When did you move baby into their own room?

[Lizbiz89]

My 6 month has never been a good sleeper, however his sleep is now getting worse and worse. I think this may be down to the fact he's a light sleeper and my husband and I are waking him up. I'm also ebfing him so this is what's made me nervous about moving him as he still wakes quite a bit for feeds. Would love to know peoples experiences? Also did you sleep train or not? I really don't want to as I don't feel comfortable with leaving my baby to cry but not sure how to transition.

6 weeks when she started sleeping through. Was the norm 25 years ago.

At about 6 months my ebf son was waking up all night long and I realised it was us waking him. So I moved him on a whim when he's was just over 6 months and he immediately went to just waking once a night for a feed.
You could always bring him back if it doesn't help

There’s no right or wrong, but you probably need to realign your expectations if you are against sleep training.

There are lots of gentle sleep training methods (I don’t know anyone who has used CIO) but any form of change to routine is going to cause a little upset. Being 7 months, or 8 or 9 isn’t going to change that and if you can’t bear it, you’re going to have to prepare for a few years of broken sleep.

@MalibuBarbieDreamHouse that's a great idea because my ds still wakes for feeds. I've tried other methods to get him back to sleep but the boob is the only way he'll drift back off properly. So I'll drive to reduce his feeds

@Elmo67 I'm not against sleep training, just not a fan of leaving them to cry, especially when they're still tiny at 6 months. But I get that it works for other parents.

7 months. We didn't sleep train, I'd go through and settle him whenever he cried. He eventually started sleeping all the way through and entertaining himself when he woke up at 16 months.

About two months - whenever she grew out of the Moses basket.

The thing is, babies are supposed to wake frequently and be light sleepers as it’s a protective measure against SIDS. So I personally think trying to force long deep sleeps away from any other humans isn’t really working with how babies are designed (which is why the guidance is 6 months at an absolute minimum). Obviously if someone has a baby that naturally sleeps long stretches then that’s fine but I still think having their mum near them is how we would have evolved for millennia so makes sense to me to keep doing that. I stopped bed sharing fully at age 3 though which I appreciate might not be for everyone! Didn’t sleep train, my son woke frequently until eventually he didn’t (got better from age 2 and was 12 hours a night from age 3). Doing nothing and waiting for sleep to consolidate into big long chunks is always an option even though sleep trainers trying to get your money will tell you otherwise!

From when we returned from hospital so 5 days old. DH was working so I BF in DD's room at night so he could sleep. Was never an issue.

5 months. Similar situation; we were waking her up. Moved her in to her own room at 5 months (she’d been napping in there since birth), and she slept for 6 hours at a time minimum immediately. We then used to put her down at about 730, get her up for a last bottle at 1030, then she’d sleep right through to 6.

Do it, you won’t regret it.

Note: ive never been a velcro mum so never had the ‘can’t be more than 2’ away from my baby incase they randomly choke even though there’s no reason why they would’ paranoia.

Just turned 5 months, no sleep training. We had gone from sleeping 10+ hours to waking for 2 feeds (4 month regression and I know compared to some babies it’s not bad).

He went to bed at 7pm with the monitor over the next to me and it was getting to the point we were disturbing him when we went to bed, my partner snoring and going for 500 pees a night was disturbing him as well so I just thought sod it might as well give it a go.

First night he took 40 mins to fall asleep (not much crying just chatting, a bit of whining and needing some help to sleep) then less and less over the next week. He weaned himself off the night wakes after around 3 more weeks, he’s almost 8 months now and sleeps 7-7 in his own room & naps in his own room. Best thing we did for everyone honestly

We had a terrible sleeper for the first year, she was also EBF. The first 8 weeks I had little sleep as I was trying to get her into a moses basket, at that point I gave up and co slept in my bedroom for another month. I then decided it would be better if I co slept with her in her bedroom so at least she was used to her room. We ended up getting a floor bed which was amazing - I could sometimes manage to ninja roll off and have an hour downstairs of the evening. It was just so easy co sleeping with the night wakes when bf! At around 10.5 months sleep got worse, we were waking each other up, so a month later I tried to sneak out into my room. It was absolutely fine, it was me who was more bothered than her! But I think this gentle approach worked well. I've just had my second baby and I am hoping to do a similar method if it works with this one!

We moved our little girl to her own room at around 10 months.
Until then, once she outgrew her next to me crib, she slept in her big cot next to our bed. She woke very frequently in the night at one point and we were beside ourselves with tiredness. I couldn’t bear the thought of traipsing across the landing to her bedroom. So, initially she slept with one side of her big cot off and her mattress pushed up tightly next to mine (made exactly level). We used a rolled up beach towel on the far side of the cot mattress to ensure that there wasn’t a gap that she could fall into. Once she was then able to stand, we lowered the mattress and replaced the side of the cot, but kept the cot next to our bed as I was feeding around three times in the night. Once this reduced to twice, we decided to make the move. I too didn’t feel it was right (for me and my baby) to use sleep training methods that involved her getting distressed. In hindsight I simply don’t think she was ready to sleep without me nearby. However, I am fortunate to have an incredibly supportive and efficient partner, and also not yet have returned to work. Months five to nine were extremely hard for us sleep wise. We muddied through and I don’t regret not ‘sleep training’, as I didn’t feel that I could fulfil a sleep training programme and breast feed on demand as I wanted to.

3 years.

7 months. I then bought a single bed to go in her room and followed her in there because she was awake so much.

I don't believe in velcro mums. It's the babies that are sticky.
It's not about "choking paranoia" though. Though are lots of reasons why sleeping near your baby is positive for those that can stand to.

Next to me crib until 6 months
Cosleeping until about 13 months
Then transitioned to a Montessori style floor bed. She hated her cot with a vengeance and never, ever slept in there. The floor bed worked well.

We moved ds into his room at 8 months, he was a terrible sleeper. He was back in with us within 48 hours & stayed until he was ready to move into a bed. He was still having bottles at night at 18 months despite me dream feeding him around 11.00pm. Later, we found out he was autistic which linked with the poor sleep. Was sleeping all night in his own bed by 2.5.

My first was 5 and second is still in with us. he's almost 4.

My daughter is 4 in a few weeks and sleeps with me, won’t sleep on her own and it’s fine by me as she sleeps fine.
i have a 12 week old and won’t be in his own room to at least 1 (if he wants to that is)
I don’t believe in sleep training, and I’m gob smacked so many parents put newborns in their own rooms

I think a lot of breastfeeding mums do it later. My baby woke loads during teething and jt was so handy having her in my bed. My baby's 9 months and maybe thinking of transitioning once she's one or so.

3 months. Best decision ever she's slept through ever since then and she's 20 months.

Thanks for all of the replies. This is actually my 3rd baby but my first ebf baby which has been a complete game changer tbh. With my 1st two moving them was so much easier because they weren't reliant on only me for comfort so my dh could help out. He's also still currently waking for 1-3 feeds a night which would be a nightmare to have to get out of bed for. Think I might leave him in with us a little longer whilst he's still feeding so much.

Although a bit earlier than advised, I moved my son into his own room at 5 months for this exact reason, he was such a light sleeper even me pulling the duvet back over me after putting him down asleep would wake him and it would be back to square one with rocking etc. The first night I got virtually no sleep as I was watching the monitor like a hawk but after that we all got better sleep. May also be worth getting a white noise machine if that light as will muffle household noises for naps etc.

My son also struggled to self settle at night would need rocking to sleep, and it got to a point where I would rock him to sleep put down and wake and have to start again etc, so we did sleep train around 6 or 7 months, we done Ferber where you leave for 1 min then 2 mins etc, going in at set intervals to reassure etc, the first night took a couple of hours, second 1 hour, then 30 mins then 10 mins by night 5 he was putting himself to sleep with no crying and has done ever since, now 3.5years. Ferber should work within a week for most I believe.

I was quite hesitant to move DD1 and expected a real battle, but we moved her just after 6 months and sleep got better for all of us. It was harder work to get her down initially (i.e. to get out of the room), but the sleep stretches at night were longer. We woke each other up less, and the distance meant she didn’t smell/want milk every time she went into lighter sleep. It also gave us space for her to settle herself more when she fussed, which was probably just transitioning between sleep cycles, whereas in the room with us any fussing got immediate attention and was probably more disruptive.

We didn’t specifically sleep train, just didn’t rush in if she fussed or cried unless she looked very awake and distressed on the monitor. If she still mostly looked asleep, we’d give her a few minutes before going in to comfort as again, sometimes it was just her fighting her way between sleep cycles. Also if it wasn’t ‘time’ for her to feed, DP would be the one to go so there was a growing distinction between comfort and food.

1-3 night feeds is good for that age I’d say! Doesn’t sound like you need to change much if it’s working for you