. We didn’t sleep train, he’s always been a good sleeper but we were relatively ‘soft’ (feeding to sleep, holding his hand while he drifted etc).
We’ve been through phases where we could just pop him in his bed and leave and he’d take himself off to sleep, and phases where we’d basically have to commando crawl out once he was fast asleep but frankly I’m happy to go with the flow.
He’s two and a half now and I don’t mind holding his pudgy little hand as he drifts off because I know in a few short years he’ll be telling me to get out of his room 😂

They were in our bed until the next baby came along (so 16 months) then they settled well in their own room. The next baby also stayed (off and on) until the sibling came along 3 years later!!!

About three months when I stopped bf. This was twenty years ago now. We all slept great.

Day one. Sorry but no way did we want baby in with us (and it wasn't the recommendation back then that they be in with you). I exclusively breast fed. So, routine from first day. Both my kids were put down when still awake but sleepy, lights out and off I went to spend the evening childfree with my husband. No sleep training required.
My daughter had reflux and it was a bit harder to get her to settle, but once she tuned three months it was fine. I half woke them for sleepy feed about 11, then when very small they woke up about 2-3am, then back to sleep until morning.

First was about 9 months when he dropped feeds, but he was only on his own until about midnight then one of us slept in a nearby bed until he was about 18 months (we took turns) as he still needed feeds overnight.

Second I still cosleep with, 13 months. We're moving her into a cot by our bed first and then I suspect like the first it'll probably be about 18-2 years. She is also EBF so I suspect it'll take longer as there is no way I'm moving around at night (our bedrooms are split over a couple of floors).

If they are 6 months and cluster feeding then it might be a grow spurt or sleep regression?

I'm anti-sleep training personally as felt they land anyway, and can't understand why you would want to train a child not to cry. All sleep train babies wake up between sleep cycles too, as it's natural, they just don't wake their parents...

The thing not to ignore too is personality - some babies are just good sleepers. Some babies are not. Some babies want to be held at night and know their carer is nearby. Some babies want space/move around or use a thumb or dummy.

All babies are different - but an independently sleeping baby might be because that's what also suited them. Sleep training is not right when the baby isn't happy about it.

Mine are only 1 and 4 years old. I moved them both into their own rooms at 3 months. Me and husband snore terribly and I don’t think that helps them sleep. Also when they were in with us I’d be woken by every rustle. I found we all slept better in our own rooms.
Both sleep 12 hours at night. One year old has occasional bad night, maybe once a month. To be honest the only bad nights my 4 year old has had was when she had chicken pox.
We did some sleep training with both of them at points.

I moved my DS into his own room at 6 months, he's almost 7 months.
It's been going quite well.
We had similar to what you're going through with lots of wake ups in the next to me, because of us moving around in our sleep & waking him.
He doesn't sleep through the night yet but will do longer stretches between feeds & occasional wake up for dummy.
I do miss him being next to me but we are all getting a better nights sleep!
When DS turned 5 months I started letting him nap in his nursery during the day to get him used to the room & watched him on the baby monitor.
Hope you get on okay 👍

My first around 6 weeks, second around 3 weeks. They settled and slept better in their own rooms. Health Visitor was horrified with the first, so I didn't tell them when we did it with the second lol it worked for us and they have both been really good sleepers all their lives to be honest 🙂

A few days before six months as we couldn't stand it any longer! We were disturbing her. She was disturbing us with grunts, farts etc.

It was SO much better immediately and everyone slept a lot better. She hadn't needed a night feed for ages so it didn't affect feeds, just sleep.

Just over 2 and she's now 3 and still comes in with us around 2am

My first was about 6 months, he was absolutely fine, until he could climb out his cot and get into our bed he never left, he’s 3 and has just started going to his own bed again this week. My 8 month old still isn’t in his own room, I’m working on getting him to sleep all night and have had some success with just giving him water in a bottle over night and he has a couple of sips and goes back to sleep when he wakes. He is now sleeping quite well with the odd wake up, he has done a couple of 10 hour sleeps this week so I think the water seems to be working as he’s getting out the habit of eating during the night.

Thanks for the replies. I tried my ds in his cot last week and it didn't go well at all 🤦‍♀️. Just screamed as soon as I put him down so I have left it for now. Will try him again next month when he's a bit bigger. I'm not a fan of the cio method personally as I can't bear to hear them cry. Not judging anyone who's done it as I know we're all in the trenches and we need to do anything for some sanity.

Don’t worry about rushing him into his own room. We didn’t move my ds until he was 8 or 9 months and it was only then because we basically waited until he was outgrowing his next to me cot, and had started kneeling up at the sides of it so meant he’d be safer in a high sided cot (and that cot wouldn’t fit in our room).
The transition was super easy, he was clearly ready for the move by then.

After a really rough few months of 30 minutes sleep at a time, we moved our daughter into her own room at just under 6 months ; we were all disturbing each other (she’s still a light sleeper now aged 3). We also did sleep training- leaving her for 2 min intervals at a time (Ferber method). It worked instantly and we all had better sleep. I remember the next day how happy she was, it was like having a different baby.

Our twins are due in a few weeks and we will try to use a feeding schedule from day 1. We’ve booked a sleep consultant to come when they’re 2 months old and will just do whatever she tells us regarding own room etc (though they will stay with each other as a minimum)!

#1 &# 2 around 6 months
#3 was about 8 wks

I moved my babies into their rooms when they were continuously sleeping through which was 6 months, but they were used to having their naps in their cots so the transition was relatively smooth and they were happy to be in their cot.

To get them sleeping through, I slowly reduced how long I fed them for when they woke up during the night, I don’t know if there is a name to the method but it’s safe to do so and it worked with both of them. Once they were sleeping in their own rooms, it would be rare they would wake, but DH would go rather than me as they’d want milk if they saw me, so he would just stroke their backs or cuddle them until they were happy to go back down.

I also didn’t feed to sleep from the off, I fed them at the start of their wake windows rather than at the end, so they learnt to fall asleep on their own, it’s about finding that balance between being tired but not too tired that they wouldn’t be be happy to be put in their cots.