2 year old won't sleep in his own room!

[Amysullivan]

For the past few months my two year old has been waking up in the night crying and won't settle until he is in our bed but for the past week or so he won't even go to sleep in his cot never mind stay in there all night! I'm happy to try the crying it out method to the gradually moving further away from him method but what do i do when he wakes up crying at 1/2/3 am?
He is will sleep the whole night through if he is in our bedroom so its hard not to let him win just to get a better night sleep 🙈
any advice would be great

We either take it in turns to co-sleep in a single bed with our two year old or all together in our bed, either really, from the first wake up. Still hasn't slept through the night so it's s nightly thing here.. whose bed is it anyway... I don't mind they're only little for so short a time.

We co-slept, anything to get a quiet night for everyone. They had their own room but rarely used it.

Its not a matter of "winning" really. Its biologically normal for small children to sleep next to their parents, it won't last forever. But
My 2 yo does the same thing. We find offering him warm milk and a lullaby on his night light can help a lot

Would really recommend a floor bed for 2 year old. Let him pick it/new bedding so it's exciting and he has a level of autonomy. If he wakes up he can come and find you/get into your bed with less disruption. Or a parent can lie with him in his bed until he falls back to sleep, then creep back out. I think bouts of unsettled sleeping is pretty standard in two year olds. I'd be happy if the falling asleep at bedtime is good. Also check for teething because molars come in around 2ish and are super painful. They're so bad at articulating pain, which is worse at night, so might be worth trying a calpol dose to see if it's something like that going on.

“Our bed”. That’s for grown adults, right? Who sleep together because it’s comforting.

But the tiny human can’t have such comfort, is expected to sleep alone and will be left on his own to cry it out until he learns.

😢

Presumably this is baby number 4?

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/sleep/4393338-4-5-year-old-won-t-sleep

How did you find that? 🤣

Not tricky.

Sorry I should have said that I would have him in my bed forever but I am pregnant with baby number 4 and worried he'll be in our bed with a newborn waking him up all night 🙈
Luckily the now 6 & 8 year old sleep in their own beds all night now and he is baby number 3.