9 month old has never slept through!

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My little boy has just turned 9 months. He’s perfectly happy and healthy but he still wakes at least twice in the night. It feels so lonely when everyone else’s little ones are sleeping through. It’s always been “wait until he’s no longer a new born”, “wait until the 4 month sleep regression passes”, “wait until he starts solids” but here we are. I go back to work in 2 months to a pretty full on, full time job and I’m so worried about sleep! Anyone else in the same boat, or been in the same boat?

Me! I'm not going to say when my little one started to sleep through - partly because I can't remember - but it was well, well over a year in. Everyone in my nct group had sleeping babies and mine was up half the night! Before you know it things will change though. It is only for a short time even if it feels awful and is exhausting. Don't compare with others - you will go mad. Also 'sleeping through' means different things to different people! Solidarity.

I really feel for you OP. My friend had the same issue, she waited until he was 18 months old. Finally got a sleep consultant who solved the problem in two nights. Best £300 she ever spent. I know it’s bad timing with pay reducing at the end of mat leave, but I would be really keen to solve this before returning to work.

This is biologically normal, op. Don't worry about it. Most babies don't sleep through, and the first year is very up and down. My first woke constantly as a baby. We coslept and it saved me. At 1, we went down to two wake ups. 17 months, he slept through on his own and has been a great sleeper since.

My second wakes a hell of a lot more (he's just turned 10 months). Cosleeping is saving me again lol. But I know this is all normal and one day, he'll sleep through :)

Sorry to say but my 14 month old still doesn’t sleep through the night and is up at least twice

2 years for DS. I was back at work full time by the time he was 8 months. Don't know how I did it now.

Who knows, yours might sleep through next week.

Please try not to compare to others! I know that’s easier said than done.

Im sure mine isn’t the reply that you want but my DS has just turned 3 (years, not months 😅) and has only slept through the night about 5 times in his life. Thats me classing “through the night” as no wake ups after I go to bed at 10.30pm until 5am. Mine also stopped napping completely at about 20 months.

Best friend with DS very close in age to mine has had a 7pm-7am sleeper since hers was 12 weeks old 😂 and he still has at least an hours nap daily.

Going back to work is a big adjustment. It all feels a bit daunting but you really will manage. Do you have a partner to help with night wakes?

Mine didn't sleep through until they were 3, sorry to report!

My youngest woke hourly for 11 months (yes hourly) then at 11 months started sleeping through the night. It was absolutely awful but somehow I made it through and I never left her to cry. She's 20 months now and her nights are hit and miss so she has regressed a bit but still so much better than those early months. I hope things improve soon op I know how shit it can be.

@Inyourwildestdreams I feel you. We're 3 & 3/4. Sometimes DD sleeps through, sometimes not. The worst wake ups are between 5 & 6 as hit and miss if she goes back to sleep. This too will pass. I co-sleep and went back to work at 16 weeks. She dropped regular naps long before 2.

My LO is just shy of 10 months! Whilst he has had a period of sleeping through, this was very brief and now wakes regularly. Its so hard but you are not alone ❤️

We sleep trained at about that age with both and they have both slept through ever since.

Ferber worked best on DS1, gradual retreat for ds2

@Hall84 it can be really difficult. DH works offshore for 8-12 weeks at a time so it’s just DS and I here dealing with the lack of sleep 😅

DS wakes up at 5am every day. I don’t even set a work alarm anymore as I know he’ll wake me anyway 😊 I find wake ups between 3-4am the hardest. I struggle with sleep myself and take a long time to get back to sleep so often if DS wakes up between 3-4am, that’s just me up for the day! X

My 28 month old has never ever slept through and still wakes up numerous times

My daughter never slept through until she went to school and we enrolled her lots of sport type activities.
She’s now nearly 12 and loves her sleep!

My daughter has only just started sleeping through and she is 4.

Currently in my DDs room trying to settle her again. She’ll probably wake at least once more tonight. She’s 20 months old. She has slept through the night on a few occasions. So there is a small glimmer of hope. Just a tiny small one… it’s all that will get me through the day tomorrow after getting 5 hours of sleep again.

My 5,3 and 2 year-olds still wake up a fair amount, but that's not in the same way a baby wakes. So they've never slept through but we get enough sleep, they don't take holding and shushing and milks etc to go back to sleep, just a bit of a cuddle or Pat or some reassurance. I shouldn't say it really but I do think after a number of years you just get used to it

Mine still woke twice a night at that age, one a night between 12-18 months them mainly slept through the night. I actually found some comfort in making a bottle at 3am and seeing the lights on in the neighbours kitchen because they had a baby the same age 😆

Yes, DS1 didn't sleep through at that age, and got up hellishly early. And didn't nap unless in the car/moving pram. A brief encounter with the husband resulted in a second pregnancy, and at around 12/13 months I was dead on my feet. 1 baby, pregnant, working.....

I did the gradual retreat sleep training. I did it VEEEERRRRRRRY gradually. The baby went from literally having never self settled/just fallen asleep, numerous wake ups to falling asleep in hus cot with his Teddy and music thing going, at 6.30pm ish and sleeping through til 4am. Then I'd take him into my bed, and he'd have a quick feed and sleep for another couple of hours. It was amazing. It did take a good 2 months to get there.

Yeah, same here. I survived on caffeine and sugar for the first five years of his life.

He's 13 now and I have to wake him up every morning. Hang on in there.

My 14 month old has never slept through. Best I've had is 3 wakings. Eldest wasn't much better.

This is normal. My 12 month old hasn't either and I don't expect it to change for a few months at least

9 months is so young.

my eldest slept through when she was about 2. Then at 2.5 we did potty training and she was waking in the night to wee. That went on for months.

My youngest is almost 5 and has only slept through a couple of times.
most of my friends have similar experiences.

Just a bit of solidarity, our son is 15 months old and still wakes 2-3 times a night for a feed and re settle. I work full time in the NHS. A lot of friends wonder how we're doing it and laugh (kindly!) when I say I had a good 3-4hr stretch the night before 🤣

Can't comment with any helpful advice, only my own experience. Mines 2 and a half and doesn't often sleep through. I gave up trying to figure it out. She starts the night in her cot bed and usually bring her in with me early hours as the aim for me is sleep and I get the most this way.

I was a terrible sleeper until 5 years old. Payback!